Hi. This particular area of the SLS forums is sort of 'enter at your own risk.' Mostly it's benign and kindly meant, but it's almost always blunt. I could explain why, but it doesn't really matter. What does matter is understanding that what's said is generally about your profile and not you.
So, first, please change your profile photo to one where you are fully dressed in clothes that fit and have no wrinkles, preferably in a pic taken by someone else. This is another thing I can explain and will if you need it in order to make the change, but otherwise won't.
Your tagline is okay, but short and clever is a better approach. Also, it's a better look if you move your lower age limit up out of creeper range. It won't discourage a single 22 year old, but women your age won't roll their eyes, so win/win.
In Looking For, what do you mean by clean? If it's disease free, then say so, but otherwise the implication is that you think there's a group of dirty swingers and they'll turn up if you don't fend them off. Also, maybe use the plural instead of the singular, unless you're really just looking for a couple or a woman. Not sure what you mean by being open to other scenarios (and neither will anyone else), but given that sliver of interest in single men and use of the word discretion, I'd assume openness to bi play with men.
If that's not the case, eliminate the interest on your toggles and replace the last sentence with something clearer, because I don't know what you mean by safety and "discretion" when used by a married man generally means he's cheating, no matter how many times he reassures that his wife knows but doesn't want to know, etc. Maybe be a little more charming here instead of quite so...dry.
In Description, you have the 'clean' word again. I could be wrong, but I assume most people of robust mental health are clean as a matter of course, so when I see it mentioned on a lifestyle profile I generally wonder what the writer actually thinks about sex positive people. I think the rest of the paragraph could also be a little less dry, but it's serviceable as is. The paragraph about your wife doesn't flow well, so I'd rewrite it, and maybe instead of using the word discretion you could frame it as an issue of being sensitive to her desires.
In Fantasies, if you read it out loud you'll likely note some structural problems. So, fix them.
In Additional comments, the last thing people read from you, instead of being charming and positive, you're excoriating people's manners. Not a good look and completely futile because people are gonna people. Plus, the stereotype of an entitle single guy (who in this case is not single) is not one to which you want to contribute more fuel. End on a positive note instead.
You're working with multiple deficits; you're married, your wife cannot confirm you have her permission, you're 60, and you are a solo guy in a field of guys who are younger and don't need to sneak around, all looking for exactly what you're looking for, which is a limited number of couples and women looking for men. I'm iterating this only to explain why you haven't had any success.
A better profile would help - less dry, less buttoned up, more charming, more forthcoming - but you're still going to be hampered by the above. Also, in case this isn't obvious, swingers are particularly harsh about cheating spouses, much harsher than the general publich, which no one can confirm you aren't.
If you really want to succeed in finding a regular or a few regular playmates, go to meet and greets, parties, and clubs; join FetLife and go to kink/poly munches.
Good luck. Maybe check in again once you've made some changes.
