Profile Critique

Thank you so much for your replies!! They were all very insightful. We are going to discuss them and make some changes.

I’m going to keep my mouth shut about that dom/sub “I must please my Sir” shit because if it’s your thing then knock yourself out.

I personally would avoid anyone with BDSM because swingers love their liquor and you can’t consent to any of that weird shit if you have a few drinks on you.

Anyway, I opened my private pictures to show you what you should have - you really need full body pictures that were taken my a third party. If I don’t see full-body pictures, I’m not going to be interested.

Hi. I'm having a weird sense of deja vu here. Like, I've never seen this profile, but some of it feels really familiar. Anyway, not your issue. You just want to know how to increase your chances of having hot sex with other people. Posting here is a good start and this is where I give the standard warning that the language in the replies you'll get is going to be very blunt. It's very well meant though and all in service to getting you those chances to have hot sex.

So, first, only two of your photos are flattering. The one of him and the one of her in a dress. For the rest, you can do way, way better. Velma might come around with specific pointers, but mine are to never, ever photograph breasts from below. Faces aren't at their best from that angle either.

As to your profile, your tagline isn't a tagline. Instead, it's something that might go better in Additional comments. Replace it with something short, preferably clever as well, but really, just short and sincere work too.

Your toggles say you're interested in soft and full swap, your profile says full swap. One of those things has to change if you value clear communication.

In Looking For, what you have to say is reasonably informative, but it's all about you or has you at the center of things. You kind of are, obviously, but not in this section, not if you'd like to appeal to actual, real people. So, my suggestion is to mostly eliminate "we" from the conversation and leave out things that are uninteresting to others, such as how to tell who is writing. Also, "like minded" is a completely meaningless term and if you're interested in women (not females, please), as your toggles suggest, indicate that in your profile text.

Description would be much improved if you moved what is currently in Additional comments up to this section. It does a much better job of making you approachable and relatable than referring to yourselves as animals. The references to BDSM (HollyBlue is right - there are a lot of us here) and to this formerly being a single man's profile should be compressed (right now, they're sprawling and insufficiently focused and will not allay any potential fears) and put in Additional comments instead. Most references to sexual interests and styles belong in Fantasies. Instead, use this section to talk about yourselves as a couple, mostly, with only a line or two about you as individuals.

I know it's counterintuitive on a sex site, but sticking with sex in the Description section will garner you fewer opportunities than talking about your sports fandom. Sex is the least unique and valuable thing you can offer to people who can have sex with a large number of people. Are you going to fuck in the booth at the bar as a way to engage others? Nope. Instead, the more successful strategy for your profile is likely to be presenting yourselves as the interesting, fun, engaging folks who will show up for that first vanilla meeting.

Fantasies could use a little tightening, because with what should move down from Description, it's a lot. Maybe just compress, maybe toss out some.

Additional comments also has orphans from other sections that belong here and you should also end on a high note.

Other than that, no lols. This is a semi-formal piece of writing and there's no place for them.

I really back away from BDSM type people because most are tattooed and pierced and that just turns me of, My own personal observations, Know not all are, but I like hairy women, go figure. I like pasty white, clean cut ,middle aged folks I guess for the most part.... Mary Jo

I wouldn't apologize for the bdsm references or ask people to not be scared off. There is a decent amount of kink on SLS. Outside of that one statement there really isn't a lot of reference to it. You all may say that you are looking for full swap and have some experience in the bdsm and may do some of it if another couple may interested. However, your primary focus is full swap.

Hello- we would love some input/feedback/help with our profile. My bf is a lifetime member and after we met he changed his profile to add me. He has certs on our profile from when he was listed as single and played with others as a Dom. He is still a Dom and we have a D/s relationship but when we play with other couples we would just want to have regular hot sex with them. Any suggestions? People seem so scared off by the kinky D/s stuff on our profile.