Profile help

kittenswinger - please start your own thread so advice for you is not confused with advice to the OP

I need some help with my profile.

I need some help with my profile.

No, it's not too vanilla. I know it's counter intuitive, but on a sex site, sex doesn't sell nearly as well as being nice, interesting people.

People are unique, sex...just isn't. So, focus on being the kind of people other people want to get to know and maybe fuck.

Only two things catch my eye.

You've made at least three references to being a family/small children/needing childcare - it's a bit repetitious. I'd delete the line about needing childcare. It's the least positive of the three references & most adults will be able to figure out that children at home complicate the planning.

It appears you're composing on a phone - way too many instances of words running together. Copy your text into a text document on a computer and run spell check/grammar check on it. And then have the person that didn't write it read it out loud - you'll feel silly but will find many places where the phrasing could be improved.

In general you sound like fun people looking to enjoy a new experience.

Good luck, have fun and stay safe!

~Phoebert's Wife

Thankyou for the feedback. Do you think it's to vanilla?

Hi there. You still have typos and while the grammar and spelling police aren't actually part of the lifestyle, careless errors aren't a great look when running things through spellcheck and reading aloud could fix things.

Other than that, the only part that needs work is Looking For. It's a little stiff and nobody really knows what "like minded" means, plus it's really better if you don't describe yourselves here and just stuck with the who and what of what you're looking for.

The rest is terrific and you two seem lovely.

Good luck!

Looks OK. You have some typos/punctuation errors but nothing bad.

I would also recommend adding some hobbies under the Description section. It just makes for good conversation starter "hooks" for people reaching out to you.

We made some changes, how about now?

Just to add to what GGMM said about naked pictures, ask yourself how important it is for you to see naked pictures of people you're interested in playing with.

Speaking for us, we can easily tell from g-rated pictures if we are interested in meeting someone. If there are nude pics available, we'll certainly check them out, but we do not require them to see if there's interest in meeting someone.

In general, r or x -rated pics would go in a private folder anyway, and then you choose to open them up (or not) to people you interact with on-line. I'd be leary of anyone asking for nude pics in an initial on-line interaction.

Your pictures are great; I think your profile text just needs a bit of fine tuning.

Think about the question implied by the section header and then rearrange your text so it's in the correct section. Looking for should be about others, Description should be about the vanilla you, Experience/Fantasies should be about the sexy you and Additional Comments should be what doesn't fit in the other three sections. Don't repeat information that's in your stats or shows in your pictures. Even though we're all here for sex it's not all about sex - so include information about your vanilla interests.

Good luck, have fun and stay safe!

~Phoebert's Wife

Hi. Thanks for opening your profile. Your photos are great and will appeal to pretty much everyone. Nudes, surprisingly, aren't as effective as well composed shots of fully dressed people.

I think it's great to highlight your inexperience. Where I think you go a bit astray, aside from your numerous typos (please read what you have aloud to get rid of them, because a grammar program is unlikely to catch them all), is in hitting the length and strength of your relationship so hard. it feels a little defensive and that's a bit of a red flag. We don't really feel the need to talk about things we're certain of, so you'd be better served by toning that down, because the combination of being newbies and defensive is going to turn off more people than just being new.

I'd also like to read more about who you are as people in Description. Sex isn't the selling point here, believe it or not. Instead, it's relatability and I think you could do a much better job of it here. Talk about the kind of people you are and some of your interests that aren't sex related. Save the sex for Fantasies.

And that's all the time I have.

Good luck.

Just a thought, but the Description text doesn't really talk much about what you like to do for fun besides sex. Most of the physical description stuff is redundant with what you're pictures show, and for the stuff that isn't, it's not like eye color is really going to matter to anyone.

Your other "hobbies" can be conversation starting points and also serve as proof that someone actually read your profile. Listing those sorts of things in the Description can't hurt, and helps you to find people with common interests.

Perhaps you are really only looking for sex and not friends with benefits, but there is no mention of either in your Looking For section.

FWIW - Long ago I lived in NJ for 5.5 years, and Matawan was the first place I lived in NJ.

Honestly, I think your pictures are perfect - they show the guy, you two look happy and on love and you are doing interesting things.

You seem like a classy couple and I think you will attract other classy couples.

If you really want to do nudes, I opened up my private gallery which has some nudes and photo tips on how to take them.

I have updated some info. Let me know if it’s better. Thanks for the help!

Ok. We made the changes you all suggested. What about pictures? Should we add more? Less clothing? More clothing?

I really don't have any big critiques. You are the kind of couple we would contact. You two look happy and in love and you have pictures of the guy.

Really, the only issue I have is that you say "LOL" in your profile.

I'm usually wet all the time, but when I see a guy use "LOL" I dry up like the Sahara. It's so fucking beta. Please take it out and never use it again.

For the purposes of getting you as many viewpoints as posibly we suggest expressing some.interest in single men and women for a little while so folks can give you their opinion here. Unfortunately, an undocumented feature of this website is that showing zero interest in a group on your profile sliders blocks them. It says it doesn't, but it does. And that's why Molly can't see your profile most likely.

You have the generic newbie profile that I think many of us had when we first started on this journey. It's fine. It focuses on your inexperience and curiousity. And shows that you're new.

There's nothing wrong with it except that it shows you're new and nervous. Not a problem but it will limit your interest. Many, experienced couples want to know they have a high probability of getting laid or they won't bother reaching out.

You could tone down the nerves a little and tell us a little about what we might have in common other than sex. What do you like to do in your free time? Tell us what we'll talk about when we're not having crazy monkey sex. Show us your personality. What makes you you?

Others will be along with their opinions shortly I'm sure. Welcome to the site and happy swinging!

Hi. You have single women blocked, so I can't see your profile. But someone will come along eventually. ;-)

My wife and I are new to the lifestyle. Can we please have some advice about our profile? Have a look, and tell us what you think. Dont hold back.