Mastectomies

Tagging in here to subscribe to the thread as we have a friend about to go through a double mastectomy. They told her they could do the removal and the reconstruction in the same surgery.

I have encountered several women with... shall we say.... non-standard equipment. Post-cancer reconstruction, a very large emergency c-section scar, and a missing foot!

I strongly recommend you not just surprise people. Not because they will reject you but because when everyone's horny, seeing him eyeball something he wasn't expecting and wondering what the deal is. This is not a sexy topic, even if their glance is brief.

In each case (except the foot) I've always been told in advance something general like "I've had breast construction". That's really all I needed to know because that's vague enough to prepare me for almost anything under the clothes. Unless they are a total jerk, that should be good enough.

I'd also advise that you give some green lights as to how they can be handled. Since you're only two weeks, this won't be the case yet, but most people will be cautious (because they obviously don't want to hurt you). Telling them "go ahead and grab them!" with a playful laugh will make it miles easier for everyone (provided that you're in the clear for that).

I can't imagine anyone minding, but if you're going to meet with a couple, even if it's just for coffee, you're probably better off telling them before the four of you decide whether to go farther. It's so you don't subject yourself to anyone who might react poorly to a surprise.

I am only 2 weeks post op from bilateral lateral mastectomy direct to implant. So I have no nipples and a long scar on each boob. We have not done anything yet and have really only told people that I cannot play bc I have had major surgery and still recovering. When in the process of meeting another couple would you let them know or not say anything? I feel like with other type of surgey you can “hide” you personal health information but with a mastectomy you really can’t “hide” it. I have a pervious linde medical event that I do not tell people about unless I feel like it will be “seen” or I get close to other couple. I feel either this evan if we go somewhere new it is something that will eventually come up.