HELP HELP HELP

Virginia Beach, VA, Us

Ok. I’m gonna be honest here.

You look like you shop at Auto Zone.

In the pictures you have now, both your polo and your t-shirt is too big. You’re wearing cargo pants. You need to light those fuckers on fire.

There is a Men’s Warehouse in Grand Chute, WI.

Go there. Buy a Navy blazer, a white shirt, a blue shirt, a pair of Khaki slacks, a pair of light Grey slacks. Get a belt and loafers.

Make sure you get the clothes tailored. You will look amazing.

Get a picture at a nice restaurant in your new clothes with your wife dressed well. I guarantee that you will get more interest.

Virginia Beach, VA, Us

I’m in the middle of watching the NBA playoffs, but I’ll do what I can.

First off, I opened a private gallery to show you what kind of pictures you should have.

Second, if the lady half doesn’t vomit in her mouth at the thought of kisssing another girl, just list her as “bi-curious.” You’ll get more interest. Kissing women and smooshing boobs feels good and it drives guys nuts, so why not do it?

But if the lady half is 100% straight, don’t change anything.

Keep pictures 2,3 and 9. Kill everything else.

Ideally, you want 5 pictures- a picture of you two dresses up for a DATE, a picture at an EVENT, a picture at a BEACH or pool, a picture of the CHICH and a pic of HIM.

I’m going to talk about the guy next.

Phoenix, AZ, Us

Hi. Thanks for letting me know you've opened your profile to women so that I could view it. You've experienced the bluntness that's the rule around here, so I won't bother to offer the standard disclaimer. Just...it's meant kindly, even when it doesn't feel that way.

Let's do your photos first. There are too many, what you have is often repetitive, and you are not at all careful about the backgrounds, which means I've seen your piled laundry, your toilet, and a cluttered corner of your kitchen. None of these things are appealing and are directly in conflict with your multiple uses of the word "clean." Since she's noped out, you'll have to look elsewhere for the very specific advice Velma gives about successful photos. Mine is to only have 10 or fewer photos, most of them with the two of you together and in street clothes. Smile and be very careful about the backgrounds, which send some unintentional messages.

Your tagline is a waste of an opportunity to attract attention. Try for something clever, if you can. Otherwise, sincere is okay, but in either case try to avoid clichés.

Looking For is meant to be about the people you're looking for and what you're looking for with them. Instead, you've made it all about you. People need to be able to see themselves in this section and you've given them nothing. Who are you looking for? What are you looking to do with them? That's what goes here. I do think this is where you put the information about bareback, because it's such a divisive issue.

For what's in there now, the robo-cock thing, for those who don't know you use a pump, just sounds like boasting. That you are full swap is in your toggles and if you're interested in those 21 and over, change your age range. I would suggest you move your upper age range up as well though, because the optics are better. Most of the rest could use some compression and a move to Additional comments or Description.

Description is about you as people. Who you are, what your interests are (I know you have them listed already, but they belong in this section). I think there's some of that here, but it's buried under a flood of words. You'd be better served by trimming down the extraneous detail about where you want to meet and whether you offer pressure or not in favor of a more concise description of you as a couple.

Fantasies is your strongest section, but it doesn't actually directly address a fantasy. So I think you've perhaps missed an opportunity to connect with another couple that might share that (not at all graphically recounted) fantasy.

Except here, in Additional comments, where you specifically have a fantasy of conversion.

What actually goes here is a lot of other stuff that you've misplaced elsewhere.

There's a bunch of stuff that I'm missing, because there's so much detail that I keep getting lost, so my suggestion is to think of revisions as a process that will take more than one pass.

Good luck.

Virginia Beach, VA, Us

Ok, so the first thing that pops out is the bareback thing. I would veto you two in a milisecond. I've fucked... I don't know... over 100 men... maybe more like 250 over the past 20 years. I didnt start counting until I met my husband. But I've had bareback sex with exactly two men - one of whom was my husband. I always used condoms, and I never got anything.

I grew up in the age of AIDS. Back then, we didnt even know if you could contract AIDS from hugging, or sharing a glass of water. So if you had unprotected sex, even once, you died.

Normally I dont judge people for their sexual choices, but I can't in good conscience help you make a better profile that could put other people at risk.

If you rethink your stance on unprotected sex, I'll help you, but until then, I just can't put other people at risk.

Phoenix, AZ, Us

Hi. You have single women blocked, so I can't see your entire profile. If you temporarily change that, it's unlikely you'll be deluged with email from women. From what I can see, I agree - you need help.

Please read our profile and help us polish it up. WE are very serious about meeting people and would appreciate any help... thanks

We are attractive clean shaved and safe. He has a “6 1/2 thick Robo-Cock,” can stay hard all night. Condoms or bareback your choice. Can travel or host, same room or separate. We are serious, experienced and full swap. Need to meet in person. Interests include playing pool, darts, hot tub, camping, travel and much more. We like listening to music, slow dancing, and flirtatious fun. Lets meet for a meal or drink, “swinging is time well spent with friends.” Please include a full face photo when replying.