Newbies profile

As with the others, not trying to be mean. Just being honest and hopefully helpful. There is definitely a lot of opportunity to improve the profile text. A big thing would be if you can cut/paste it into something like MS Word and let it point out the typos and grammar issues as well as making the changes already suggested.

After looking at all of the pictures I find the main profile pic the least flattering. Yes, it's the 2 of you together out and about and that's nice, but you don't look very happy. If I took 2 pictures of you where you were smiling in 1 and not the other and showed them to 100 people and asked, "What picture would make you want to hang out with these people?" I can almost guarantee that 100% of the people would say the one where you're smiling. Yes, I think it's that important and the text "We have found out in the past A smiling face is not always a true person" isn't changing that.

I also think the male half needs to decide if he is bi-curious or not and post that accordingly. If you would consider male/male play of any kind then you're at least bi-curious. If not, I'd lose that sentence implying you "might" be because you're alienating 100% of the male halves of couples.

For many women, facial hair is already a turn off but even for ones where that isn't the case, an untrimmed beard/mustache will lose some percentage of women on top of that. Since most couples won't "take one for the team", you'll lose out there as well. I can understand you wanting people to accept you as you are. Just be aware that it is a limiting thing that you do have control over.

Lastly, simply re-read what you've written as some of it doesn't make sense. As an example, "So feel free to email us we don't bite, nibble, kiss all over but don't bite." This is your ending sentence and the last impression you are leaving people with.

You've gotten great advice about your profile - I have nothing to add along those lines. Just wanted to say that successful contact on SLS isn't always going to be quick or easy - you've only been a member a month or so - give it some time.

When you reach out to profiles that interest you be sure to read the entire profile and send a well thought out message that lets them know you read the entire profile and states why you think you might be a good match. Two or three sentences should be enough.

Even reaching out to profiles that do not interest you today or are too far away can be fun - you might make an online friend that can give you advice or might be the reason for a future road trip. Maybe you like the way they speak to people in the forums, maybe they live where you grew up or maybe you like their profile but not right now - making friends is good.

Good luck!

Hi. I hate when I disagree with Velma, but I do it anyway sometimes. Your profile has a number of issues, including less than awesome photos of him. Please smile. Both of you, but especially him. Men might be doing most of the hunting on SLS, but women generally get the deciding vote and I would be voting no because that unsmiling face is what I'm going to imagine looking at me while we're fucking.

As to your profile itself, in the tagline it would be better to leave off the part about being newbies. That fact alone will lose you a considerable number of people right there.

In Looking For, that whole second paragraph (also, please leave blank spaces between paragraphs to make for better readability) that starts "There has to be an attraction..." can go. One half is almost always pickier and that's fine. Advertising which one both throws her under the bus and suggests she's not totally on board, both things you want to avoid. Also, "like minded" is a completely meaningless term and the word "drama" is both a red flag - just don't mention it - and pointless, because those who bring the drama consistently think it's other people (hence why it's a red flag when the word appears in a profile).

In Description, it's pretty good, but you've now mentioned DRAMA a second time, so I'm going to assume you're a drama filled couple lacking in self assessment skills and close your profile. (No, I don't actually think that, but that's the message your profile is sending. Don't send that message.) So lose that and lose the thing about BS. That's definitely an indicator that he wrote the profile and is a gatekeeper, which is again a bit of a red flag.

Fantasies is mostly okay, but the full bi thing is unconvincing and if you poll 100 women who have experience swinging, 97 of them will tell you a profile that touts his oral skills indicates that he has trouble getting it up. Or keeping it up. Also, seriously, we expect every adult male to have sufficient skill in that area that we get off. We might be wrong, but that's the expectation. So, get certs and let them talk about your skills.

Additional comments - I want that Sydney University thing to die a fiery death so that I don't have to type this umpty billion times a week: It's an internet legend, what you've written is complete nonsense, as it's an unenforceable prohibition even if anyone was collecting your images, etc. (they aren't). So, please, kill it with fire.

Also, run everything through spell check because you have a lot of typos. And once you've gotten your changes approved, go in and fix your smoking and drinking toggles, because the default that gets reset ever. single. time. you. make. a. change is WANT SMOKERS/WANT DRINKERS.

If any of this strikes you as mean, I apologize. It's actually meant to help, just written in very blunt terms. The ultimate aim is to get people to say yes to you and to get you laid.

Good luck.

I actually don’t think there is much wrong with it. You need to make a few text changes and it was obviously written by the male.

You seem to be following my DEBauCH picture rule pretty closely.

Your biggest problem is that the male half has what I would consider to be an exotic look. So that may limit you to a very specific subset of couples.

Text wise:

especially for my wife

This is a huge red flags and to me means that you are controlling the profile. Some couples would reject you right there. Take it out.

allot

A lot

Hubby is not BI, hmm well don't think anyway, but we would try anything once and most likely twice..

Be careful with this. Homophobia is rampant in the LS. I would take it out.

alot of pain.

A lot

There is times with our job that we cant answer the IM.

There are times with our job that we can’t answer the IM.

All and all not bad. Make the corrections and let us know.