Advice needed

I hope you've read other profile reviews and realize that most of us are rather opinionated about profiles. A lot of what will be said will sound harsh. Just remember that it is all about your profile and not you personally.

MsMolly gave you the overview of why generally you may not belong here. I'll be even more blunt - you don't sound like you want to swing, you sound like you just want to find women for sex. You may find success here, but it's not likely.

With that out of the way - I'm willing to nit-pick your profile a bit. ;-)

Toss all your selfies and any of the other pictures that are more than about two years old. Yeah - I know, at our age we don't change that much or that fast but some of your pictures look to be at least ten years old. And the selfies are just a bad look. Use the timer on you phone camera and prop it up somewhere to take pictures if you cannot find someone to take them for you. Smile and watch for clutter or visual chaos in the background.

I think your age range will result in a lot of eye-rolls and shaking heads - you are three times older than your lower limit. Be reasonable. An age range with you near the middle raises fewer eyebrows.

Why does everyone say they're clean? Most of us assume that others here follow a normal hygiene regimen. If you equate clean with drug and disease free then you're repeating yourself.

Opting to tell us your fantasies later is a cop out. No need for salacious details - just a general idea is fine. And you probably should mention any previous swinging experience to reassure us that you're really a currently single swinger and not just a single guy looking for easy sex.

And your question about excluding single males is just plain stupid. If you were previously part of a swinging couple you should know why.

Conversational paragraphs are easier to read than your current list of sentences. You should probably rearrange some of your information to better reflect the implied questions of the section headers. Looking For should be about others, Description should be mostly the vanilla you, Experience/Fantasies should be the sexual you and Additional Comments is anything that doesn't fit in the other three sections.

Good luck, have fun and stay safe.

~Phoebert's Wife

Hi. There should almost be a warning notice on this section of the forums, because nobody, not even the nice people, pulls any punches. However it feels though, the intent is to make your profile better and there's no point in sugarcoating the issues.

Starting from the top, your photographs look as if they're from different decades. Plus, they're nearly all badly lit selfies. There's a pinned post at the top of the Better Profile threads that outlines how you should approach profile photos and you'd be well served by reading and applying the advice therein.

Your tagline is good and so is your age range.

Where I think it starts to go wrong is that you're only looking for a woman. While singles have a place in the lifestyle, it's oriented to couples and as a single guy who isn't looking for couples, your choices are limited. Plus you seem confused about what you want, or at least you want incompatible things. In Looking For, you have a laundry list of qualities that you're looking for that are relational rather than sexual, but in
Description, you have this: "Looking for a emotionally casual, physical attraction non-committed relationship at this time."

Basically, you're asking for your perfect woman, but you want to keep her at arms length.

There may be such a woman on vanilla dating sites, but your chances of finding one on a swinger site are only slightly more than zero. If you like, I'll outline many of the reasons, but this post is already going to be long and you probably aren't interested anyway. However, to summarize, the lifestyle is a subculture focused on the needs of couples and for a variety of reasons is set up to prioritize the needs of women over men. Ask yourself what woman on SLS, with an almost endless supply of men available, is going to look at the combination of your request for qualities that have nothing to do with sex and your offer of not a whole lot and rush to meet you for a drink.

Given that, nitpicking the details of your profile doesn't make sense. Plus you end on the whiniest possible note, one almost perfectly designed to extinguish even the smallest spark of interest left after reading the rest of your profile.

Having read all that, would you like to know what should be in your profile?

So recently divorced and looking to score some pootie. Just figure it’d be easier to get laid on a swinger site than actually going out and putting in the effort. Should’ve bought the lifetime membership, it comes with a complimentary bag of blowjobs. In case you’re a bit confused, swinger doesn’t equal whore.

You're account is 6 weeks old, we're in the middle of a pandemic and you're ready to call it quits. To us that says a lot about why you're not having any luck meeting people.

Last try to meet people on this site before I cancel and walk away. I have been a member first as a couple now as a single and have yet met another couple or single female from this site.