Better profile ? review please

Thank you all for taking the time to read and review my profile. It is a living body of work and will need tweaking at times and so I thank you for your constructive critiques. Please be safe and have fun

My laptop charging cord died suddenly and dealing with that took priority over the review I started for you last night. And in the meantime you've made some of the quick and simple changes.

The two new photos are better than the original, entirely blurry one - you'd be better off deleting it (I just want to clean my glasses when I look at it).

I don't really care about your philosophy of swinging - I just care that you do swing. The bit about 55 plus shipping and handling makes me wonder how much you've shaved off your age - and what else you might have fudged about. You don't want to repeat information in your text and stats anyway - too easy to forget to change both when making updates.

You've got some odd phrasing in places - reading it out loud will help find those. You're on your own for fixing them as I'm not always quite sure what you're trying to say. You also have extra spaces in your text - usually before punctuation. Copying your text to a word processor and running spell check and grammar check should catch most of those problem.

In general your text is a bit wishy-washy - not really off-putting but not really attractive either. If you contacted me I'd probably exchange messages to see if you're a better conversationalist than profile author. But I doubt I'd contact you just from reading your profile. Your profile is an advertisement and should entice others to contact you.

Good luck, have fun and stay safe!

~Phoebert's Wife

Hi. There is such a thing as being too self-effacing. I think you have that part covered, while also kind of tugging on the conversation as if it was a solo effort and didn't require input from others. I find the combo confusing and a little off putting, but I think that's your profile and not you.

Before I get to your profile, your age is your age, but you can change your body composition with some work. In the meantime, mention neither of them.

Shorten your tagline by removing something you needn't emphasize, since it's already in your toggles. Just start it as "For when 1+1..." Short and clever is really best.

In Looking For, you needn't trot out your philosophy of meetings, etc. That's the part where you're tugging in a way that doesn't suit your role. What are you looking for and who are you looking for? That's what actually goes here.

Description could use some editing over and above removing the reference to your age. Fewer personal pronouns would help, as would eliminating the roundabout way you introduce your education. Declarative sentences really are better. I like the subtle hints of your personality.

In Fantasies, the note about hosting goes in the section below, as does the part about eliminating certs when you switched the profile from couples to a single. However, as a former part of a lifestyle couple, you have experience that some couples will find valuable and you should say something about that instead of skating over the significance.

Additional comments is a paean to self-effacement and it can all go. Seriously, there's nothing there that will invite anyone to contact you. It's a weird trick to be respectful while also sending out a masculine vibe, but mastering it is to every single guy's advantage if he's looking primarily for couples.

Mayhem is right about your default photo. It really adds nothing and either of the other two would be a far better choice.

Anyway, good luck. I hope that didn't feel too harsh.

Didn't see anything too off-putting but also nothing to really draw me in either. The thing with your age makes it feel like you don't want to own up to it and there is no telling how much "shipping and handling" is involved. I get that a lot of people cut off their upper age preference to 55, but if you aren't wiling to own it, it's a potential turn off.

The blurry profile pic isn't doing you any favors. The other 2 at least show some adventure and give a little idea of your general shape/size. The profile one would have been better (IMHO) in focus with the face blurred vs the whole thing blurred.

You travel, watch sports, and play golf. Certainly there is more and anything you add are potential conversation starter hooks and can only help you.

People can assume you full swapped when you were a couple, but a little more detail about your experience and perhaps something you look forward to in a broad sense (i.e. look forward to more MFMs) wouldn't hurt. Worth mentioning would be if you attended LS parties/events.

While you owe no explanations, the fact that you had a partner and now don't might be worth mentioning if it wasn't an ugly drama filled event. It will make people wonder left as is, and some will just think the worst if there's no explanation.

And P.S. those cut and paste privacy warnings are bullshit

As is true with any marketing venture, you need to know your potential clientele. In this context, that means think about who you're wanting to attract and then seek to understand what those people are looking for. Format your profile to appeal to the people you want to attract.

For example, we want to attract people who are not asshamed of their open lifestyle, so we have pictures of our faces on our public profile. In that vein, we rarely if ever initiate contact with a profile that doesn't have face pictures.

If my wife were interested in having a single male join us, she would have skipped right over yours because you have one extremely blurry picture that helps nobody.

Good day
By now i should know better but I believe that if you stagnate you die. I have updated my profile and would welcome comments ...Thank You

Yes for the single males out there this is very difficult and frustrating at times. Hang in there , things will get better....... i consider myself over weight and old so believe me your not alone. I stay here for those "dear playboy" encounters....covid will be over soon fingers crossed