Profile advice

Zeather85, feel free to ask for a review on your changes. I think you have the bones of a good, inviting profile. Good luck.

Zona, you should start your own separate post asking for advice.

Asking if any females or couples would critique my profile. Any constructive criticism would be greatly appreciated.

Thankyou for the response and advice. We are both new to making an online profile like this. I will rewrite the profile with these things in mind. We will make some new pictures and get those up too.

Hi and welcome. I don't often comment on photos, but I will on yours because I think in person you're probably both adorable, but your photos aren't doing you any favors. It's way better if you don't take photos with the camera below your chin. Tough, I know, if you're taking a selfie and there's a significant height difference, so either get a tripod or enlist a friend. Also, don't be confusing. If he's shirtless, then she should be wearing something equivalent. Also also, since we've already seen your faces, your body shots should be body and face shots and you should take them of each other instead of doing selfies.

So, your profile isn't horrible, but it could be better. Your tagline should be either clever or serviceable and yours isn't either of those things. You can get away with "Looking for fun people," but once you've introduced the parts about being real and honest, you've demonstrated some uncertainty and a kind of ambient disapproval, so those words should go, even if they're true.

"Looking for like minded friends" doesn't really mean anything. Better to handle it by being specific about what you're looking for, which you've done pretty well. Just a few tweaks. There's a comma needed between not required and as we, you need people not someone and one of those "with us" iterations is enough, so best to lose the first one. And try this: We like to make friends before bedroom activities, but if the chemistry is there, we see no need to stall forever.

That line about single guys can go away completely. By selecting no interest, you have them blocked, so the negativity is pointless.

In Description, you have the opportunity to say things about who you are. Particularly since you're looking for like-minded playmates, it's helpful to talk about the things you like to do and the qualities you have. We already know your heights, so no need to repeat. And the clean thing just kinda bugs me. Cleanliness is something most of us just take for granted and introducing it into the conversation makes me wonder if you do. When you've finished expanding this section, read it out loud to get rid of the choppiness that I see now.

Fantasies is also about real experiences. If you have those, say a bit about them.

NO on the NO DRAMA. People who bring the drama don't know they do or would even deny it, so you won't be keeping anyone away and for the rest of us, we'll be wondering if you're a source of drama. Better not to introduce that uncertainty. Also a hard no is that WARNING. It's meaningless and is, all by itself, grounds for many of us to send a thanksbutnothanks because it's just completely lacking in thought.

Other than that, somewhere in your profile, either in Description or in Additional comments, if the two of you are willing to play straight, say that. Reinforce that you're happy to do so and to respect everyone's boundaries without question. It's true that there are some people for whom "No Bi Guys" is close to a religious belief, but there's a fairly large contingent who don't care what you do so long as they're sure you won't be doing it with them. I think that would up your response rate, at least a little.

Oh, and before I forget, when you've done all the edits you're going to do and had them approved, go in and change your toggles on smoking and drinking preferences. And, yeah, you have to do it in that order, because SLS hates us.

Ok, I'm going to start by saying that you two have a unique look. There's a bit of a hipster vibe, which is cool. I'm also going to say that you need to be true to yourself.

So now I'm going to take everything I said and throw it in the trash. The fact of the matter is that life is tough for couples who have bi guys because as open-minded as swingers like to be, SLS is populated by "NO BI MEN EVER!!!" couples.

So that's working against you.

Your ages are working against you as well. Most swingers tend to be in their 40's-50's. Some couples may not want to play with couples in their 30's.

To start with the pictures... well, you don't have the most flattering pictures. Like I said above, you have a unique look. But they are just kind of thrown together. Boobs, nude torso, picture in front of a jeep... Star Wars. You two look in love, which is important, but you also kind of look like you took pictures in whatever you rolled out of bed in.

I'm also not entirely convinced that the female half is 153lbs. Now, I'm one to talk. I have big boobs and a big butt too. But you need accurate weights.

I would give the beard a trim and consider taking some nice pictures at a bar in New Orleans. Maybe the male half can wear a flashy sportcoat and nice jeans? The female half... a sheath dress, maybe? A-Line? I can't make a judgement because I can't see her whole body. But take a few face and body pics looking nice. I don't know if the female half owns heels, but if she doesn't - buy them and learn how to talk in them. Yes it hurts. Yes it's impractical. But they add length to the leg and make your ass look amazing. It isn't the first time we have suffered for men, and it won't be the last.

So make those changes and repose.

Just wondering if there is something about our profile that we should reconsider. It seems as though the majority of the people that we send mail to do not answer back. Any constructive advice would be greatly appreciated.