Have at it

Thanks, njny. I'd actually forgotten that photo, which was a placeholder when I created this profile, existed. I don't have junk drawers but apparently make up for it by never looking at or clearing out my SLS galleries. That's a really good idea about heeled boots. I'll probably do that one, plus my housemate offered to take some outside shots later this week. I'll need someone else for Velma's ideas, which are also great.

I'm funny in response to others. What I generate spontaneously is so dry you can see the dust clouds from half a mile away. But I've tried to add some humor. ;-)

Heh. Well, you're not kinky, but even if you were, it's kinda tough to casually drop into a conversation that, oh, hey, I'm much more comfortable on the other end of a leash, but every few months, someone straps me into hard restraints, poses me in odd positions, and takes dirty pictures of the results.

But you know now. ;-)

Also, no self deprecation. I went to look at that men's shirt photo (well, both of them) and you could pretty much give anyone a heart attack with what you have there.

Oh, you do fetish modeling? I’m surprised you never told me, but then again, a lady doesn’t talk with her mouth full.

There are time on here when I think I would be a great “Before” model...

"...nude stiletto heels"

The last time I wore nude heels it was the 80s. I was fangirling over U2 and rocking a 50's influenced high femme look, so probably not. I actually do have seven pairs of black heels, including multiple pairs of stilettos. I even wear them outdoors on occasion. ;-)

That is a very good point about moving away from the male gaze photos. I haven't been concerned one way or another, because while I have occasional adventures, I've mostly been seeing the same people for the last year and a half and only one of them has even seen my profile here.

The photos that I use are an afterthought. I'm already feeling exposed (I started with compassion for the people who post in this forum and it's going to be doubled in the future), so I might as well go full TMI. I do fetish modeling and my profile photos are what happens as the photographer takes test shots and I wait for the unavoidable clothing lines to disappear. My only input is to insist that my tattoos are covered up for that part and that we use a neutral background.

But you're completely right that now that I'm searching for a particular person, I should actually think about how to attract her. And clothed photos are definitely going to do that way better than test shots done by a man who likes my legs and tits. I probably will need a different photographer.

I won't be actively looking until autumn, so I have time. Thanks!

Oh, and the bdsm thing is fair warning to anyone who sticks around. Unless they're really dominant, and sometimes even then, I'm eventually going to tie them up. I probably get a few extra messages from guys who are attracted to that, but not many. ;-)

Ok, so on to profile text. First off, there is a fundamental difference between me and you when it comes to woman. For me, women have always been #1. A fun distraction. #2. An easy way to safely orgasm without being raped. #3. A way to get attention from men.

But you crave women in a way that I can't comprehend because I'm not really gay. So let's start with that.

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Looking For:

You know that feeling you get when you see a valentine in your mailbox with your name on it? That's how I feel every time I see a woman I crave. It happens to me in the supermarket when I see you reaching for some milk. It happens when I It happens when I pass you by as I'm leaving the gym and you're sauntering in. It happens when I make eye contact with you in the waiting room when I get my car serviced and I wonder If we just might... just could... I think about touching you. I think about your hot breath on my thighs... of inquisitive tongues and exploring fingers... of sweating with you and clawing and grinding... until our thirst for each other is slaked.

I have a beau. I love him dearly, but he is away a lot and I crave women with an urge that makes them more addictive than the most potent drug. So I am looking for another lady or lady half of a couple playing seperately who can fill this desire.

On occasion, I am open to single mean for MFM's with my beau. Please understand that this extra man probably won't be you, and odds are we'll post a hotdate when I want this kind of experience. Single men, please respect this. I will know if you didn't read this far.

Description:
I'm uninhibited, attractive, sensual, cheerful, professional and comfortable in my own body. I am a mom of two (Insert breed here) dogs who keep me very physically active.

Fantasies and / or real experiences:
I've been in the lifestyle on and off for over 15 years, sometimes with a partner, other times solo, which means I've done most things at least twice. I'm disease free and want to remain that way, so I'm a fanatic about condoms, test regularly and ask that you do so as well. (Take out the BDSM thing. It draws the pervy guys. You can talk about BDSM one on one)

Additional comments and things to do, see, hear or learn about:
If you are the lady half of a couple, you can feel free to reach out... but it must be the lady reaching out, not the man who is trying to give his wife an experience. I prefer to meet the other lady one on one. Over time, when I feel comfortble, the husband can join and play with you, but I will not be involved. Keep in mind, I have a beau who travels a lot for work and is aware of everything I do. You will not be the exception of my rules, but if you adhere to them, we will have an amazing time.

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So I think this would be a big improvement and help filter out the "want to see me jack on cam" guys while attracting the soccer moms who want to experiement with a woman. Thoughts?

I think as women we all have the parts of our body we love, and the parts of our body we loath. I love my boobs. I hate... like basically everything else. Big nose, big boobs, big ass, no waist. My thighs look like someone sewed a bag of potatos to my torso.

Your body is... incredible. And not even incredible "for your age" I mean, you truely are amazing.

But I never really liked your pictures. I know you are super proud of your legs - and you should be. But I have a feeling that your pictures draw the pervy foot and leg fetish people out. That, combined with with pictures being black and white, kind of make you seem old - like your profile is something that I would discover in a shoe box along wth a revolver and an old Vietnam era Bronze Star when helping a friend clean out her dead father's house.

I've met you. My husband has fucked you. You are way more fun than some trinkets in an old shoebox.

Also, as a woman, boobies and legs really don't turn me on. I mean... you know I'm straight. I don't really get turned on by looking at a woman's body. With me, the turn on is more mental... the thought that I'm going to give a woman a wild night and she's going to remember me forever. So I may or may not be the best judge of how to make yourself attractive to other women. However, I think most woman want to know you're going to roll in for a meeting in a nice dress with your nails done. I think I can work with this.

I want to position you as a powerful woman with a powerful sexual appetite. With your job, I bet you have a collection of blouses and skirts. I like the idea of a few pictures of you posing in your office or in a position of power at a desk or in the lobby of an building. Then, if you can, take the same pictures with the same pose and same background in lingerie with garters and hose. You can even pose them next to each other in a sort of ON/OFF or BEFORE/AFTER pose.

You may have to pay a professional boudoir photographer for this, but then you can also make the pictures a present for your beau. Or, you can forgo the lingerie pictures and just tell a friend that you need new professional pictures.

I think you can do one boobie picture... maybe with an open shirt and a big strand of fake pearls? Look at the semi-nude nude picture with tae man's shirt I have in my "Picture Example" folder. You could totally pull that off, but use a woman's shirt, not a man.

We need to talk about heels, Molly. I know you hate them, just go to Ross, buy a pair of black or nude stiletto heels and wear them for the photo shoot. They will make you look even more amazing than you already are. Then you can throw them away or donate them to some Sluts Without Heels organization, but just wear them, ok?

I'll get to your profile text in a minute.

I was actually pretty happy with my profile the way it was, but someone who lives about 50 miles south of me copied chunks of it wholesale. That's fine. I mean I'd rather not, but it was worth it for the laugh I got from her insistence on keeping the warning about not using her profile content anywhere, plus I often advise people to steal taglines, so I have no kick. Also, pretty lady. ;-)

Anyway, I made a couple of changes, but I'm still me and it isn't different enough. Plus there's a typo and I'm not crazy about some of the syntax. I want it to be welcoming without encouraging anyone to write to me, so it's a bit of contradiction.

I'm open to critiques, suggestions and whatever else anyone has to offer. Oh, and there are new photos but I haven't seen them yet, so who knows. It's same old same old though. Me in a sweater to cover the tattoos and not give many clues about how I live.