Hi. I hope you've read other threads in this section and are at least aware of how blunt some of the advice can be. it's well meant, with the object being to help you reach the people you want to reach and then intrigue them enough to say yes, but...blunt.
So, first, your photos. I really like the b & w one of her in the shirt and the swimsuit photo is attractive too, but you really need some photos of both of you with your clothes on. There's a sticky at the top of this section that outlines a method of positioning yourselves in a way that is appealing to everyone, not just men.
Your tagline is both banal and, if your toggles are set properly, incorrect, since you're also looking for single women. Try for short and clever if you can and don't be too informative, since you want people intrigued enough to open your profile rather than say 'whelp, I know what they want' and move on.
In Looking For, your first paragraph is basically okay, although if you are looking for single women as well, please mention them. Just use complete sentences and try to condense it a little (like local instead of your city and state). And do address your reduced interest in full swap as part of saying what you hope to do with these people other than purely social activities. I'm not suggesting you trot out your every fantasy, just give an overview. The second paragraph is useful for the two of you to know and be mindful of, but its utility here is debatable since it's true of every meeting for most of us, so I'd suggest cutting it.
Description is really, really long and I only waded through it because I wanted to be thorough. First, your repeated iterations of drama-freeness are not convincing. Virtually no one thinks of themselves as a drama bomb, so when a profile brings it up I automatically wonder not if their lives are dramatic but how dramatic they are. And pass.
The him about her/her about him thing is just awkward plus it's written by the person who loves you best, so is less than informative for outsiders. Please mostly be a couple in your profile rather than individuals. Other than that, iterating that you're in Birmingham is redundant (it's in your stats and part of your profile name), you have some typos, and the last paragraph belongs in Additional comments.
Please don't leave sections blank. You have two more opportunities to interest people in you by being relatable and you've whiffed them. In Fantasies, you needn't be graphic or even super informative, but if there's something you're interested in, this is the place. Also, it's a way to clarify things, so if you're going to leave in the photo of her in the collar (I would not), then talk about how you like your BDSM. It's also the place to lightly sketch your experience, which will be helpful if you actually have any. Otherwise, just leave it alone.
As far as that paragraph that I suggested you put in Additional comments, we all need discretion. But there's no point in trying to establish even the most basic connection without knowing what everyone looks like. One peculiarity of this particular subculture is the large number of people who don't like to say no and will ignore your overtures if you don't open photos, even if otherwise you'd be a good match. It is, as you can imagine, super awkward to exchange pleasantries and information and then, after seeing someone's face photos, say, oh, never mind, we aren't a match after all. So, I'd suggest thinking about the implications of doing things this way.
Other than that, good luck. I hope you collect more opinions and make the changes that seem good to you.
