Profile Critique

Thank you for both of your suggestions. We decided to keep the African American thing in b/c it’s who we are, not what we are only but it’s us. And no offense but we have come across people in the lifestyle who thought we are a different race or some who dont play with African American couples not to mention BBC’s. We did say we’re open to all races and sizes.

Boob and butt pics aren’t attractive to white cples? Lol. Never heard that one before. We try to have a lil for everyone. Lol. Thank you both for your advice

Grammar policing is just part of the service. ;-)

I'm always white but only sometimes a couple, and I really love that lingerie shot. Women's body parts, though? Nah. I have my own and it's not parts I'm attracted to anyway. I asked for a second opinion and got a qualified "maybe" as to whether body parts are attractive to men. So, eh, do your thing. I do like the other photos a lot.

I have a different opinion. I think the Bitmoji is funny and works well. It's something different and sets you apart, which is important for branding. I like it.

You start off pretty well, but then you descend into boobs and butts. So again, I have to go back to being the only white, Jewish school teacher in a predominantly AA school with mostly AA teachers to give you some advice. I think if you want to attract non AA couples, I think you need to play down the boobs and buts a little. I would suggest going to the beach this weekend and taking pictures.

I know... I know: "But Velma you fucking slutty hypocrite. You have a full-frontal nude in your default pics."

Yeah, yeah. But it's classy and humorous also kind of designed to show people I'm not a blimp. Bathing suit pictures have the twofold advantage of showing off your body with the added bonus of showing you at the beach doing something interesting. Maybe get a few bathing suit pictures at the beach to kind of show boobs and butts in a classier way?

I would do that. I think the current boob and butts pictures, and the picture in the lingerie may not be as attractive to white couples as they are to black men. If you are only interested in AA couples - then disregard what I'm saying. But swimsuit shots may be a better route.

Yeah, may change the bitmoji faces and crop them but it does show our bodies.

We’ll look into moving that paragraph and those changes about the grammar. Forgot about the grammar police looking at profiles. Lol. Thanks

Hi. I think your profile is much better and while I think the cartoon faces are a little distracting, I think it's a clever way to show your bodies and obscure identifying details.

So, just a few quibbles.

I'd take this section and put it on its own as a paragraph at the end of Looking For: "We wouldn't rule out the possibility of having fun on the first night, granted everyone's comfort level. Not looking for anything too serious, just some clean adult fun." I think it would read better.

Then there are a few grammar issues. It's love to live and laugh, too seriously, style and smile make, titties, eat pussy and.

And that's it. Really nice job. Good luck.

Profile has been updated. We tried to take everything into consideration along w/ our own input. Thanks.

I don't think you have to go that far. Just some new pictures and a few minor changes.

Thank you. Interesting seeing how others view our profile and pics. We’ll take it into consideration. May just start a new profile w/a clean slate. Thank you.

Okay, I feel a little better after a night's sleep and my morning run, so let's get to it.

I'll start with the pictures.

I'm not a big fan of being assaulted by boobs and buts as soon as I land on a page. So there must be a classiness component to you because you say "We love wine and visiting festivals, trying new restaurants." But the boobs and butts don't help.

The part about being AA can help or hurt, depending on demographic. After all, nobody has ever said to my husband: "fuck me with that medium-sized Jewish cock." But I think you could lose eyeballs if you aren't perfect.

I was the only white, Jewish teacher in a 95% AA school for 15 years, so I've learned a thing our two, especially from my female AA teacher friends. AA is fine. Classy AA is fine. Thug AA is fine if that's what you are looking for, but when I look at you, you really don't fall into a type that is accessible to most people. You're kind of like ... a maybe classy AA couple? Maybe Thug? Maybe bougie? I have no idea. You're all over the map with your pictures and your spelling.

So I always say they you can't go wrong with classy. Throw out every single picture. The one of the male half in the plaid shirt and jeans is especially bad because it's the kind of outfit the middle son would wear to Red Lobster on Sunday after church. He should know better by now... but he doesn't. You know?

Remember, SLS isn't real. It's a way of showing everybody how hot and fun and interesting you are when all you really want to do is lie on the couch and watch Netflix. So I would come up with a narrative and stick to it.

Our narrative is the dirty teacher and the polished executive. Maybe your narrative could be classy AA business professionals? Even if it's not true - who cares?

I would get dressed up and take pictures like you are going to a corporate job. The male in a suit. The women in a dress and heels - maybe with a jacket. Take the pictures at a nicer hotel bar. Then, I want you to go to the shore and take a few pictures at the beach there with the two of you together. Finally, I want you to either go to a NY or Boston baseball game and take a few pictures together.

My intention is to establish a pattern. You are classy. You do interesting things. That should get you a lot more interest than what you have now. Then repost and we can refine.

Hi and welcome. I wanted to like your profile, but kept running into speed bumps that would have had me closing it if I wasn't planning on critiquing it for you.

First, your tagline is fine, but you kind of spoil it by iterating it. Pick just one place to talk about your freaky counterparts. The "someone(s) is massively distracting. Just use a plural noun like "people" and combine the terms with commas in the appropriate places. The part where you love wine? It goes in description, as does who you're open to and your biphobia. The part about being respectful and not clingy doesn't really belong anywhere. It's your job to determine if people are sufficiently respectful and clingy people don't know they're clingy, so that's useless filler. Same with multiple mentions of drama. That makes me think you're prone to drama and, again, those who bring the drama don't know it, so more filler. Also filler is the not being into endless emails, etc. Either phrase it in a positive way or manage it behind the scenes.

In Description, you needn't mention the amount of meat on your bones, whether you're sloppy or not or whether you are or are not working on it. Just change her weight to something other than zero and let other people decide if you are for them or not. There are people like me who take an automatic pass on zero weight profiles who are fine with people at whatever weight they're at. The next two paragraphs are great, in that they're vibrant and do a good job of representing you.

In Fantasies, you're wasting valuable real estate by leaving it blank. You might want to reconsider that choice.

In Additional comments, you're telling other adults what to do. That's not going to fly with a lot of folks and it won't make a single person change their ways. So, consider that it's both pointless and off-putting and maybe think about if that's how you want to appear to others.

Your photos need work. Find clothes that fit and accentuate your bodies and photograph yourselves like that Have someone take photos of the two of you together. Seriously consider the choice to feature closeups of her ass and tits. I'm sure they're beautiful, but the photos are not.

Good luck.

I had a long day and I'm really tired. I'll get to a full review tomorrow.

Glaring stuff first: I really found the someone(s) to be distracting. I hate it when I see "LOL" in a profile and I wouldn't click on anyone who was "0" pounds.

Picture wise... I'm not a big fan of boobs and butts. It's not super classy. I'll try to give some more specific advice in the morning.

Hello all,

Been in the lifestyle for almost 7 years now, have had a lot of success meeting single females, single males, and couples. Just wanting to knw what others think of our profile. Not sure if it’s us, the site, the lifestyle in general or what but we’re not getting responses to emails, even to say not interested, and later on we’re blocked after multiple attempts. Lol. Should we add something, change something? Thanks for the help.