How did we do.

Ok, now that I'm well-rested I see my message yesterday was all screwed up with misspellings. I'm going to chalk it up to exhaustion. Now that I'm at a computer, I can explain more.

One final thing. If you take any advice, add in a picture of the two of you together in nice clothes. You don't necessarily have to be wearing a suit, although it helps. Look at our profile. We have finish line pictures of us, but we also have one picture of us going to see a musical. I think this is important because it is a subtle hint at what we will probably look like when we meet another couple for dinner.

You also should never take the same picture twice. For example, you have two pictures of the two of you together in the car. They are essentially the same picture. This is a waste of good real estate.

All of our pictures are designed to tell a narrative - look at us, we are fit and health and fun and doing interesting things. I do show some skin - you don't have to. I do it because I'm 170 lbs and there are a lot of men who turn up their noses at anyone over 130. So I need to show my body to make them understand that I'm more Christina Hendricks than Melissa McCarthy.

One more thing. You may want to consider blurring your bib numbers. We blur them if the race can be clearly identified. I wouldn't want someone looking up your bib number in the race database and getting your real names. If the race can't be identified from the bib or the background, we leave it alone.

I would be happy to talk about this more... at the Southernmost Marathon in Key West... In October ... hint, hint.

GGMM touched on some things in the influence department, yet I am surprised no one, and I mean absolutely no one has touched on the grammatical train wreck.

I see ?two? picture changes since asking for help, nothing close to diverse; show some skin, get deeper within, an open palm, something! Be sexy.

~Allen

Thank you, well take another stab at it.

Hi. Okay, it's not bad. It's also not great. And I'm a little conflicted about how to go about bridging the gap. So, yeah, it might be a little brutal, because I think I'm going to have to be pretty blunt.

Are you a friends first couple (that's going to limit your pool of potential playmates way more than wearing a Minecraft tee shirt ever would) or do you just want to like the people you fuck? Because right now, you're indicating you're okay with both and that's confusing, particularly as you've indicated you have some experience. That whole friends first thing is usually a newbie requirement and falls apart pretty quickly when you realize that friendship takes a really long time to develop and if you want it to include sex, it's best not to wait on that part. To be more direct, friendship takes time, attraction does not, and if the latter is present, there's not much point in waiting through the weeks and months while friendship to develop in order to have sex. So, maybe decide what you really want.

So, in Looking For there are three clunky word clusters that need fixing. The first is "Ideally, a non smoker couple," the second is "We are looking for both guys and ladies...as we see fit," and the third is "We enjoy social drinking, with...fun." In the first case, however important non-smoking is to you, it shouldn't come before spelling out that you're looking for couples, women and men. Also, while it's okay to play havoc with standard grammar, your first sentence should be a complete one. In the second instance, as you see fit makes it sound like it's not a mutually advantageous choice, but something you drive and have complete control over. You need to find different language, something that doesn't sound like you're sticking these people in the closet to be taken out and played with as you see fit. The last one is mostly a problem due to the oddity of English sentence structure. How about We enjoy DDF fun and social drinking.

Description sounds like you typed sentences on strips of paper, threw them up in the air and then combined the result into a wall o' text paragraph with no regard to logic. Also, you sound defensive about being gamers. Don't do that. And if you want professionals, the place to note that is in Looking For, because Description is about you. As for the rest, it's actually too scattered for me to really critique it. Just...okay, I'll try. Don't bother saying you have kids. You can introduce scheduling issues when you're arranging to meet someone. The part about not wanting to replace one another is kind of a given and highlighting it instead of just having it as part of your private conversation is defensive and makes me think you have some potential for drama. That impression is further fostered by your emphasis on not wanting drama or bullshit. You know who thinks other people introduce drama? People who are themselves full of drama. It's pretty much axiomatic.

In Fantasies, I don't really love it, but it's serviceable. Just change separate to separately. And consider splitting the second sentence into two, which would be less awkward. In Additional comments, you could use the word "policy" in between "no drug use" and "during."

Other than that, in your tagline, redhead shouldn't be capitalized.

I would like to see more personality, actually. This reads like it was written primarily by a man and one who liked being in control, so it's not particularly likeable, which it probably an inaccurate reflection of the two of you.

Updated profile has posted along with a more diverse pic group!

Yeah, and now I'm going to push back a bit too, because I also disagree with Velma. If something is a passion, whether it's guns or games or gardening, it's going to come up in conversation. Will being a nerd turn people off? Who knows. And even more, who cares. We are who we are and we like what we like and what shows up to meet (and possibly fuck) other people is the totality of everything we are. Do people get to nope out if your passion disturbs them in some way? Of course. But you don't want those people. Not even a little. Because they're limited and they want their playmates to be similarly limited and that's not a recipe for plaster denting, bed breaking, sparks flying sex.

Most of the people I know don't read the way I do. Not in volume, not in content. I don't do crocheting, emergency medicine, tabletop gaming, hunting, motorcycle repair, or half a hundred things that the people I have sex with do. Somehow we manage to have interesting conversations anyway.

Be you and celebrate your uniqueness. If that includes being nerdy gamers or roadkill taxidermists (true - a friend of my kids since childhood), own it. You might find some fellow travelers, you might bore a few people, whatever. Most people will be fine with it.

Well, here’s my point about names like “nerdy” and it kind of falls into my argument about not having pictures of guns or politically charged language.

SLS really isn’t who you are you do you wish you were. I pretrade myself as an oversexed teacher When really I’m just exhausted all the time and busy doing laundry and cleaning and cooking as well as holding down my job.

Think of this site as a Facebook for sex - you’re always putting your best face forward. I agree that you should be true to yourself but there are some things back to turn people off before they even click on your profile. A nerdy couple will probably click on runners but running couple might not click on a couple they think is nerdy. Just something to keep in mind.

Now, I'm going to have to respectfully disagree with Velma on the name-change thing. If that's who you are, and if that's what you're comfortable with, then go with it. Fly your freak flag high, so to speak.

However, there's a really important truth in her comment. Virtually everything we put in our profile is going to attract some folks, while others are repelled by the same thing. It's important to recognize that, and accept that we won't be able to write our profiles to be attractive to everyone. The thing is, be aware of the effect on every item in your profile, and then find a balance you can live with. A balance that attracts the type of folks you want to play with, and that presents yourselves in the manner that you wish to be perceived.

I don’t have many suggestions.

Maybe get one pic of the two of you dressed up like you are going to church or a nice dinner?

I would also suggest that you contact the SLS admins and get your screen name changed to “runningcouple” or something like that. Your current profile name may be excluding you from other non-nerdy couples.

You two are a cute couple. You should join us down in Key West this October for the Southernmost Marathon.

Cake is a lie. I'll wait for your changes to take effect before commenting. No, I'm not using the terminator voice.

We're with sorillo. Your nickname implies people who just aren't evident in the profile.

As a guy who is in hour 50 something of a replay of Fallout 4 I was excited by the nickname and wholly disappointed by the profile.

Thanks ! Took the changes to hear. Waiting for the staff to approve new photos and profile.

For your first stab at it, pretty decent job, believe me we've seen MUCH worse, but still in need of some work. Now you just need to start tweaking and building on it.

Probably the biggest problem is that it's somewhat generic. I don't get a sense of you as a unique couple. You ARE a unique couple, but you need to do some work on communicating that fact. To be fair, that's probably one of the more difficult things for folks to do, so don't feel bad about it. One example you might look at is that your profile name refers to being nerdy gamers, so perhaps you could expand a bit on that theme. Maybe make a GlaDOS "the cake is a lie" joke or something similar. Don't write an epic novel on the subject, but make a reference or two that those of like interests would recognize. That goes with any other activity you're into: Major League Baseball, surfing, woodworking, music etc.

Photos. Oh, I'm conflicted here. I like that you have photos of both of you, together and separate, and with genuine smiles that make you look like you're fun to be around. You have no idea how rare that is. But there's a LOT of identifying information in the photos, like where you work and the uniform etc. That can really come back to bite you in the rear end if things go sideways, so you should pull those pics. At the very least, blur out the place names, but that might not be enough to protect yourself.

You should do some spelling and grammar checking. You have a few mistakes in there that could stand correction. I'll leave the details to others who can focus in on that much more effectively than I.

Lastly, remember that your profile will always be a work in progress. So do some reading of other folks' threads in this section, look at the advice given to them, and consider how that advice might help you.

Good luck!

Will not hurt our feeling. Bring on the brutal recommendations!