Need help

Thanks everyone for your advise.

Yes she does play with women only thing she doesnt do is give them oral.

I like what you've done with your pictures! You are doing interesting things - pool, skiing. This is good.

My one suggestion is to keep your pictures under 10. Say what you need to say in 10 pictures or less.

One more thing. This isn't the most popular opinion, but if the female half is open to kissing or just doing boob stuff with another woman, list your preferences as "bi-curious." But don't do this if the female half is 100% hetrosexual or isn't interested at all in other woman. Why?

The majority of couples on here are interested in bi-girls or got started because their wife was curious. I'm a shining example of a woman who considers herself 100% straight, but girls are fun to mess around with and I don't put a label on it. I just goes with what feels good.

I'm not saying to change who you are, but if you are flexible, it will help get some more interested parties. And honestly, women are usually better kissers anyway.

FWIW, I think your wife has an attractive body. I kind of disagree with Velma (who also has an amazing body) here. Your weight is your weight. If you want to change it, do so, but whatever your size it's possible to find playmates who think you're hot.

I like the changes you've made so far. You still have "clean" in your tagline and it still subtly indicates that you think some percentage of swingers have poor hygiene and you're only looking for the clean ones. If you mean disease free, then Additional information is the place to put that you are (get tested regularly in order to maintain the honesty of that claim) and require the same in your playmates.

Other than that, I think you can do a better job of showing that you're interesting and fun people. I kind of wonder if the shy one wrote this profile, without much input from the outgoing one. If so, consult one another about ways to insert some bubbly personality into what you have. You could use a little more content, too.

Getting into the details, you mention cookouts twice. I think I see where you're going with that, but the redundancy doesn't serve you, so maybe change your first paragraph to something like this: We are looking for couples and single women we can be friends with in and out of the bedroom. We want a connection that makes sex that much better.

I'd leave out the "No drama," because it introduces the possibility of drama, if that makes any sense.

Really, I don't have much specific advice. Your profile is already significantly better than the first time I looked, so I think you're going in the right direction.

Your profile isn't horrible. It could use a few tweaks.

So, first off, no matter what people say, your weight is always going to be a factor. I actually go out of my way with nudes and pictures of my husband and I cycling to prove to all of the men with 130lb wives that I'm not a disgusting whale.

But, the fact is most men only want to "trade up" so you've got to fight that with a little something I call "personality." And taking it up the butt helps.

There isn't much personality in your profile. It's just kind of "boobs, butt and we're fun."

Your profile is a narrative. But it's not on who you are, rather who you want the world to think you are. So, look at us. We're your everyday couple. We go to work. We pay bills. We order takeout. But on here, I'm the teacher you always fantasized about and my husband is that handsome, fit guy on the train who smiled at you this morning on your way into work.

So, what's your narrative? What's your story? Maybe you have a boat? You're a couple who loves the water and cookouts and would love to host a party on your boat? There's a narrative. Maybe you like Devil Rays games. There's a narrative.

Picture wise, I would kill all of the pictures. Mirrored selfiles rarely make anyone look good, especially since you have a mess on the floor next to the mirror. The dress is a little trashy, which is fine if that's the image you want to portray, but remember that more people will be interested if you go with classy to start.

If it comes down to trashy or classy, pick classy. My best suggestion is 5 pictures - female face and body, male face and body, and a picture of the two of you dressed well, like you are going to church. The rest should be stuff that makes us think you have an amazing life- pics of you two on the boat, or at a Devil Rays game - doing stuff that's interesting. I would also lose the baseball hat unless you are a game.

Show me "interesting." I want to think I'm going to meet up with this amazing couple who has incredible stories to tell.

Try to get one picture of the two of you together in something tropical. Maybe you in a nice Maxi dress, him in slacks and a guayabera. Make that your main picture. Take pictures just for SLS. We rotate ours out every week or so.

Regarding your profile text:

Don't want to fuck a different couple every weekend. We are very picky and hygiene is a HUGE thing for us.

So this is kind of a red flag for us. When I see "picky" I think "what's the point in reaching out?" You are kind of pre-rejecting people with that.

Finally, you've only been on for a few days. Relax. People will come.

So take a few more pictures, rewrite with a narrative then come back here and repost and we'll refine.