Profile advice

Fort Payne, AL, Us

Somehow I missed this when you first posted so I'm a bit late to the party - but that means I just get to say mostly nice things!

Your text looks good although your sentence structure is sometimes a bit off. Maybe use a semicolon rather than a comma in a few places or just don't try to combine separate thoughts into one sentence (I'd separate the desire for on-going relationships and willingness to play on first meeting).

Work your way through Velma's DEBauCH system when you're both in one place together again. My picture advice is more general - smile (even when you obscure your face it affects your body language), watch for clutter or visual chaos in the background and avoid selfies. I'd replace the two selfies of her with photos of her that you take (no need for individual selfies when you have a partner) and even consider deleting one of them now (they are essentially the same).

I like the goatee - but then I've never seen Phoebert's face and we've been together for over thirty years!

Good luck and have fun!

~Phoebert's Wife

Thank you again for your input and help. We're already planning on adding some more pics when she gets home. Lol the profile is written entirely by me, her choice. The goatie is groomed better and will stay, unless she uses this for an argument to het me to shave it lol. I don't shop at auto zone, I shop at napa lol. Thank you again, I will let you know when we have more pics up. Have a wonderful day!

Phoenix, AZ, Us

I think you've done a good job with your profile text. My only quibble is that it sounds as if it was entirely written by him with no input by her, but I don't think that is going to have an impact on your results.

If you've read more than two profile reviews here, you'll know that Velma is adamantly anti-beard and I am just as decidedly pro-beard, which pretty much reflects how women feel about facial hair. There's no right answer on this one. Just be well groomed.

Virginia Beach, VA, Us

I think it’s better. I still wouldn’t be interested because you don’t have full body pictures.

I know I say this a lot but for some reason when men hit 40 they decide to grow a goatee. This makes them look a lot older than they actually are.

I strongly suggest shaving it all off. You will look younger and less like the kind of guy who shops at Auto Zone.

Updated profile. Please review

Phoenix, AZ, Us

Hi. Thanks for coming back with changes and thanks for opening your private gallery.

I'm going to talk about photos first. You should probably have one of her alone, suitably anonymized, in your public gallery. It's mostly men doing the hunting so it helps to give them a hook. And she can do a selfie for now and send it to you. In terms of your private gallery, are you sure you're married to only one woman? Because I think there are seven or eight represented. ;-) Seriously though, a current photo that represents how she looks now is a better option than a greatest hits survey that covers several years (that's a guess - if she's a hairdresser, it could just be six months for the entire gallery). I'd also get rid of two of the three consecutive shots of him that are pretty much the same and the one using the Snapchat filter. I love the ones of the two of you together, it's just that she really looks like a different woman in every single photo.

For your tagline, spell it out: Looking for friends and friends with benefits. No emoji, please.

The first line in Looking For should be "She's out of..." and you can have the emoji there. Follow it with a blank line. Then remove the part that you copied into Additional comments because you don't need it twice. The rest is good.

Description needs to get moved around some., with the line about what you like to do (hiking, etc.) first. Also, are you really only somewhat interested in trying new things? Because unless that's a defining characteristic, I'd leave that out. And if you must say you're hwp, then say you're hwp rather that hwt proportionate.

The rest is much improved. I'd suggest having her read it out loud to make sure you've captured both your voices. You might find that another change or two is necessary.

Other than that, this is way better. Congratulations.

Thank you both for your help and honesty! It is appreciated! I have made some changes to the text. I will update when the changes take effect, for further review. As far as the pics go, some of the changes to them will have to wait until she gets home

Phoenix, AZ, Us

Hi. I'm going to say mean things about your profile and it can feel really uncomfortable. I'm sorry about that, but it's the most effective way to give a critique. Try to stay with it and understand that the purpose is to highlight the things in your profile that are getting in your way and keeping you from having the sex you want.

So, first, your photos aren't great. One sultry shot of her isn't a terrible idea, because it's mostly men on here doing the initial searching, but for the rest, please keep your clothes on and look like you're in love. Smile, even if we can't see you doing it.

Second, you have that monumentally stupid Sydney University thing taking up space and since you're using one of the original ones it makes you look even more gullible. Why do I say that? Go look up those statutes you've cited. Or save time and delete it, because a) it's an internet legend, and b) do you really plan on suing anyone who copies your photo?

Before I get to your actual profile text, you have several red flags. You're smokers, you're new, you want bareback, and she "seems to be warming up" to seeing him with another woman. Yeah, that last one? It screams drama and I can't imagine most couples reading it going oh, hey, let's contact them, because it'll be fun to see a stranger lose her shit. And the barebacking thing will be a no for most of us, at least on the internet.

I think a lot of us operate with magical thinking - we'll do oral without condoms or dams, but not penetration - and although it isn't logical, refuse to play with those who want to do it differently. Also, side note, always have a large supply of non-latex condoms with you.

As far as your profile itself, it's a bit of a mess. It's full of typos, you have the wall o' text effect because you're not paragraphing, and it's not particularly well written.

In Looking For, you don't need to talk about your devotion to one another. It's assumed, the way it's assumed that most people have elbows between their forearms and upper arms. Why would you need to emphasize either if you're certain? You needn't include that you want to add to your life together or that you aren't looking for one night stands. With the latter, stick with emphasizing you want on-going instead of phrasing it as a negative.

The section that begins "We are interested in MFM..." and runs to the end can be moved in its entirety to Additional comments.

In Description, your photos need to do the job of showing that you're HWP and good looking. The condom thing also goes into Additional comments, right between "...same room only" and "We primarily play..." And leave off the sentence about questions.

Fantasies is mostly okay, but again, you've got that big ole red flag there and what I really want the two of you to do is continue talking until you're not a drama bomb waiting to go off.

And that's all the time I have. Good luck and I hope you make some changes and come back for a review.

Virginia Beach, VA, Us

I opened some private pictures to show you the kinds of pictures you should have.

Follow the DEBauCH method I set out in my private gallery.

I'd normally give a longer review, but your bareback lines disturb me. I would not have sex with a couple who didn't want to use condoms.

I've had sex with over 100 men and maybe 20 women and I never got anything. I'm not going to risk this record for one night with you.

Please take a look at our profile. Any advice on how to make it better will be appreciated