It's cool when someone actually updates their profile after people take the time to comment. It definitely garners more support and a reason to help when that happens as it doesn't feel like a waste of time to have offered help.
Apparently, TK is awaiting approval of his new profile text. He did a major rewrite. So we should have something new to look at soon.
Why do you look so pissed? Seriously, not a hint of a smile.
And your text is godawful. Suggestion, delete everything and start over. This time under each heading answer the question being asked thoughtfully. That will be a huge improvement.
Hey TKS,
So when I sent you here, the main reason that I did was that your profile text was a textbook case of TMI. It was so over the top that I felt it would be scaring people off. It was wildly colored. It was very rambling. It had stories from your distant past which sounded like fantasy (but maybe were true). It didn't matter because it completely failed at the task at hand, which was to be an SLS profile. You're a nice guy. Relatively normal. Your profile was not producing that image.
I suggest reading some of the threads here and looking at the profiles that have resulted. Read some of the profiles of the advice givers. Most, if not all of us, have pretty decent profiles.
Attempt to keep your profile to under 250 words.
So here's my advice:
Avoid colors altogether. You don't need them.
5 public pictures -- (1) Coat&tie, (1) Polo&chinos, (3) Activity&Events (beach/pool if you love it)
SMILE. Take the pictures in good, but not glaring, light, possibly outside. Iron your clothing. Do not take selfies. Have someone take the photos for you. If you have a double chin, take any pictures of your face from slightly below, upwards at an angle which will disguise your chin.
5-10 private pictures
Unless you're a model or a professional photographer, you really don't need more.
Looking for:
Write a clean, coherent 5 sentence statement about what you are looking for three sentences about couples. Two about women.
Right now you have things about what you want in others in your description. Those belong in "Looking for."
Description:
Do not repeat what your Settings already say and pictures show. You can tell us your eye color. Talk about yourself. Talk about non-sexual activities you enjoy. This is where you give people an idea if they are going to like you as a person.
Fantasies and Additional:
This is where you talk about previous experience with FMF.
Unless you are really looking for men and want to change your setting to bi-curious... you might put your bisexual urges down in Fantasies. You might also consider using the word "heteroflexible," which is between straight and bi-curious in orientation.
If I have read your profile correctly you may want to change your profile from straight to bi. Likewise several of your pictures also appear to be those of a bi gentleman.
Best of luck
It's difficult to offer help when someone shows that they won't help themselves. You have a # of typos that can be found/corrected by simply proof reading your profile.
Beyond that, some couples may be reluctant to engage with a SM that is looking for more than sex. Everyone has vanilla friends and I suspect many aren't looking here for SMs to do things with outside of the bedroom.
It's OK to be looking for friends but your profile as written sounds like you're looking for more.
Just my $0.02 worth. Remember that free advice is worth every penny ;-)
Woo boy. There are lots of specific issues with your profile, including unsmiling and unattractive photos, deeply distracting colors, weird divigations, etc., but the biggest issue is one you can't easily solve and that's a seven year old profile with no certs.
For a solo man, that's basically the kiss of death.
Do you want to try to patch this up or create a brand new profile, one that you use spell check on, and then have customer service transfer the billing and terminate this one?
Because your answer determines my response.
I'm sure the resident experts will be here soon but I just had to comment before giving it up for the night.
Get rid of the different colors and all caps in various places in your profile - it was so distracting I could not even read the text. And I'm looking for single guys so you want me to be attracted to your profile.
If I'm seeing things right you have 88 pictures in several galleries - probably need to pare that down a bit. And for the love of God - smile because the serious look isn't working for you.
I'm tired so not as tactful as I normally could be - sorry about that - but all my negativity is directed at your profile not at you!
Good luck!
~Phoebert's Wife
I am looking for feed back an advice on my profile on whether or not it is ok or could be better.
