Postmenopausal chat

My wife didn’t like any suggestions I had either. At first she thought is was just my frustration trying to figure out ways we could still have sex! But it was so much more than that for me. For over 4 years the love of my life was there in just a hollow shell angry all the time, crying all the time. I finally had enough and made her read up on everything I found and it made sense to her after that. And like I said we couldn’t be happier. Wish you both luck on your journey with it.

Nipple.. in all honesty you guys need to have a serious heart to heart talk or seek someone who understands swinging couples in therapy.. We are 71 and 68 and going strong with sex almost daily.

If the marriage of trials and tribulations was worth it until now its worth it to find a common fix with the right people and or treatments , who knows what will work if its not tried. But to have her give up sex is well not fair to both of you.

Communication is the key and she needs to be open to all including your needs.

Ron goes in every six months for complete blood workups and testosterone level checks and in fact just got his back today in the 500s A vaginal hormone cream maybe just what she needs to get her excited.. and YES when a DR talks about age ..WE stop them and tell them we are VERY active and if they cant help will find one who will.

Spike, thanks for your insight. Having a wife go through several medical issues that the Docs just don't get, also has left her with researching remedies on line, then bringing them to the Dr. only to have them go, well, wow, sure. We are going through premenopausal reactions within her body. Used to enjoy fingers and a small vib on her clit. Progressed to 'I need something inside me' which led me to go grab one of her fav dildos. Now the most I get is teasing me on the couch and when I start to play, she backs off and reminds me of her climaxing issue(s)...almost passing out/ monster headaches/ body drained and very sleeping. So, what do I do? She doesn't take suggestions for remedies well unless she found it first. Hope all is well as we progress through life.

My wife and I went through this, overactive sex life for 30 years with the lifestyle and a screeching hault!! Same thing doctor prescribed the vag cream, ok worked a little, what’s so disturbing is the doctors know how to fix this but don’t! It’s wrong our medical system has been reduced to a dumpster fire!! I started researching this for my own sanity as well as my wife’s. I lost the love of my life to crazy mood swings, depression, and her just giving up on ever feeling good about herself. I stayed loyal to her and by her side, even though my own wants and needs took a backseat. We got her on hormone replacement therapy through the shady interweb, figuring nothing ventured nothing gained! Within a month I had the love of my life back, and the incredible hot sex partner I had been with for over 30 years! These doctors know this but still don’t do anything to help, it’s like they are telling us how live and when you get older you just have to deal with it! That’s bullshit! They will give us guys testosterone therapy and viagra, cialis, levitra, penis pumps and implants for what? When we have wives and girlfriends that want sex but it’s painful for them to do? Or is it for the men to go and find younger women to have sex with and leave the older women home to rot in silence, FUCK THAT.

Vaginal estrogen for the win! I also use testerone on my clit/labia. Both work very well

When you literally have a miniature computer in the palm of your hand I cannot understand why anybody makes assumptions about human physiology - a topic easily researched from reliable, valid sources.

Esperanza, I suppose I should rephrase that saying, since we're talking about muscle response. "If you don't use it, you lose muscle tone and will have to work at it to restore what you lost." That is true for other muscles, so why not the vagina? I stand corrected.

While regular sexual activity can help maintain blood flow, tissue elasticity, and hormone balance, the body does not permanently "forget" how to experience pleasure or comfort. Some people may notice temporary changes, such as vaginal dryness (due to reduced estrogen levels, especially after menopause) or mild erectile changes, but these are reversible and not a result of "disuse" in the way muscles atrophy from inactivity.

Holy fuck.

As I experienced menopause I found intercourse with my husband, with whom I had enjoyed sex for many years, to be painful. My gynecologist prescribed estradiol cream and told me to apply it every other night at first, then every 3 and now twice a week, on my vaginal opening/lips. It helps not only with intercourse but also with masturbation. Lube is also a useful product to use either with someone or alone, and I imagine for each of us we will have different product preferences and tolerances. While I am sensitive to scented or "hot" lubes, for example, others may prefer them.

I'm a firm believer in "If you don't use it, you lose it." This includes the frequency and intensity of orgasms, if not the ability to orgasm entirely. It's up to each of us to take charge of our postmenopausal sexual health based on how important sex is to us.

How about an answer that doesn't center men for a change?

What guy doesn’t like to hear you say”need to take it slow and stretch me out.”
And I’ve always loved tons of lube at any age..

Ladies, can we discuss what you do for the changes in elasticity and moisture?