Brutal honesty requested

Nope - it will just hang around forever without a beginning now. ;-)

popsecret2023 - " Male half here, by the way, and I just think it might be my looks and height that are putting people off."

There are so many reasons that people will not engage with someone online, yet some of those same people WILL engage at a LS party. It is just as likely that it's the Mrs being in excess of 300lbs at 5'5" than it is about your looks. Not everyone is into BBW, but regardless, your odds will always be better in person at a party.

Personality doesn't really come through in a profile or pictures. Plus, a party atmoshpere tends to have a positive effect on libido.

That said, I do like your default profile picture and you still need to flesh some things out, like hobbies/fun activities in your Description section and what you'd like to do in a general sense in your Looking For section if you find who you're looking for. For example, FMF, FFM or MFMF in either same and/or separate room play, or if you're even looking for full swap for that matter.

Keep in mind that with zero interest in Males, I believe that excludes the single largest group on SLS from even seeing your profile. We ourselves do not normally engage with singles of either sex outside of a LS party, however we consider a SM/SF pair a couple for all intents and purposes. By blocking SMs, you eliminate that possibilty vs specifying that you may consider an SM/SF together as a couple.

"...I could try adding some more details, but stay brief. If I get too verbose, people are going to lost interest."

It's less about length and more about what you highlight. Think of it as a marketing plan, where you're marketing a terrific couple to a specific audience. You don't want to buff yourselves up into something you're not, because that's an unsuccessful approach, but you do want to market into your best understanding of who you're looking for.

So that means being interesting. That requires a certain level of detail, offered without the defeatism of 'eh, social media has shortened our attention span,' which isn't really applicable here (it's not social media, it's the ecosystem of online dating that's to blame).

I suspect that one of your challenges will be not taking lack of immediate success personally. If you're very successful, you will get a response (including no thank you) to your messages about 8% of the time. While you can improve that a tiny bit by having a dialed in profile and great photos, if you really want to succeed, you'll go to a regularly occurring party or club night and talk to people because you enjoy getting to know them, without getting into your own head.

I'll admit to poor eyesight and a small computer screen - it was hard to tell what fingers you had extended so I was making all sorts of wild guesses to show that gestures can often be misinterpreted.

But if my memory hasn't completely left me, a peace sign is not oriented sideways but upright like a "V" for victory.

I hope you've read other reviews and realize the sort of brutal honesty you're likely to receive! We do mean well (we want everyone to be successful here) but we are rather opinionated.

There are two things that annoy me about your profile - neither is your height or looks. ;-)

For the love of God - please take pictures of each other and find a friend to take a few of you together! The selfies are not really working - the angles aren't the worst I've seen but they're not good photos. I want to see smiling, happy people in love with each other. She's got the smiling thing down but he needs to lose the hand gestures (V for victory? gang sign? am I showing my age?). And at least one photo of y'all dressed as you might look at a first meeting is always a good choice.

You've done a better job of keeping yourselves out of Looking For than most people but your text actually doesn't say much. There's no need to describe physical attributes - you've got photos for that. Description should include some non-sex oriented information that hints at your personalities - yeah we're all swingers (supposedly) but it's not all about sex. What are some of the things that make y'all unique individuals? Vanilla info also makes it easier for others to find some common ground to start a conversation. There's no need to get graphic in Experiences/Fantasies but you've totally punted there. Do you enjoy MFM or FFM or prefer full swap? Do you have any interest in clubs or parties? The whole point of a profile is to entice people to contact you so Add'l Comments is essentially redundant.

Hope this helps - good luck, have fun and stay safe!

~Phoebert's Wife

I kinda hope I stop short of brutality, but you be the judge of that.

Anyway, dear god, it's not your height or looks. It's not personal at all, except insofar as you're not giving people enough reasons to say yes while managing to bake a couple of unnecessary noes into your short and not very informative profile.

Let's start with your photos, which aren't great and don't signal what you want them to, which is that you're a fun, desirable couple and worth meeting. What you have are boobs, some more boobs, a Snapchat filter or three, and more selfies than is really warranted. 

What you need are photos of the two of you together, preferably doing something fun in photos taken by others, while dressed in date type clothes that fit and do not have wrinkles. And maybe one set of boobs for the couples. At least one of those photos (you don't need 11) should be full length of the two of you. Please smile.

A new tagline might be nice. One that only has the first word capitalized. The idea is to entice people into opening your profile and you're almost but not quite there.

You might want to think about your age range a little. You're solidly in the middle, but I kinda think a 53 year old couple wouldn't contact you.

As far as text, you've pared down and eliminated a lot of the personality. That's not really in your best interest, even if you did it to increase your odds of finding compatible folks.

In Looking For, I'd suggest changing what you're looking for to couples and women, because that's rather different than looking for a couple or a woman. The part about him having a hall pass should go down in Additional comments and might, I dunno, fly better if there was a reason for just the one hall pass.

It's not that you don't need more descriptive words to go with 'hey, we're looking for couples and women,' but my advice is to focus on internal qualities of people instead of external. I don't know why, but saying you're looking for fun, interesting folks doesn't cause anxiety in the way that "tall guys" or BBWs preferred" do, but it generally doesn't.

In Description, don't bother using the space to describe things much better observed in photos than talked about. And definitely don't denigrate yourselves by assigning some number under 10. Instead, scrap what you have and talk about the things that make you unique as a couple and as individuals (but mostly as a couple). Interesting hobbies? Love movies or gaming? What makes you unlike anyone else? That is what you want to focus on, because that's what makes you interesting.

Sex, boobs, dick size? You'd think those would be where to focus, but no. Sex is commonplace unless the people are of interest.

Fantasies is pretty much punting and it loses you the opportunity to sketch out some experiences or a fantasy that you can connect with others over.

Additional comments could be better. If nothing else, end on a high note of some kind.

I hope others comment and then you make changes and come back for a review. I'm sure you're a lovely couple and know there are people out there for you. Don't be discouraged at the lack of response though, because even if you have the best possible profile this is still the hardest way to meet folks in the lifestyle and you're actually doing pretty well.