Please help with our profile

Ok and thank.

I opened a private gallery so you can see some examples of pictures you should have.

Take a look at that and follow my advice.

Thanks for the input and when we have it updated we’ll ask and see how we did. Thanks for the help

MsMolly has given you the disclaimer - just remember it's all about the profile, not you personally. She's also given you a lot of great specific advice.

Your profile is a marketing tool for attracting others that would like to swing with you. Your tagline and default photo need to entice people to open your profile, your profile needs to entice people to send (or reply to) a message and your messages need to entice people to meet with you.

The overwhelming feeling I get from your profile is depressing. All the negativity just makes me want to find someone else.

So rewrite with an eye to keeping it all positive. Make the Looking For section about others, Description about your vanilla selves, Fantasies/Experience about your sexy selves and anything else in Add'l Comments. Short and sweet is good - leave some things for messages and meetings.

Good luck, have fun and stay safe.

~Phoebert's Wife

In Fantasies, the punt for what yours are is a failure because you're given a chance to be relatable here and have let it go. Nobody needs to know your deepest darkest fantasies, but use this opportunity to say something that others can identify with. Also, you have typos and syntax errors and this section like the others will definitely benefit if you fix those (read aloud to really catch them all).

Additional comments continues to not sell you as cheerful, fun playmates. In reverse order, that bullshit warning can go, because it's legally unenforceable, based on an internet legend, and is pretty much the representation of credulity. YOU SHOULD GET KIK, unless you really want to rely on SLS's frequently buggy messenger, but if you decide not to, THERE'S NO NEED TO ANNOUNCE IT. You can just say you don't have it if someone suggests it. I've addressed why you don't need to mention single men if you stop displaying an interest in your toggles, but if you really want to stop any contact, you can block them. Only being available on weekends isn't that unusual, but if you feel the need to include that, this is the place. Just couple it with something positive so that you end on a high note. Your first paragraph is not a positive or a high note.

It's a perfectly reasonable request, if someone contacts you - We'd like to see a photo of the two of you before we continue the conversation - but I'm not certain why it's here, This is your profile, the place where you shine yourselves up and look appealing to others and yourselves. It's not the place where your inside voice trots all over the page. If you think of it like a resume and stuff like this the equivalent of saying...I have these qualifications and I hate the smell of burnt office coffee and need grey walls...that might make more sense. I hope it does.

I also hope you make changes and then come back for another review. Good luck.

Hi. Better Profiles can be a harsh place to visit and I hope you've read some other threads and are prepared for that. There is the occasional exception, but for the most part we don't mean to be unkind. It's just that bluntness is far more effective in getting people to reevaluate and change their profiles in ways that work better. And I'm being so explicit because I'm not a fan of your profile, although I suspect I'd like you n person.

So, first, read Velma's sticky at the top of this sub-forum. It's gold and you'd be well served to heed and follow her photo advice. In the meantime, at the very least, delete your default photo. While I appreciate the beauty of the setting, it's pretty much the definition of a bad selfie. If you want your new default to show both of you, the one of him in a tee shirt and her in a cream sweater is much better.

Your tagline is a waste of space if you want people to open your profile and learn things about you. Go for short and clever if you can, but if you can't, at least find something that isn't informative. Think of this as a marketing slogan.

In Looking For, you've made the classic error of making the section about you. You have the entire remainder of your profile for that, so please make this one about other people. Also, make it less like a guy wrote it, because it's just off-putting as written. The only part that you have in there now that belongs in Looking For is that you're looking for a couple for friendship, hanging out, going to dinner or drinks, and (skip the oh yes) pleasures of the lifestyle. For the remainder, the part about dick size limit either goes at the end of Description or at the end of Fantasies. The rest is just either filler, stuff you need to know to evaluate potential playmates, or things to exchange in those first messages. Also, if you're marginally interested in single women, mention them here. And if you're sufficiently against playing with single men to use nearly a dozen exclamation marks, then fix your toggles to display no interest at all.

In Description, you lose me when you say you don't judge. We all do and it's just best to not lead with something false to put people off. People might not consciously notice it, but it will weigh against you, as will your contradictory statements that the male is both hard to figure out and that you will know where you stand with him. Also, the whole male/the wife thing is kinda gross. If you must talk about yourselves as separate people - it's better to present yourselves as "we" - then it's he/she. The sentence about cookouts and conversation is a really good one and that's the mood and kind of information to include here. This is your vanilla self on display, because while it might all be about sex, that's not special enough for people to be interested in you. Who you are as people and what you like to do - like conversation and cookouts - is special.

If anyone has any suggestions they would be greatly appreciated.