lasting longer.

Was reading this with interest because I have come across some women that are one and done and perhaps this explains why. When I was younger I used to hold off cumming as long as I could because that was exactly how I'd feel after I came. I was capable of more general physical activity after I came, I just didn't want any more sex at that moment.

Not sure if women can do this but I know that guys can consciously hold back. If the woman is on top then perhaps she can control the pace and slow things down if she feels she's going over the edge? If so, then things could start with you on top and you could extend things out that way.

We play with condoms when playing with others so that tends to slow down most guys due to some minimal desensitization. As I believe Rabbit (or is it Ratchet now...lol) suggested you can look into some desensitizing creams/gels. As weird as this may seem, some of the ones that are supposed to increase sensitivity (warming/cooling gels) work the opposite for us as we find them distracting, so may be worth a try.

Of course the beauty of swinging is that each or both of you can have multiple partners. Some days the Mrs is more insatiable than me and vice versa, and at parties we're both welcome to play till contented. Kind of one of the big reasons for being in the LS, for us anyway.

One last thing is that other partners may not be able to get you off like your mate. I know that no other woman can make me orgasm like the Mrs and it is the same for her with me. It's one of the reasons the LS works so well for us.

What you’re saying now is VERY different than what you originally described.

Still, I can’t stress enough that weight loss, improved diet and exercize can do to inprove your stamina and rebound ability.

However, if you’re looking for a quick fix without effort try a numbing cream like Passion Lubes Desensitizing Lubricant with Lidocaine (no personal experiance)

It may help slow down your orgasms and his so you can be better matched.

Good luck.

~rabbit~

If you're done, you're done. There's nothing that says you have to continue after you're satisfied, you know. I mean, yes, if after you're done you're up to offering blowjobs, hand jobs, or just a willing mouth or body for your husband to come in or on, great, but you don't need to do anything you don't feel like doing.

Being done long before your husband might be a temporary condition, or it might be permanent. It could be different with others. Or not. Whatever. It's not like there are standards you have to meet.

At this point, I'm going to try to better define what I meant by "wiped out."

I probably should have phrased it this way in the beginning to avoid confusion. For this error, I apologize to everyone.

When i say that I'm "wiped out," it means that I'm completely satisfied sexually and don't feel like continuing. Not that I'm physically exhausted. Although, using my legs tends to be difficult afterwards.

Again. I should have phrased it this way originally and, for that, I apologize.

If you haven't had a physical in a while, I'd suggest getting one to rule out any problems. Because, yeah, getting worn out by 20 minutes of orgasms points to some sort of health or fitness issue. If you're reaching something close to your max heart rate during your orgasmic arc, which you shouldn't be even if you're doing all the work, then you're doing the equivalent of high intensity interval training and 20 minutes is significantly longer than you should be doing that and would explain the exhaustion.

The other things I can think of would be blood pressure, either high or low, and oxygenation, which is also an issue of cardiovascular capacity.

I disagree that doing mild activities like walking or shopping might also be causing problems or be indicative, because the issue you're having would only really present itself under stress. Instead, this is more like 15 second sprints. Can you do one, walk for 1-3 minutes and do another? That doesn't address why you're working so hard during orgasms but it is the closest analogue to what a repeating orgasmic arc looks like.

Also, I didn't look at your profile, but you're of an age to have young children. I'm made of some sort of unbreakable alloy and that was the only time in my life that I would sometimes answer "tired" when asked how I was. The same was true of all my friends, too.

Do you also find yourself “wiped out” after 20 minutes of walking, shopping, riding a bike, or any other physical activity? If it’s a question of stamina, then the research results that suggest a gym are spot on.

At 30 years old, a healthy diet and regular exercise will not only result in more stamina in the bedroom but it will probably prolong your life.

We know it’s not the advice you want to hear but instead of magic pills that make all of your problems disappear, being healthy and fit and eating a balanced diet is the safest, most effective way to “keep up” with your husband, and friends.

Sorry. 20 minutes and I'm wiped out. As our profile says, hubby is very well endowed with just short of 12". So, he gives (for me) mind blowing orgasms that are so powerful that I'm too wiped to continue after only a few. That doesn't stop me from enjoying his continued ravages mind you. But, if we go for an extended period of time, an hour or so, I'm done for several days after that and he recovers within hours.

So, my personal stamina in the bedroom is what I would like to extend. If possible.

We've tried foreplay. That just gets me so worked up that when we get down to it, I orgasm within a few minutes. Even if we take our time and progress to the hard stuff slowly. I've tried masterbation on the days that we can't do anything and I can never get myself off. So, that just makes things worse because I get worked up again. I'm not much for porn, so that doesn't do anything and it would probably have the opposite effect that I'm aiming for if it did.

I've tried looking online and every time I look up "how to make women last longer" or "increase female stamina in the bedroom," the search returns the male results. Quite infuriating by the way. Everything else is about working out in gym.

I'm not embarrassed to answer questions as i feel it will help me find an answer.

Thanks again.

Hi. I have questions and I'm sorry if they feel intrusive, but I need help to understand your situation. When you say you can't go more than 20 minutes, do you mean because you're tired or because you're sore or some other thing? Because what causes the 20 minute limitation makes a difference in the suggestions you're going to get and whether they're helpful or not.

As the title says, I'm interested in ways to last longer.

When we were teenagers, hubby and I could go for hours at a time several times a day. Hubby can still do this, but i can't last that long anymore and now I'm trying to keep up with his drive. <Insert exhausted emoji here>

He can still go for hours, but i hit my limit somewhere around 20 minutes.

I haven't been with any other partners, yet. But, in the event that we go to a club or party, I'd like to able to keep up for longer than that.

Without medications or female Viagra, does anyone know of any methods that I could try?