Profile Feedback and Improvements

Thank you LukeandKira, I don't have a tux, it was a costume lol, but I'll smile more.

@GGMM- I kinda like the oiled torso with a bow tie look! What would make it better, though, is to also see a “before” shot with him in a tux! ;)

Seriously, though, I always prefer seeing photos of guys smiling- you seem very approachable and fun.
Good luck!

~Kira

VelmaandShaggy you kill me with your humor, I saw the AutoZone comment lmao. I've actually been confused for Latin and when I was in Kuwait, some local nationals thought I was Egyptian. I'm just going to own my heritage though, I want people to want me for who I am.

I got a simple thing for that “we only play in our own race” thing.

Go buy a big Star of David. Now you’re Jewish. You could pass for a Jew-you look Sephardic as fuck.

Oh, RonKathy I'm in NW Florida, I know South FL is different and more accepting. I basically live in lower Alabama, near Destin.

Thank you for the feedback from both of you. I will apply these fixes when I have spare time. The advice for how to compartmentalize and explain further in different sections sounds like it will be a serious game changer. Also, thank you for the advice on patience, and that things take time.

Hi. Welcome to the cage. I apologize in advance for anything said here that sounds mean. It's not meant to be mean spirited, I promise. I really do just want you to succeed and I'm going to be really blunt in my advice.

I will have to stop saying I always agree with Velma on photos, because I don't this time. I really like the photo of you in the car, hate the selfie and am meh on the oiled torso. I think you can do better, particularly if you take a photo or two clothed, full length and outdoors in front of an interesting background.

Tagline - An animal? No. Not appealing. Be something else in the sheets if you need to, but not an animal.

Looking For - This section is meant to be about the people you're looking for and what you're looking for with them. Don't try to repurpose what you have here, just rewrite it in such a way that it is centered around others. You want people to see themselves here and they can't if you aren't talking about them. This is also the place where you put that you're looking for NSA fun.

Description - You aren't doing yourself any favors here. Please don't use all caps. Please don't talk about what you don't want. Please don't confuse things by including a bunch of stuff that isn't about you as a person. It's useful to say that you're in an open, long distance relationship and playing with permission, but the rest of it needs to just be a sketch of you as a person, including some of the things that interest you (which you have, but not at length, plus work out is two words and firm up your phrasing around dancing to Latin music). This is your chance to make a good impression.

I think, even at your age, you have enough life experience and interests to do a good job in this section. But it's going to require getting rid of a bunch of stuff that's already there, because it's just getting in your way. Also, please don't use the word "drama," because it's a bit of a red flag. I'll explain if you like or you can just trust me and do a decent job of vetting your opportunities.

Fantasies - You've lost an opportunity here by saying things can be discussed in person. This is yet another chance for people to identify with you or to find you charming, so give them a little bit more than you have. Don't be graphic, though. Also, do you really need to say heterosexual only? Do you really care so long as the sex is straight?

Additional comments - This is probably a decent place to put that you take plans seriously and also say f anyone has questions to message you.

Anyway, I don't hate your profile. I just think you could do a better job of being an individual than you have. Each and every one of us is special and unique. The trick is to let some of that show in a way that interests others.

Good luck. I'd suggest making some changes and then coming back for a review as many times as you need to.

You can't be doing everything wrong since you have a cert and your profile is only a few months old. Finding people to play with online is not a quick and easy endeavor - it takes time and work.

The problem with your profile is that you pretty much crammed everything into Description whether it belongs there or not. I'd move the line about one night stands & consistent play partners to Looking For (and probably replace consistent with regular or on-going). Rather than leave Add'l Comments blank move the line about taking meetings serious and showing up with your A game to that section. Find a way to rephrase what you already have in Looking For so it is less repetitious. Delete the lines about messaging if more questions or discussing in person - that's pretty much a given if someone is interested in you.

Most of what is left in Description resembles sound bites or commercials - and is rather useless. I'd keep only the first three sentences plus the fifth sentence. Can you be more specific about the dancing you enjoy (rumba, salsa, etc) or the places you've traveled to? That will give us something to talk about - not that you're discreet or clean up after yourself.

Your pictures aren't bad although I generally don't like selfies. Always smile and watch for cluttered or chaotic backgrounds.

I see no reason why you wouldn't attract some attention with a bit of a rewrite. Good luck!

~Phoebert's Wife

But also, @RonKathy, after rereading your advice, I respectfully argue that my comment on race isn't based about a general blanket statement about it just being about the South. I've seen a multitude of profiles that have said "We only play within our race", some even explicitly and in all caps saying "NO BLACKS" I am not the type of person who will make a general statement based off of unfounded knowledge.

RonKathy and Velma and Shaggy, thank you for your input, I will put it to use. I will continue to explore new activities and hobbies in life when I have the time. I also needed a refresher on having the right mentality and a great profile example. Also, thanks for the compliments and advice

Do you happen to have examples of how I could better interpret that I explore a plethora of different arts and cultures in life, and add that individuality that sets me apart from others in life?

I don’t think you need any changes to your profile pictures-your main problem is and that you’re a minority it’s that you aren’t interesting. Your generic and interchangeable.

I want you to forget about swimming for a while-take a college course in art history. Learn how to fly a plane. Go rock climbing. Maybe see if you can volunteer for an archaeological dig.

Do that stuff and become an interesting person and I want to talk to and then.

Hello, I struggle with online dating, and I know it's something I'm doing wrong. I also am in the South and I see a lot of profiles that aren't minority friendly, and I'm younger than some age requirements, yet I'm mature for my age, so it's a catch 22. I'm open to any constructive criticism, and I know it has to be a lot.