I know you guys didn't suggest that i delete my acct. I was saying if i still dont have any success after tidying up my profile then i will delete it on my own. Why would i keep something that does me no good?
I will just go to parties and hang around like minded people and if it happens it happens. Or i will just wait for that once and a blue moon me and my wifes schedual align and we will find some fun. Thanks again.
You can't win if ya don't play.
"Yes, I'm sure that I've read that somewhere before."
(In my best Jack Nicholson voice)
Tramp
Er, why would you delete your profile? You are probably never going to be as successful swinging solo as your wife, whether it's meeting people at clubs, etc., or on-line. That has nothing to do with you personally. It's merely a numbers game. The number of couples and single women looking for guy is significantly lower than the number of couples, men and woman looking for a woman. That's just how it is.
Lightning does strike though, here and in person. And, really, my experience says that a successful connection with a couple or a single often leads to being introduced to their friends and friends of their friends. So, maybe consider getting out and meeting people as well as writing to couples and women that interest you?
Well, you're certainly welcome.
Delete your account? OK. I don't know that either of us suggested that, but by all means...may the force be with you.
Tramp
I want to say thanks to both of y'all for your constructive critique of my profile. I will take both of y'all's advice and the first thing is I will clean up my profile as best as possible , I will sure up my pictures and if I still don't have much success I'll just go ahead and delete my account and try my luck in public settings. Your time was appreciated.
I left out the part about wanting to get together and satisfy each other, because I think it belongs in Additional information.
In Description, maybe this: I am in a relationship and have full permission and blessings to play. Sometimes I like to feel things out at first, but once I get comfortable, I really open up and become silly and funny and very flirtatious. I like being social. Bars, clubs, concerts, festivals, sporting events, anything that involves mingling.
I am also very sexual. I like thinking and talking about and having sex! I'm very oral (every guy's profile says that, but seriously, I am). I like kissing, sucking and licking all over.
I'm attractive. Definitely not everyone's preference, but that's ok. I pride myself on not being disrespectful or pushy. I also play as part of a couple, and I know my place and my role in the dynamic. I'm respectful of rules, desires, and most of all other people's time.
In Fantasies, I like what you have a lot. I think it's the most personal engaging part of your profile. It's also too repetitive and riddled with errors.
Try this: I am a pleaser! I try hard and give max effort, whatever and however desired. Nearly no limits. My fantasy is for you to live out your fantasies. Nothing is hotter or gets me going more than fulfilling something for somebody that they have longed to experience.
I fantasize about all kinds of scenarios and situations. If I had to pick one, my biggest fantasy or turn on is being dominated by a couple. Not in a mean or degrading way, but in an I am here for whatever commands you make kind of way.
Additional info: I hope to find people who get horny often and want to get together and satisfy each other in a hot, sexy, carefree way. I'm not single, I have experience playing as part of a couple and I know what is needed.
You can contact her to verify that I have her permission and blessing to play solo. You can even meet us together if desired. We have no secrets.
And that's all, folks.
Tramp is right that your best bet is clubs, parties and meet and greets, but a cleaned up profile won't hurt.
Hi Lance. You seem super bubbly and fun and I'm trying to figure out how to streamline and clean up your profile without losing that. Also, you have randomly inserted apostrophes, generally not in words where they belong, and I'm kind of enjoying that. And I just realized you're often using those apostrophes where you should be using commas. So, please go in and change those little spermy looking punctuation marks that you're putting in to separate words to the exact same spermy looking things, but down on the ground instead of up in the air.
Okay, starting with the easy part, at most you need only one recent photo of you and your wife. The rest should be of you and at least one or two should show your clothed body from head to toe. You are 5' 4" and weigh 184 pounds and that will cause some concern that you resemble a beach ball (I'm sure you don't). Have your wife or a friend take the photos.
Also, seriously consider having your wife give you a cert. It will help separate you from the herd and further underline that you aren't cheating.
Onwards. First, don't give your name in your profile. I think it's charming, but it's also kind of like my excitable dog. So, sign your name in your emails, but don't use it here. Second, get rid of all but one of those exclamation points!!! Really. Again, charming but Chihuahua-like is not the look you want to go for.
I'm kind of overwhelmed by the sheer number of words you've used, but here's what I would do in Looking For (I hope without erasing your unique voice):
"I would like to meet open, fun, funny and laid back people and make friends for in and out of the bedroom. I like being flexible, so people that are ok with going out just as much as staying in are ideal. I'm looking for singles and couples that are secure with themselves and their relationships. Also looking for people who like talking. I love conversation and open communication with everyone involved. I don't really have any specific physical type that I am looking for. If you are kept up and carry yourself well, then please don't hesitate to say hello!"
Hello again.
I'm not sure that you'll get responses that are materially different from what you got in the other thread, but who knows, right?
I won't speak to the specifics of your profile. That's not to say that there isn't a host of issues, there are. Spelling, grammatical mistakes, cliché remarks, etc... I'll leave that to anyone else who wants to chime in, but I did want to leave you with one thought regarding success.
You can listen to all of the advice you receive, correct every error, dot every "I" and cross every "t". Arrive at what many may call the perfect profile and I will still almost guarantee you that your "success" rate will remain essentially the same.
Many will disagree with me on that point, but I am a firm believer that men rarely achieve actual sexual encounters based on an online profile alone. The rare exceptions would belong to a few of the Rock Stars (as I call them), but you and I do not belong to that prestigious group.
You are not an unattractive guy, and I'll assume that you are as social as you claim. If I am correct, you would probably do as well as the next guy at actual events where other people were. To try and accomplish that via an online profile alone is very, very difficult at best.
Best wishes,
Tramp
Well ad me to the list of people who need help with their profile due to having no activity.
I have always been told having another set of eyes helps see things you over look.
So if you all could help me I'd appreciate it. Thanks for your time.
