Etiquette

I don’t send out messages at all. If I reach out to anyone, it’s usually to say, “Hey, we’re not compatible but I like your profile. Good luck with your search.”

i wouldn't recommend sending friend requests at all. Reach out via messages to anyone that you'd like to connect with and see how they respond. Don't be offended that 90% will never respond, that just seems to be the way things work here.

I treat unsolicited friend requests here the same way I do FB friend requests, which means I delete them the first time and block the sender the second time.

I wouldn't "Add Friend" anyone I hadn't already talked to. That's what "Favorites" is for. As far as I know, Favorites is for keeping track of people you'd like to contact later. I think it also allows you to open up photos to those people.

Add Friend has to be responded to on their end.

People are People, no matter where they are or what they do for fun. So approach them as prospective friends. If they are looking for something more fleeting, they'll let you know and you can adjust accordingly.

While the saying is, "Do unto others as they want to be done onto", you can probably figure out a lot of this via common sense and/or just by asking yourselves how you'd like to be contacted.

How do you know if you even want to be friends with someone here? You'll need to at least learn something about them first, so a good start is to read someone's profile. If you think you are a match, a message is really your best bet.

If/when you do message someone, try to use something from their profile to indicate why you think you're a good match. Sending a "She has a great ass" is probably not something you want to lead with BTW ;-)

While this is a site designed to help people have sex with others, I think it's safe to say that most are looking to connect on other levels, so there is more than just "sex" as a common interest.

You may also want to search the forums for "Etiquette", as this subject has been discussed here before.

Welcome! First piece of advice would be to get some pics up. If you find a profile interesting, send a message and wait for the response. If there is mutual interest your instincts will guide you through the get to know process. What’s right for some may not be right for others. Some folks like to have dinner and drinks before moving forward. Some like to meet at a lifestyle club. Some like to get acquainted on kik and meet at a hotel. You will know what’s right for you as it happens. Good luck!

The Icons are pretty much self explained.. block for those who are rude, jerks, dont interest you, etc etc, notes is for adding the notes in your profile if you like, dont like, they are great , lied, anything you want.. others will explain .

There is a menu on SLS but not sure right now where to find it.. Wayne from CS may be able to help if he reads this.

If we like you, think we are a match or want to save your profile we list as our favorites so we can go back anytime. I would not hit friend request unless you have chatted and have some chemistry.. it opens photos that you may not want open once you get them up.

Welcome.. first thing and foremost get some nice fun or sexy photos on your profile page or you will be just one more who will be on the sidelines.

So for "us" we are active select swingers well over 25 years . If we see a profile that intrigues us, has great photos, well written and what we are looking for, we reach out with a well written friendly IM and see if the feeling is mutual. If it is we set up a meet for drinks and some food while we chat and get to know each other... if all have some chemistry, we are off to our bed . That quick, that simple, and yes just happened this past Saturday with a new SLS person.

Those here who play the endless chat game, friend request without meeting, sorry not for us.. its not FB but a sex swing site. Good luck, enjoy and have fun thats what its about!

We are new to the lifestyle and new to this site. I just wanted to inquire about what typical etiquette is here, or more so the best way to make connections? Of course we are trying to be very open , honest and clear in our profile and treat all connections with discretion and respect. But what is the typical process? Do you “add friend” to a couple you’re interested in and see if they want to connect back then message from there? Or is it better to message first? There’s also a bunch of icons and options in the message/friend/block section. Can someone advise what the other things listed there mean? Thanks!