Profile review

Fort Payne, AL, Us

We'll be happy to help you refine your profile - as long as you make an honest effort to improve it.

Read a lot of other profiles and get an idea of what you think works and then try to emulate them while also applying the advice you've received here. If you compose in a word processor it will help - spell check and grammar check are your friend.

The easiest thing will be to get others to take pictures of you - dress nicely and go out to eat or visit local tourist attractions or parks. Most anyone will be happy to take your picture - you just have to ask and then smile!

Newark, DE, Us

Thank you everyone I'm a great guy and love the lifestyle sadly I suck at making profiles through I'm starting all over and just going to keep it simple It was just a free one i made to add to events after my old one was removed then i decided to try paying for sls again and see how I like it

Virginia Beach, VA, Us

One more thing:

I'm an average guy who enjoys the lifestyle

This probably annoyed me more than anything else. More than the selfies. More than the spelling mistakes and failure to capitalize proper nouns.

Why do I want an average guy? Why does anyone want an average guy? Why wouldn't I want an amazing guy?

If you really want my advice - delete Facebook and hit the gym. Work on yourself. Read some books. Travel. Go build a house with Habitat for Humanity. Learn how to fly a plane.

Think about it. Are you a low value man or a high value man? What will it take to change that?

Work on yourself and make yourself amazing.

What I see right now is a guy who rolled in with basically low effort. Put in a little work and you will see results.

Virginia Beach, VA, Us

Okay, now for more specific advice.

Are your pictures the absolute best you can do?

Think about this. Your profile is a resume. Is your resume the absolute best it can be?

Let's talk about your pictures. You basically have two pictures. One of them is the same picture three times. Just seeing that tells me that you don't know how to use a computer or you are careless. If you are that careless about your profile, why would you suddenly be different with me?

You first picture - literally your default picture that you are showing the world - your exact first impression - was taken... what? Wearing a sweatshirt in the chips isle of a Sheetz?

Put yourself in my shoes. Do I want to fuck a guy who's first impression - the absolute best he can do - is a selfie in a convenience store?

Like I said in my canned advice below. You really need to stand out. What are you doing to stand out?

Take three new pictures like I suggested below, repost so we can re-review, and we can go from there.

Virginia Beach, VA, Us

This is a standard advice that I give to all single men.

A lot of guys come on here after striking out trying to find sex through online dating, thinking that it will be constant fuckfest party and standards will be lower.  The fact of the matter is that if you don't have any luck online dating, you won't have any luck here.

I don't open my profile to single men anymore because of what I call the Dicknado.  
Imagine that you stop at Target for a few things. You leave the store and it's raining outside, but you have to get to your car, so you run through the rain.  

Now imagine that every raindrop is a dick.

That's what it's like being a girl here.  It's a constant stream of dicks.  You really need to be special to stand out.

Does your profile stand out?  I am not going to lower my standards for you.  Think about it.  Are you a low value man (LVM) or a high value man (HVM).

A man needs three pictures.  A pictures have to be taken my somebody else and need to be full body.  You need a picture of yourself dressed nicely like you are about to go on a date.  You need a picture of you doing something athletic and interesting like running a 5K or rock climbing and you need a picture of you shirtless at the beach.  To me, a HVM knows how to dress.  He's physically fit.  He travels for work and pleasure.  He has pictures of himself shirtless at the beach.  He's the kind of guy who can afford to take me to Miami for the weekend.  Smile in your pictures!  Years ago, OK Cupid came out with a fake study that men who didn't smile in their pictures got more interest than men who smiled.  This has been infecting the online dating world ever since.  SMILE!

If all you have are selfies I'm going to assume that you have no friends or are too timid to ask somebody to take your pictures.  If you say "I can't afford to fly to Miami to take a few pictures at the beach right now" then why would I fuck you?  

If you thought you were going to roll in here and get invited to a few parties because the women here are whores, you are in for a big surprise.  My standards are way higher here than when I was single.

Make the picture changes, think about whether you are a HVM or an LVM and good luck.

Fort Payne, AL, Us

Your profile is painful to read. MsMolly said every thing I would have said but she was tactful about it - and I'm usually the kinder, gentler blunt response in this forum. I just want to reach through the computer and put some punctuation in your text! Or smack you upside the head - I haven't really decided.

Both your pictures should be deleted - the blue gumby is probably a better look. You appear to be so intent on getting a selfie that your expression looks painful. Get a friend to take some pictures of you - even strangers are happy to take pictures. Definitely smile, watch for clutter or visual chaos in the background and no selfies. Velma's advice is great for core pictures in your public gallery - you should be able to find it by reading just a few other reviews is she doesn't pop by.

Re-read MsMolly's advice then rewrite your text, paying attention to the section headers and the rules of English grammar. Then let us know when your revised profile has been approved if you'd like additional assistance refining the text.

Good luck and have fun!

~Phoebert's Wife

Phoenix, AZ, Us

Hi there. Okay, so, I'm not sure if you've read any other profile reviews. I hope you have, because otherwise it can be an unpleasant surprise to discover just how blunt people can be as they give you advice. It's kindly meant - we really do want you to find what you're looking for - but it can feel really unpleasant.

So, that disclaimer out of the way, start by adjusting your age preference to 25-58, which puts your age in the center, assuming you're actually 41 (SLS does not update birthdays). You won't discourage a single teenager and it'll look better.

Your photos are truly terrible. You have three of one shot and another that looks like it was taken by a convenience store security camera. In each case, your expression is just off putting. You can do better. Go look for Velma's advice on other threads and pay attention to it, because she's right. Watch your expression (please, smile), have others take your photos and pay attention to what's in the background of your photo.

You also really need certs. It sounds like most of your playing must be at clubs, but certs are pretty important for single men.

Taglines are meant to invite people to open your profile. Yours doesn't. In fact, it does the opposite, since it gives as much information as someone would need to decide you were a no. Go for something short, clever if you can, but definitely short. Go ahead and search for profiles a thousand miles from you and see if there's something you could adapt to your needs.

As far as the text, you have a shit ton of errors in spelling, punctuation and word usage. Like, I can see you being way more successful in person than you are on line, just because this is so distractingly bad that it gets in the way of your goals. At the very least, please do all your corrections on a computer or a tablet with spelling and grammar checking. And pretty much rewrite a bunch of it.

Looking For is meant to be about other people and then what you want them for. Like, this is where you talk about not liking NSA (which confuses me, since you're good with friendships, something that doesn't usually come with strings). And by want them for, I don't mean sex. That's a given, so you needn't mention that. But the part about wanting friendships, etc

Description actually has some good bits there, but they're a bit swamped in that run on sentence. Just start with "I love cars and go from there. Try to avoid using "sex" and words that contain "sex."

In Fantasies, you mostly just need different language to say similar things and, again, use punctuation. I'm a little concerned about the fetish thing, because it can leave the wrong impression or sound more serious than it is. There's a difference between having a 24/7 latex fetish and having a fantasy about a particular kind of role play.

Additional comments is good, but stop at "...area of Pennsylvania as well." I mean it's good if you correct the typos and use punctuation.

Anyway, please don't use your phone for this. It's not your friend.

Good luck, gather opinions and then please come back and let us look at the changes you make.

Newark, DE, Us

I would love some feed back on my profile