We'll only consider meeting with one half of a couple if it's with a couple we know, and they already play on their own. Things can get messy with "permission slips." Especially with out of town guys. So we just don't bother.
We have to meet the wife, or it's a no go. We have caught a couple men lying about their status and of course cut them off. We had one bad experience with a guy who was lying to us. I got a phone call from the wife. She was pretty irate, with good cause. I sent her a photocopy of his ad, and some texts to verify for her that we had been lied to as well. We personally have an open marriage so for us it's not an issue.
To the OP.... it's simple, just talk directly with the other half of the couple.
Indeed JnA. We got an email from the male half of a local “couple” stating his wife allowed him to play alone.
We told him we prefer to meet couples together before we play separately to make sure everyone is comfortable and on board. Just drinks. No pressure, no expectations.
As expected we never heard back.
~rabbit~
We ask to meet the giver of the permission slip for verifcation. Always seems to be the end of the conversation.
DNLB, we were down that way a few years back and found exactly that. Perhaps the influx of new faces from tourism makes it easier for those guys to get away with it or at least try to. The funniest one was video chatting from his car in his driveway. Asked him if he was married and he stuttered and stammered a bit before saying, "Oh... she knows." I asked him to go in so I could talk to her, but she was asleep and one of the kids was sick.
Most of the time the wedding band or the evidence it was there gives them away pretty easily.
As mentioned by others, we have no interest in getting caught in someone's legal proceedings.
The lovely yeaokay certed the not so discreet married guy.
~rabbit ~
I think Mayhem has it figured out, but I'm easily distracted.
Rabbit, for some reason it seems that a majority of SM's in our area are really married guys who's spouse has no idea, and we suspect a fair percentage of the SF's are as well - married guys who's spouse has no idea, that is.
Actually, I would estimate that half of the profiles in the Panhandle region aren't quite what they profess. If we peruse some of the other websites you'll find profiles with the same username & photos with a variety of different statuses and preferences. Weeding things out here can be a chore.
BT - Was assuming it was the same SF here that said she didn't care if guys were married and cheating or not, but like you, you can add me to the simple minds group ;-)
Wait... Hold that thought for a sec.
Some of us here aren’t very bright... who was it who certed the married cheating guy?. Inquiring minds wanna know!
BT
Sorry you missed us. We even posted a hot date! The only thing we didn’t do was dangle my pussy off the balcony over the beach ;-P
~rabbit ~
Wait- y'all were over here a month ago?
Note to self- entry in "missed opportunities, pay attention" file...
Esperanza- earlier this month while on our mini honeymoon in Gulf Shores I came across a man’s profile that clearly stated he was married and cheating. Hell, the fact he was married and needed to be discreet was right in his profile name.
Guess who he had a cert from.
~rabbit ~
We don't see the need to chance it much less try and verify. There are good single males (and one hopes females) out there that do not need "permission" nor does it have the potential to be a problem down the road. Now this is in regards to meeting someone outside of a party they are attending with a spouse. At a party where you are face to face with a couple and the both say they play separately you have more assurance that is true especially when the wife (or husband) head off on a solo "hunt" leaving you with the other party. Of course we have also been in the situation where there is a non-participatory spouse that just wants to watch which is something I fully understand these days.
"I do not care if a man is married or not. That's his problem."
The way that it seems laws are going, it could become your problem. If I understand it correctly, if it results in marriage ending over it, the wife can sue you for damages.
Aside from legalities, I have seen a case where a woman with a hall pass was playing with a man that supposedly had a hall pass, and he didn't. Lets just say it got REALLY ugly.
I do not care if a man is married or not.That's his problem. If he's on as a single male profile - he's fair game. As an aside:Certifications in this instance are invaluable.
Having been threatened TWICE!!! by two different women (wives) I no longer play with anyone with a hall pass regardless if I actually speak to the lady. I did have a conversation with both ladies and they assured me all was cool with them until I actually met their husbands and played. ( I DO NOT WANT A HUSBAND OR BOYFRIEND!) The drama started then. Thank heavens they did not have any real data on me
Yeah I dont believe in permission slips...usually partners dont have same permission as the one that wants to play.
There are quite a few males and females on this site that are cheating on their spouse, or significant other. If we were to ever consider anyone with the so called permission slip, I would first want to have a face to face meeting with them, and whoever they are attached to. ~N
We use to be skepticle of married men thinking they where cheaters. But u can usually tell. The guy will be in a hurry and usually want day play .
It's a funny thing. When a woman has "permission", it's never questioned. When it's a guy, it's automatically assumed he must be lying or cheating.
My husband has the green light to play with anyone he chooses. I'm happy to speak over the phone or meet in person.
Best to verify by phone with the wife. That is how I handle it if the couple wants to check.
Use to ignore men with couple profiles. But last few yes I will meet them as long as they r away from there wives. Football season is married guy heaven around here
When on a trip out of state, I ( MrSOTW) do get a paper "Hall Pass". Mrs SOTW prints it, signs and dates it along with her stipulations. (No prostitutes, only good girls or those who pretend to be) I also take a pic of her doing so and add it to our private file. She is more than happy to voice verify. I have yet to use one but its nice to know its there just in case. A free pass is kind of like going to a strip club alone, sexy things are a just more fun with Mrs SOTW!
