Profile review

Phoenix, AZ, Us

Hi. PAW has given the warning, but I want to iterate that however blunt the advice, it's generally kindly meant and directed towards your success.

Okay, so, your photos? The only one with an expression on your face includes your tongue sticking out. Since you can't touch your chin with it, I'm unsure why it's there. I mean, nice suit, but not at all a great photo. The other three are worse. I'm never sure if men think being unsmiling makes them somehow sexier or what, but, really, a great smile from an average guy is going to turn on far more women than a deadpan face from a good looking one.

None of what you have are keepers. Try getting other people to take your photos, including at least one full body (clothed, please, in things that fit), and smile in every single one. Take lots, so you can pick the best.

Your tagline could use some work, but it's okay. However, the word is "let's," and to be grammatically correct, the comma should be a semi-colon.

As far as your actual profile, there's no there there. Like, nothing to entice me to contact you or to say yes if you contact me. I get that you find it hard to talk about yourself, but there are eleventy billion single guys within a hundred miles of you and far, far fewer couples and single women looking for them. So, you need to figure out how to honestly and effectively market yourself.

So, give some thought to who and what you want. I'm not talking about making a shopping list, but something prompted you to sign up on SLS and it probably went a little bit deeper than wanting to try something new. You've got the germ of an idea in your tagline, so maybe expand on it in Looking For.

In Description, how about you stop being a cipher and show up, at least some, as the unique man you are? No need to bare your soul, but you have interests, hobbies and qualities that others could be attracted to, if you're willing to talk about them. Dig a little into yourself and then write about what you've found.

If you can't, then fucking you isn't going to sound like a fun idea for most of us.

In Fantasies, you have the opportunity to talk about some things that turn you on to think about, things that other people might be turned on by as well. You didn't take that opportunity and instead took the least interesting tack possible.

Let me be really blunt here: How successful do you think you can be if your profile is the written equivalent of sitting in the corner dressed in grey, not talking or participating in the party going on around you?

Be honest. Then ask yourself if you want to do the work necessary to join the party.

And then go take another crack at your profile. We'll continue helping if you like, no matter how many times you come back.

Fort Payne, AL, Us

I hope you've read other reviews and realize what you're getting into. Reviewers tend to be blunt but we mean well - we'd like to help you attract what you're looking for. Just remember that everything said is about your profile - not you personally.

Your profile doesn't really say anything. If you sent a good/interesting initial message I might respond hoping to find out more, but I'd not contact you if I was searching. Put some time and thought into what you hope to accomplish on SLS and avoid meaningless generalities. Your personality and individuality is what will entice others to respond or to contact you.

In Looking For: Do you want NSA or one-time encounters, on-going FWB relationships or something in between? Are you looking for dancing party goers or wine sipping hot tub lovers?

In Description: A few specifics will give others an idea of what you consider fun - golf, baseball, football; participating or spectating; concerts or dancing; beer or whiskey; large groups or intimate encounters. What you enjoy gives others an insight into your personality. Don't repeat information shown in the stats section or describe your appearance (that's what photos are for).

In Experience/Fantasies: Have you been to clubs or parties? Did you swing as a couple previously? Are you new to playing with couples? When playing with couples do you prefer a HotWife that plays alone or do you want to help a husband worship his wife?

In Add'l Comments: Don't leave this blank and don't include the silly legal warnings. Will you travel? Can you host?

Pictures: The neutral expression doesn't work so well and your minimal smile isn't much better. Try for a bigger smile. When possible get others to take full length pictures of you nicely dressed and/or doing fun things.

Let us know if you want additional advice after making changes.

Good luck, have fun and stay safe!

~Phoebert's Wife

Saint Joseph, MI, Us

This should be interesting. Could I please get some tips on my profile. Id really appreciate it, thanks in advance. :)