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Hey life is short. I will go with the old saying. You snooze you lose. Get out there and be sociable

Exactly.. both of "us" are in our 60's and proud to be long time swingers for 30 plus years.. we plan to go as along as we can and enjoy the life to the fullest every day!

But really get out and dont be shy or you will just be another on looker. We are on the top rung of life so go for it!

You might want to widen your age preferences - right now the top age is only a few years older than his age.

You can always decline with a polite "we're not a match" based on individual characteristics but the over 60 crowd might surprise you.

Good luck, have fun and stay safe!

~Phoebert's Wife

mebush - Not all parties/events are created equal. We have a lot of expperience with house and hotel room parties, not to be confused with hotel takeovers. The one big hotel takeover we went to was a $500 weekend and seemed to have a lot of people that were just there to party and/or play with only the people they brought with them.

I realize that not all parties are the same, even within the same venue, but some of the best parties for newbies will be house parties that have at least 1 private room. They are smaller and more intimate, and tend to attract people that are actually there to play with others. If a host (like myself at times) wants to have a great party, they'll limit the attendees to ones that actually come to play.

We did go to a smaller hotel takeover that was hosted by some friends and got to play, but any open invite party is going to attract a variety of agendas, such as, just there to chat/drink/dance, looking to take someone back to their home/hotel room to play, looking only for a woman to play with, people that are there to play only with their partner, and finally, couples and singles that are there to play with other couples and singles. Some parties can feel like the person dying of thirst on the ocean. Water everywhere, but not a drop to drink.

I did see that you are also fairly new here (6 months). As I recall, it took us about a year to really get going, but we mainly did that by going to parties.

Thank you for the feedback. We have been to several events, but we are both fairly introverted and have a hard time going up to new people. We have enjoyed the energy though!

I didn't see anything particularly off-putting. We'd reach out to you if we were closer.

About the only possible thing is the "want to take things slow" may have some of the more experienced couples that are mainly here just for play time to look elsewhere. People have busy lives so, when they have time to play, they likely want there to be a high likelihood of that.

Everyone has to start somewhere though and I have to believe that there are other people in your area just starting out that want to also take things slow. The small town thing could also be a problem, as you already noted. By expanding your radius, I'm assuming you're reaching out to people outside of your local area? I've not found reaching out online to be particularly fruitful.

My suggestion is as usual. Try to see if you can find a party/event far enough away to make you feel comfortable and attend it. Do keep in mind that if you did run into a local, that could actually be a bonus because now you have someone close to potentially hang around with, if you click. Either way, they can't very well out you without outing themselves.

We live in a fairly small town, and I understand why locals aren't responding to us, but even when expanding our radius we aren't getting much response. I would appreciate any insight into problems with our profile, or any tips you all may have for improvement. Thank you so much.