Profile Help

I didn't have time earlier and it looks like you've already applied some of MsMolly's advice - but you've still got some work to do.

Your profile doesn't really give a sense of y'all. It is full of generic, sound-bite phrases - many of them repeated several times. Please tell us more about the unique, fun people that I think you are. Use Description to include more about your vanilla selves - yes, we're all here for sex, but it's not all about sex. Keep everything positive - tell us what you like rather than what you don't like or won't do.

I'm opinionated but not nearly as eloquent as MsMolly so I'm just going to point out the nit-picky things that annoy me. ;-)

The order of the letters matter - was your threesome really MMF (indicating some male/male activity) or was it MFM (both guys intent on her pleasure).

"... her interests have been peeked." - the word you want is piqued.

There is no reason for individual selfies - take pictures of each other to avoid the awkward angles or arm positions. Then get dressed up, go out to dinner and ask a waitress or the hostess to take a photo or two - you really need a full body, nicely dressed photo of the two of you.

Too many of your photos are almost identical - pick the best and delete the rest. Remember - smiling faces tend to make for the best photos.

Good luck, have fun and stay safe!

~Phoebert's Wife

Hi. I hope you've looked at other threads in this section, both to see the most common suggestions and to get a sense of how blunt the advice can be. It's generally kindly meant, but it doesn't gently lead those who ask for profile reviews.

You're correct that your profile isn't hitting all the high marks that it could. To start with, your photos need editing and you could probably use some new ones. Focus on full length photos, preferably with the two of you together, looking like you're in love and in sync. That's standard advice anyway (actually, look at the sticky at the top of this section for allll the pic advice), but especially so since he's so big. Nothing wrong with that, but photos make him look cuddly where the scale number might be off-putting. Also off-putting, at least potentially, are photos with filters or those with serious expressions.

Your tagline needs some help. Short and clever is best, informative is not. And really do try to avoid fuzzy terms like serious minded (all I can think of is a boring science lecture) and like minded.

In Looking For, maybe talk a little about about why you want those adventurous couples (which doesn't seem to line up all that well with serious minded), and, no, "adventures" isn't sufficiently informative. You don't have to be graphic, but if you're looking for NSA sex or fishing buddies that also roll around on flat surfaces with you, this is the place. Try to make this section at least three sentences long, so as to give yourselves a chance to attract people who see themselves possibly fitting in with what you are looking for.

In Description, I'd get rid of the first three sentences, which add nothing useful, other than the fact that you're long married. That should be rolled back in somehow. I'd also leave out the quite shy bit, especially since once she's interested, she isn't shy at all. Maybe just say that she's quiet at first? Because you don't want to sound like work, and that's what dwelling on someone's shyness indicates.

In Fantasies, only the first two of the last three sentences belong here, although it would be great if you could say you'd been with more than one couple and even tried an MFM (if you don't want single men, just block them, but leave out the ALL CAPS NEGATIVITY, please). Edited down, some can go in Additional comments or in Description, because that you're both quite sure you're straight is useful info. It just doesn't belong here.

And if it's in Additional comments, that's great, because what you have there now is just a repeat that doesn't serve the purpose of ending on a high note.

Good luck. I hope others chime in.

Can we get some help or advice with our profile please? I have really been struggling to make it better but ideas have escaped me all to often.