Don't be too harsh please

Awww sorry Velma. Ok thanks. I'll peek.

I am sorry I am late.

I hate my job. We moved offices and now I have no place to work. I’m not homeless, just office less.

I don’t have time to write a whole review, but I opened my picture help gallery. Maybe you will get some inspiration?

"Heh. Yeah, not really on the heels, plus I'm not sure how I'd shoot pool teetering on stilts. '

Was a long day yesterday, wasn't thinking about that aspect. Lol !!

"I really like the new default - you look like fun, happy people that I'd like to meet!"

Thank you ! Always works that way doesn't it ?.

Heh. Yeah, not really on the heels, plus I'm not sure how I'd shoot pool teetering on stilts. I'll probably actually wear my favorite pair of wide legged pants, flats, and a fitted tee. My point was to find out what your idea of dressing to impress was. And if it's jeans and a tee shirt or a button down shirt, then wear that for photos. The point is to show how the two of you will dress for that first vanilla meeting with someone you think you might want to have sex with.

I'm technically about 30 pounds overweight, because I have a very small frame, but I wear a size 8, so anyone estimating my weight is liable to get it wrong. We weigh what we weigh.

It was fine in your public gallery - I just didn't think it was the best choice for your default photo. I've been known to recommend non-sexy but eye-catching pictures as default when doing reviews. After a while photos of single guy abs or lovely lady tits start to look the same.

I really like the new default - you look like fun, happy people that I'd like to meet!

"Since I use a small laptop I'm conscious of small pictures and yours just wasn't easy to figure out until I went to your profile where it is larger. I can't imagine how it looks on the smaller screen of a phone. It is a nice picture - I just liked your others better"

Thanks. I moved it to our private pictures.

"If you were me, what would you wear in these circumstances?"

well you look comfortable dressing up so probably a short dress and some high heels , but that's not my thing so I would wear jeans and a t-shirt or a button-down shirt cuz that's just who I am.

Good luck , hope it goes well.

No one that sees me believes I weigh close to 200# but I list my weight because not listing it seems like I'm hiding something. Do people pass me by - sure, probably more than I'll ever know. I make our profile text appealing and try to be engaging in messages.

Since I use a small laptop I'm conscious of small pictures and yours just wasn't easy to figure out until I went to your profile where it is larger. I can't imagine how it looks on the smaller screen of a phone. It is a nice picture - I just liked your others better.

I'm going to a meet and greet tomorrow. The place isn't particularly fancy and we'll mostly just be shooting pool, playing darts, and/or singing karaoke. But one of the organizers is a woman that I have a bit of a thing for and she'll be there. So, pretty casual environment, but I want to make a really good impression.

If you were me, what would you wear in these circumstances?

We don't do the dress up thing, we don't even own dress clothes... totally out of our element...

AandJin

Thanks. Changed it.

Goodgolly

Thanks for your input. It's appreciated.

Hi. You have the disclaimer. I've done this myself and know how exposed it made me feel, so I hear you. But really, it's about your profile.

I don't have a ton of time, since I should have left ten minutes ago, so I won't be as detailed as I might otherwise get. But I think that's a good thing, because I don't think your profile is readily salvageable. Instead, I think you should toss it and start over, because none of it works.

What you have is defensive, shouty, makes you sound difficult, and as if you're resigned to not appealing to others. Since, based on your (not at all good) photos and that quick interchange in BBW, you're actually both really attractive and at least one of you is really smart, you're currently doing yourselves a disservice.

So, at the very least, go find someone to take new photos in some dress up clothes (she would look much better in something with a waist rather than a polo shirt, which flatters no woman on the planet) and then revamp your profile as if you were interviewing for a job you were very well qualified for. Handle your frequent absences as if they're just a thing - we're home one week every six (or whatever) and want to have some good fwbs for our time off - think about shooting one flattering nude of her, probably from the back, maybe looking over her shoulder (if you're lucky, maybe Velma will show up and arrange to have you see one she sent me that gave me heart palpitations), and otherwise exude sincerity, confidence and optimism.

Is that enough or do you need specifics of where I think your profile has gone off the rails?

I like your default. I think its sexy and suggestive.

But I wouldn't have it as a default. Since you've got your faces open I'd make the one with the both of you in the truck tour default. You both look happy in that one.

Also just had this is 0 weight on another thread. I don't list my weight because I don't look like I weigh what I weigh . I have pictures that show my entire body and they are recent. You can tell I'm a bigger girl, it's either your thing or it's not :)

Thank you . Edited , waiting for approval. I have to say tho , you are the first one ever to have anything negative to say about our default pic.
Thanks again.

If we're harsh or blunt just remember it is all directed at your profile - not you personally.

First thing I noticed that many consider a red flag is a zero weight for her. Second thing is the all caps YELLING in Looking For. Then you repeat your ages in Description (and her age is different in stats section). I'd probably have given up before getting to Fantasies and Additional Comments where there is a lot of information.

So - delete anything that is already in your stats or shows in your pictures. Delete the historical updates - don't care that you're moving back to east Texas a year ago.

A lot of what's in Additional Comments belongs in other sections. Evaluate every line of your profile and decide if it is really necessary and where it really belongs. Once you're all done and happy with your text you need to run it through a spell check and grammar check - it will find all of your many punctuation errors.

Your pictures aren't bad but you've chosen the one I like the least as your default. It is really hard to tell what it is in the little glimpse we get in search results or alongside your forum post - for that reason I'd suggest using something more readily identifiable for your default.

Have fun and good luck!

~Phoebert's Wife

Hi guys and gals,

Go ahead and let er rip. Tell us what we need to do different. Lots look few write.

Thanks