Profile review

So. Much. Better!

Y'all have taken the advice given to heart and expertly applied it. Good job!

Have fun and stay safe!

If there was an award for biggest difference between two iterations of a profile, you'd get it. What you've done is lovely.

I have a few quibbles - only the first word in a sentence or a proper name is capitalized, it's Missus not Misses, there are a few too many !!!s, there's a typo in the second paragraph of Description, and you can leave out the height and weight in your narrative since they're already present in your stats - but this is remarkably different and you now sound like the fun people I suspected you were from the start.

Congratulations! I hope lots of good experiences are your much deserved reward.

We did post a new profile. We both appreciate the feedback and we agree it needed work. We think this profile is more friendly and follows the recommendations provided. You have already spent enough time on us already, but if you see additional issues do share. And yes, mister will shave for our future pics that Velma/shaggy suggested. Outstanding input and more example of the good people on this site!! J&C

I don’t have a lot of time, but I opened up a private gallery to show you the kind of pictures you should have.

The mail half should seriously consider Shaving his goatee. Some women don’t like beards. You will have a better shot with couples without a beard than with one.

Outstanding feedback!! No need to apologize or feel bad. We actually agree we came off a bit to rude really. When we took both inputs and reviewed our profile, we decided to make adjustments. We will let the forum know when they are changed in case you want to review our updates. We welcome additional feedback and honestly, we appreciate the amount of time that is shared to help us improve.

Hi. I hope you've read other threads and have a good idea of how blunt the advice can be. If you're unprepared, it can feel uncomfortable. It's kindly meant though and about how your profile reads to others rather than a referendum on you personally.

I thought about being specific in my advice, but it would take a really long time and most of it is really one issue, which is that you've mistaken the purpose of a profile. It's not a manifesto, it's not the rationale the two of you have come up with, or discussion about what kind of swingers you want to be. It's not a lot of things that are in your profile.

Instead, it's about showing up authentically but also as the kind of people others might want to meet. Right now it isn't that.

Could you try instead to make Looking For a brief description about who and what you're looking for, focused on the people and not on you? That's key, because while we all get into the lifestyle for our own needs and desires, other people are generally required and it helps to demonstrate that they are at least theoretically important to you.

In Description, a low key outline of who you are in your traits, characteristics, and vanilla pursuits is sufficient. Be interesting, but don't approach this as a way to ANSWER ALL THE QUESTIONS EVER. Candy Crush yes, irreplaceability no (because of course you're irreplaceable to one another and it doesn't need to be here but rather in your conversations together).

In Fantasies, what do I think? I think you had a chance to charm and enlist those compatible folks and you punted. Nobody needs to know about your deepest, darkest desires, but one of the ways in which we connect with people is to be relatable in our similarities.

Additional comments might be fine at the end of a different profile but at the end of the one you have it just seems like more negativity.

I always feel like apologizing when I comprehensively dislike a profile, but those are exactly the profiles that deserve an honest response because people generally are lovely even if their profiles have taken a lot of wrong turns. I hope you make a lot of changes and end up with a profile that highlights all the good, fun things about you.

Good luck.

There's nothing wrong with a longish profile if it is clear and not repetitive. The big issue when trying to read through it is that you are fairly repetitive and there seems to be a little condescension in there for people you don't align with. That comes down to how you say that you won't do certain things or expect certain things from others. You don't need to explain yourselves into a hole. Just find a fun way to state your preferences and boundaries. You could probably lose half of what you have written if you take out the repetition and trying to explain why or why not you will or will not do things. The one thing that is something you will need to communicate well is what you mean by your male half directing traffic with single male play. Sure your male half is your dom but he is not the single male's dom unless that is negotiated. Be careful to navigate the roles of hosts well in such a way that a male doesn't feel like a prop and not person. This is a common mistake for couples just getting their feet under them. Take the time before play begins to discuss how you would like to play before you get started and just let things naturally flow within those set boundaries. Many of the experienced and quality single guys you would want to meet with will run from your profile with the way you have that portion written now. Overall, you all have gotten off to a great start.

We are a new couple and would welcome the real feedback from this group. We feel it may be to many words but, we are trying to communicate interest for us but be open to others. Additionally, our photos will be updated to match the pinned thread on photo suggestions. We welcome any and all input!! Appreciate the feedback. J&C