Welcome to the forums, SensualPhotog.
Please accept my condolences for your loss, and I wish the very best for you as you go forward.
I can't begin to imagine how I'd get through a single day were something to happen to Lady. My heart goes out to anyone who's had to do that.
Hi. Your current profile is a little subdued, but I think that's okay given the death of your spouse. Make sure that you liven it up eventually by adding in new activities or new experiences. Your tagline only needs the first word capitalized instead of what you have and you can probably lose the word "mature" in the body of your profile, but I don't have many other quibbles at all.
"The hair is a necessity for the kind of work I do."
Rock cover band? Seriously, this is the kind of interesting detail that you might want to think about putting in your profile. If you can't cut your hair, learn how to put it into a bun, somewhere between the middle of your head and the top back. No, I'm not kidding. YouTube videos if you don't already know how. It will be a more polished look.
I've redone the profile and included your suggestions. Would you please take a look at it again and tell me what you think. Thank you again for your input.
Thank you both for the comments. I've always had a problem writing these descriptions. The hair is a necessity for the kind of work I do. I sometimes let the beard grow out long, crop it short, ect. You have been a lot of help. I'm going to look at some other tag lines to get a better idea of what works and what doesn't. We were in the lifestyle before she got sick and walked away from it until she passed. Just trying to get my feet wet again.
Also,
A profile is a marketing piece. What you are selling is yourself.
There are two purposes for your tag line...
1) Many people don't read profiles at all. The only thing they will read is the hover they get when they see your photo: your stats, your profile picture, and your tag line. MAKE IT SING. You care that you lost your wife, and man, we all feel for you, but it is not a selling point. Make the tag line sing.
2) When people are looking for those online to chat with, and you are "online," the cool tag line gets IMed. A boring tag line gets passed over.
Regarding pictures: One formal wear, three doing activities, One "artsy" since you're a photographer (this to replace the "shirtless photo" since you're probably not going there, show off your photography skills instead)
I agree with what Molly said about avoiding "older" and using "seasoned" or "mature."
In the description, you do not have to describe what your picture already shows or the stats tell, so cut "longish red hair, grey goatee. I'm about 5'9" and weigh 200#." You can include the bit about blue eyes, bc we can't quite tell from the photo.
"I also love going into the bush and look for interesting things to photograph." This is a rather strong double entendre here. If you intend it, cool, if not, you might want to phrase it some other way.
Cut, "but that was as far as it went." Leave it to our imagination and as a cool and funny story to tell. Don't ruin the punch line. Tell this story on the some date or other.
Not to overwork this: a good hair cut, working out some, and a pressed shirt, jacket and slacks never hurt anyone trying to get laid. Your hair will grow back. If you look equally well without the beard and mustache, consider shaving. It generally takes 10-15 years off a man's face not to have white facial hair... although if you have a weak/double chin, keep the beard.
Overall, it's not a bad profile. Have someone who can copyedit your punctuation look over it for you.
Best of luck...
Hi. My condolences on the loss of your wife. That must be hard. I'm glad you are willing to put yourself out there as a single.
But if you've been a swinger previously, you know it's not easy for a single guy. It looks like you already go to a club and to a nudist resort, both great places to make friends that could eventually become playmates, so that's great. Your profile is generally good, but please remove any variations on the word "old." You may refer to your age just once, but call yourself "seasoned" rather than older.
Please change your tagline. It's completely appropriate to mention your wife and your status as a widower, but you have done so at the end in a completely appropriate and low key way. Starting with it makes you sound needy and while you might well be very lonely, signs of neediness will be offputting. You also want to eliminate the word "strong" when you refer to the friendships you would like to make, again in the interest of not sounding needy.
You should consider changing your age range to 45 to 70. If a 30 year old was interested, she wouldn't be stopped by being too young and raising the age range will be more comforting for women in their 50s and 60s for some interesting but subtle reasons having to do with the perceived pull dates of middle aged women.
I'm glad you're doing more/different photos. Please take them of you doing interesting things or in front of an interesting background, with a pleasant expression. In the meantime, a selfie of you smiling would be a big improvement.
Here's my harsh but well meant advice: Cut your hair. it is not doing you any favors. You will look much more attractive with short hair in what looks like a lovely silver and you will, as counterintuitive as it sounds, look younger. Start walking, not only because it will give you something to do but because you want to be in decent shape for the rigors of being a third.
My final piece of advice is that, while I don't know how long it has been since your wife died, you probably need to be touched. Get massages while you're waiting to connect with other swingers. It will help you be more settled in your body and you won't be coming from a place of touch deprivation. That last part matters, because women can often feel that need and it's a little scary. If cost is an issue, lots of massage schools offer low cost clinics so that their students can get experience on a wide range of bodies. It's the touch that will help, so you don't need a seasoned practitioner.
I am just re-entering the lifestyle after the passing of my wife. I've read some of the reviews and I know I only have one photo. I'm working of getting more done. I hate selfies so I'm doing them myself since I'm a photographer. Any and all comments would be appreciated.
