Please critique our profile

Phoenix, AZ, Us

OP (that's you Ok4U), this is a very potent fantasy for you and at the same time someone very precious to you is involved. The more you understand the tension between the two, the easier it will be for you to ride the edge between making it clear you're the dominant one and the third you're inviting in is subordinate and being controlling. Plus you have very specific requirements for your own reasons.

I have some advice that might or might not be useful: The quality of your experience will depend a great deal on who you choose to join you. If I were you, I'd want someone who was respectful, understood his role in an MFM (if he assures you he'll give your wife the best time ever, run the other direction), had certs from other couples, and was generally smart, sociable and low key. A long list of requirements and a profile full of negativity might turn that sort of man off.

Anyway, if you need more help, I think I'm safe in saying all of us want you to succeed and will do our best to offer useful advice.

After reading missmollys critique and rereading our profile, I do realize there's alot things, I could have worded differently as to not come off as an ass.

I haven't had the time to make the corrections yet.(work) I'll make them tonight. Thanks

Phoenix, AZ, Us

Hi and welcome. You seem to know exactly what you want and I'm a little hesitant to wade in, but I also wonder if the way you've phrased things will turn off the best candidates for what you want. You would definitely turn off single women, but men are generally less sensitive to being seen as ambulatory sex toys (I know you're also looking for a friendship, but that's a bit lost in the list of requirements) and it might be okay. So, I'm just going to suggest a few tweaks that put a more positive spin on things. However, if you haven't found exactly what you want in two or three months, please come back and ask for another critique.

So, onward...

First, I'd suggest the only mention of stag and vixen be in your tagline, replacing "couple." Then eliminate either white or Caucasian, because two is a redundancy. Stop at the "...attraction is a must," and put in a blank space. We'll deal with the Crazies, etc. thing in a minute, because it belongs elsewhere. So, after attraction and a space for the next paragraph, it's "Her type is...," followed by yet another space and this is where you say "No bi men and no married men, except with verifiable permission from the wife. Right now, we're only interested in men 20 miles or farther from our town, but that could change over time."

In Description, you don't need to describe your ages, because you have those stats, so something like "We're a laid back, down to earth couple looking for..." It's husband's, life is not capitalized and I suggest you leave out the part about being madly in love, etc. It's not that it's not important, but you've already said she's the love of your life and emphasizing it in this way suggests you're building a defensive perimeter, which reads as the potential for drama.

There's no comma between me and my and start a new paragraph at "We have never done..." It's too slow and bear with.

In Fantasies, you've already said no bi men and that you're open to married men playing with permission, so the line about straight single men is a little confusing as well as possibly redundant. I think if you want your line about crazies in your profile, then it should go in Additional comments, which you could erase entirely, because it's very clear you're new and you've already asked for experience. Mind, I'm not sure you should put that line in and I'm really dubious about the soap thing, because they're both highly negative ways to express yourselves, but it's your profile and it should express your views and personalities.

I think I caught the typos, but I usually miss one. I'd suggest running spell check on your profile before you declare victory.

Good luck!

AandJinNNJVeteran
Ringwood, NJ, Us

Ok - you might want to change your toggles for now until you get the reviews and advice you need. You're now blocking couples and single ladies. And they are some of the best advice givers in these fora.

Didn't even realize the preference part, explains the views from couples, thanks for the kind critique.

AandJinNNJVeteran
Ringwood, NJ, Us

Welcome to the fora!

First, yes, you need pics. Body pics, clothed, are fine to post publicly. You'll probably want a couple face pics in a private gallery to share with anyone you have contact with as you see fit.

I think the profile is very specific. You know what you want and are clear in what you're looking for. Just take a reread as there are a couple spelling errors.

Also, yoy state you only want a single male for MFM which is fine. But your toggles indicate interest in couples and single ladies as well. It's little confusing. You might consider showing little interest in those demographics.

Others will be along with their take. Good luck!

We are new to the lifestyle and would like to have a experienced couple or singles critique our profile for us on what to add and what to leave out. We'll be adding pictures shortly and thanks for any advice.