Profile Review

Please start your own thread - it gets too confusing when you hijack someone else's review request.

I would like to have my profile reviewed. My profile should be geared couples and females only. Primarily, couples for MFM.

There are a lot of couples out there looking for single males in my area. When I look what I am up against I feel mine should stand out.

Roll around in the dirt with me

Creative tag line- how about "Better call Saul"

I approve this message!

And look at the thumbnail for your profile after picking a default photo - sometimes the way SLS crops a photo turns a good picture into a mystery.

A blurry face can work great as a default as long as you have unobscured photos in private or personal galleries that you make available when contacting others.

Rather than sensing that you're married, I get the sense that you're a single guy hoping for sex rather than a swinger that happens to be single. If that's true then MsMolly has already pointed out many of the reasons that this isn't really the place for you.

The text of your profile isn't terrible. You could probably go into less detail in Experiences/Fantasies and should definitely add something in Add'l Comments. But I think your time would be best spent poking around the forums and reading as many posts as possible to decide if this is really where you should be.

Good luck, have fun and stay safe!

!Phoebert's Wife

Creative tag line- how about "Better call Saul"

Thanks for the tips I will get to work. As far as creative taglines go do you have any suggestions?

Hi. Not having unblurred photos that you can send with your first message will cut down on the responses you receive. Not having a default photo - you're a blue gumby in the thumbnail - will lessen any attention you might otherwise get for being new.

Okay, so, about your profile...

Disclaimer: The advice that is generally given out in this section is really blunt and that can be uncomfortable. Even if you've read some of the threads and think you're prepared for it, it can still be an unpleasant experience. The advice is well meant and I hope you take it that way.

Taglines are most effective when they're short and inviting (clever is best, sincere is okay) without being particularly informative. Right now yours sums you up so well that there's no real reason to open your profile and that's probably not what you want.

In Looking For, you appear to think you've wandered into the 1990s version of Tinder. Nope. It's not that none of us date, but most of us don't start out that way, and if that's your preference, there are real apps for non-swinging hookups. Here, it's mostly sex first, maybe dates later. Plus, it's overwhelmingly couples that are looking for guys on here (most of them aren't, but there are more looking for guys than single women looking for guys), so if you're not into MFM, you probably won't find much here.

Anyway, yeah, focus on the plural and be a little more specific about who you're looking for and why. Not about graphic sex here, just what you can reasonably outline in terms of who and what you're looking for.

Description is okay, better than most single guys manage on a first pass, but work out in this context is two words (you wear workout clothes to work out). If you're single, you could proactively address Velma's concern by saying so here.

Fantasies is a little more graphic than I'd want to see (playing in front of a window vs. getting a rim job ditto), but it's super informative. It's not about prudishness, just that leaving something to the imagination leaves room for people to ask more questions.

In Additional comments, you have the opportunity to end on a positive, inviting note and...nope. Instead, you didn't bother, leaving the impression that finishing things isn't necessary for you. Not great. So, really, anything can go here. Just end well.

Once you've made changes, I hope you come back for an additional review. Good luck.

Your right I did crop people out, but not for any nefarious reason just for privacy purposes. I will try and get more solo pictures.

I may be wrong about this, but your profile “smells” like a married man who is cheating.

I get this feeling from the way your pictures are cropped. It looks like someone is cropped out of those pictures.

This may not be true but you have to understand that you are competing against every other single man out there. I’m not going to pick a married man who is cheating when I could have a single man. So I would probably pass you by.

You seem like a good, clean-cut guy. If you are just looking for sex, you can find it on Hinge or Tinder. Single guys really have an uphill climb.

A lot of single men join thinking that swingers will fuck anyone. That isn’t entirely true. Most women on here you aren’t just being compared to other men, you are also being compared to our husbands.

If you really are single, I would suggest having a friend take two full body pictures. One needs to be of your in a suit at the bar of an nice Resturant or something. The other needs to be shirtless at the beach or a pool.

Don’t take a shirtless picture in the bathroom.

Have someone take those two pictures then repost so we can review again.

What you can do is create a private or personal gallery and put pictures in it without obscuring your face. When you contact others you can make that gallery available to them. You can use the same pictures as are currently in your public gallery or different ones. When possible see about adding a full length picture of you nicely dressed.

I'll try to review your profile later.

Brand new to this. Open to any feedback. Would prefer not to post an unblurred face pic at this time, but if that is truly a deal breaker I could. Single Male.

Thanks.