Inaccurate or deceiving profile stats

“They either have to roll the dice that the folks they're talking to actually look like their photos, or they have to be the villain asking for a weight number, with the inevitable accusations of being shallow.”

Just like needing a picture so you can judge attraction by looks, it is being shallow whether you like to be or not, ie, want to be or not ; everyone has a shallow end and a deep end in this swing pool, most hang right in the shallow, however.

~Allen

TandT, I don’t find it nasty. I don’t mind if the woman is menstruating. But as Mayhem said, tell me first. I would understand if it snuck up on you had that happen to me once)but the presence of the tampon made it clear it wasn’t a surprise.

“Playing bi” bothered me too. I should have seen that coming since her husband said to us over drinks that, when they first got together “he knew she was into girls, she didn’t know, but he knew”. Next time I won’t ignore the “falling rocks” sign.

Then the condom thing... just annoying. Another thing to have let us know up front. If I knew she wanted a condom to give a blow job I would have asked for a dental dam to lick her pussy.

~rabbit~

"Some people that DO look like their pictures simply believe advertising their weight shouldn’t matter if you go by either looks or personality."

Which is fine if one takes that point of view, but the flip side is that it kind of puts other folks in a bad spot. They either have to roll the dice that the folks they're talking to actually look like their photos, or they have to be the villain asking for a weight number, with the inevitable accusations of being shallow.

The thing is, the inaccurate/deceiving profile stats are often focused on getting that first meeting, with the idea that their personality will make up for the inaccuracy. Except that I have my doubts that most folks who try the inaccurate/deceit path can actually pull off the personality thing well enough to make it work. So they end up with bad experiences, and they get frustrated then bitter.

IMPOBE: Some people that DO look like their pictures simply believe advertising their weight shouldn’t matter if you go by either looks or personality.

“If I got on the scale every day and updated SLS to my exact weight I would go crazy.”

HAHA! Exactly, also, although I am 10lbs less than advertised, I’m just being intentionally lazy about updating it.........

.......and in the bedroom, I’m not lazy, I’m just in no rush and like taking my time.

......And another thing.........

don’t misspell or use shorthand.......

UGH!

:growl:

~Allen

Off topic, but It never bothered me to play with a girl that had her period, so long as I know that up front. Not all guys will play like that, but guessing it's usually the girl that's more uncomfortable with that than the guy.

Played with a girl once that didn't let me know. When I saw blood I didn't know if it was her period or if I had somehow hurt her. A little awkward for both of us, to say the least.

Mayhem, we agree. Our philosophy is if they're too lazy for the simple things then they will be too lazy in bed! Same goes for people that are a blast to hang with regardless of looks (to an extent) they're probably a blast in the bedroom as well.

Rabbit, I don't even know what to say to that except that's nasty and completely disrespectful!!! I would spread the word and run them right out of the lifestyle! NO WOMAN SHOULD PLAY WITH ANOTHER COUPLE THAT TIME OF THE MONTH!!!
As far as the condom needed for a blowjob, unfortunately I'm not surprised. Some years back we chatted with a single gal for hours talking about just about everything including what's required what we all like and what's off limits. We met her at a local party that same night and before we even took our clothes off she could have rolled out a scroll that hit the floor of what we could not do AND how we were to do things she would allow! Not at all what we had discussed. Since we were already there we continued to play but was by far the worst experience that we've had so far, we tried to end it as quickly as we could.

In some cases I think it's just being lazy. How many times have you come across, "We are new to the LS" and they've been on SLS for years?

I also think there's this perception by some that there are so many horny people out there looking to fuck anything. You'd think their lack of success would have them realize that's not the case, unless they're looking for SMs. Even then, they're not likely to find good SMs.

It’s not just deception in physical description that’s an issue.

We met up with a tourist couple Saturday. He’s straight. She’s bi. They are both fit and attractive and actually looked like their pictures.

It quickly became apparent that she’s only bi for him. Well that’s a bummer but no biggie I like dick too. However, as I’m giving her cunny a lovely and thourough tongue and lip massage )which she seemed to enjoy) I start to finger her and at the same time I feel an obstruction she says “no fingers!”

FFS! She’s on her period, has a tampon in, and didn’t mention it!?

Fine, so it’s going to just be soft swap.

Her husband starts going down on me and Scamp positions himself for her to blow him when she asks for a condom for oral.

You have to be KIDDING! I was just licking your blood filled donut hole without you bothering to clue me in but you won’t blow Scamp without a condom!?

At that point Scamp and I got up, got dressed, and left. We have no idea what they were thinking but lack of communication is just as deceptive as lying about your weight.

It actually more irritating because we wasted our time with them at the club when there were 3 other couples there that wanted to hook up with us.

~rabbit~

Well said msmolly. It's not the weight that bothers us, it's the deception that's unattractive to us.

We all reject people for different reasons. I'm really sensitive to errors in spelling and grammar and more than one is almost always an automatic no, but I'm fine that one of my playmates is from a 0/0 weight couple. One of these days I'll remember to ask why that is, because if anything he's a little underweight and she certainly isn't overweight. I generally turn down folks with 0 weight, but not because I care what they weigh; it's because it suggests way more self consciousness than I'm likely to find sexy in person.

We like what we like, we dislike what we dislike. There's someone here for everyone.

We actually had to add to our profile about updating pics and stats because the people we met up with was way different looking than what they tried to portray themselves as. As far as putting 0 for weight, we're still not buying it. We are not thin people either and not as young as we used to be and our weight fluctuates as well but 25 lbs. In either direction deserves a profile update. If people put 0 for weight because they just want to fuck, they are being childish and living high school bullshit all over again. Be yourself, there are no guarantees or commitments in the lifestyle...take us for who we truly are or find someone more to your liking, it's as simple as that.

So I think in the 0 lbs person’s case they’re very embarrassed about their weight and would just rather fuck other overweight couples rather than do something about their situation.

I’ve been a size 12 since basically middle school so I am particularly sensitive about this.

I usually fluctuate between 170-180 pounds. I’m slimmer in the summer when I’m doing more races. I’m heavier in the winter when I’m only training indoors. If I got on the scale every day and updated SLS to my exact weight I would go crazy.

Why do people lie about their stats? Do they really think if they meet in person people won't notice? What about stating 0 for weight? You are who you are in my opinion. We just don't understand and deception is an instant REJECTION!