The main issue you have is that you are in a relationship and that sends out red flags to many wanting to avoid drama. As mentioned, you have to have some way to let people connect with your wife/ partner to know she is giving permission. Even if you were in my age range I would breeze on by because of the old grainy pictures. They are either really old or just poorly done. You cannot have either of those. Read the sticky and apply the advice you have already received.
Feedback please
Gotta tell you I’m blown away by the effort Phoebert's Wife and Ms Molly put in. I’ll take heart in the idea that it is better to be worth correcting than it is to be ignored. After looking at my profile for too long I could no longer really see it, but I’ll try to make some improvements and see if you wonderful ladies think it is better.
Hi. I'm just going to be blunt here, but before I do, please know everything I say is kindly meant and aimed at increasing your success.
So, I hate your default profile photo. Not sure what your aim is, but it's the photo of a man who doesn't know any better about what women are looking for. Alternatively, you're in the mode of proving you aren't too old to be attractive and have mistaken how to go about that. Is a good nude a necessary thing for a guy? Some women would say yes, so maybe in a private gallery that you don't open unless asked. Instead, have your wife help you out and take some good full length photos of you in clothes that fit and some others of your smiling face. That's actually going to be more effective than what you have now. Women aren't men and while a nude woman is an enticement to men, there are better options for men who wish to attract the interest of women.
Next, please revamp your tagline into something that's both interesting and an invitation to open and read your profile. Now it's just generic and, like your photo, doing you no favors.
For the text, you get to use the word "passionate" only once. That will mean a substantial rewrite, which is fortunate, because I get the sense you're far more interesting than you've portrayed yourself here.
First, in Looking For, please devote all the verbiage to who you're looking for and what, with the focus on the people you are looking for. This is a good place to talk about the kind of women you like. You can talk about yourself in the next three sections.
Description is where you can talk about being in an open marriage. Save the rest, like how your wife will reassure couples and women that you are in fact playing with permission, for Additional comments. For the remainder, concentrate on positive ways to say things. So, yeah, that you're educated and interested in xyz, but nix on the no drama/no interest in a new partner. Frame everything as a yes, basically, and leave the noes out of it. If you find that this section is a little sparse, say more about some of your interests. Like, how does your interest in food play out?
In Fantasies, the second paragraph is a better way to start. You can then segue into the part where you're straight but not homophobic.
Aside from the very good policy of never letting an opportunity to sell yourself go unmissed, you do have things to put in Additional comments. How your wife can reassure all and sundry that you're not a cheating liar is one. That your age, weight, and photos are current is another (and make sure that's true). The part about how you've taken time off periodically can also go here, but I'd leave out the part about not being an experienced veteran.
Otherwise, you could use a current cert, because your most recent is seven years old.
I really do hope you make some changes and then come back around for another look. Good luck.
Not getting many replies seems to be the norm on SLS so don't stress over that. Just celebrate the replies you do receive.
Your profile could use a bit of fine-tuning but it's probably doing a reasonably good job. A few things could be moved to different sections. You don't want to leave that last section blank. If your wife is willing to verify your hall pass that is critical information that should be included somewhere. And you've gone a bit overboard with the word passionate.
I'm not really fond of either photo in your public gallery but they're not the worst I've seen. I generally recommend Velma's advice for public photos. And smile - a happy, smiling face will probably attract as much positive attention as your very lovely butt.
Good luck, have fun and stay safe!
~Phoebert's Wife
I’d love some feedback on my profile. When I write to people I get a fair number of visits to my profile, but then only a few follow up messages, even to say “sorry I don’t think we are a match”. Not zero and playing single I’m not going to complain, but I do wonder.
Is there something about my profile that turns people off, beyond the married guy with a hall pass not seeming believable?

