Profile advice

I think you need at least 3 new pictures.

So to start, none of your pictures should feature a gun or a fish. The political climate is crazy right now and you don't want anything on your profile that could cause a rejection out of hand. Also keep in mind that you are not only competing against every male on here, but also against a lady's husband. In my case, I married a triathlete who is also a successful businessman. So - keep that in mind. What sets yourself apart from my husband? Keep that in mind as you rewrite.

Your pictures should tell a narrative. Now like it or not, SLS is social media. Social media isn't about showing the world who we are, it's about showing the world who we wish we were. So you should show yourself doing interesting things and at interesting places.

Your first 3 pictures should be a full body shot, followed by a face pic, followed by a picture of you getting out of the pool shirtless or on vacation at a beach. Only do the shirtless picture if you are reasonably in shape.

Your first 2 pics should show you dressed nicely - a suit or a sport coat. Something you would wear if you went on a date. Go to a nice bar, order something brown in a glass with ice and ask a trusted friend to take these pictures.. I want to see a successful, confident man. If you are embarrassed taking these pictures, how on earth are you going to have the confidence to approach another man's wife?

Under no circumstances should your selfies be your primary pictures. After the first 3 pics, then add in pics of you doing interesting things. Go do a 5k and have a friend take a picture of you at the finish line. Go rock climbing and have someone take a picture. Take a flying lesson and get a picture of you flying a plane. I want to think I'm going to meet an interesting man.

OK, I get it, the single male is the least desired member of the species right now. But if anyone would take the time to get to know me it would be well worth it, at least lets start a conversation! Thanks for reading.

I don't like this line. It's very beta male. You are not the least desired man, you are the most desired man. Lose this line and act like it.

Thanks Molly

Hi. First, your tagline is awkwardly phrased, so I'd change it around some. Or, you can leave it in its current state, remove the comma and add an apostrophe to "others." But maybe "I want to fulfill our fantasies."

Then, I'm really sorry to be so harsh, but the way your profile is written sounds needy and a little deflated. Let's see if we can remedy that.

In Looking For, just lose the first line. You repeat it - and phrase it better - in the last line of that section. Also, lose "that want to spend time with me, whether it be," which leaves you with a strong statement of purpose and no hint of neediness.

In Description, don't mention your age and just turn the rest of what remains into a complete sentence. You understand discretion, not discreet. And instead of it being nice, you also like being the center of attention. Say more about yourself, though. Who are you as a person? Why would I want to contact you instead of the next guy?

In Fantasies, I think I'd leave out the word bi and say you wouldn't even call yourself bi-curious, but... and just one "always" in the next sentence, plus there's a comma between "guys" and "whereas." Lose the lol, please. This is a semi-formal piece of writing and if you want humor to show, it'll have to be without lols or emojis. Sorrynotsorry. ;-) Otherwise, I think this is a good section.

Additional comments is one big nope. Forget about single men being desired or whatever. You don't care, because you are desirable. So, put something else in this section.

Velma is the photo expert, so I'll let her tell you what to do and how to do it, but I do not love your profile photo. Your expression could be friendlier and the background looks like my grandmother's house, complete with antimacassars, and that's just not doing you justice.

So, go forth and make some changes and then come back.

Hello all, fairly new single male here looking for help with my profile/pictures. I want to come off confident, not cocky, educated, not stuck up. Having no luck at this time, help!