double standard

I would pack his bags and send him down the road

Wow, I'm sorry but I couldn't put up with that. I love my husband and if he all of a sudden decided we shouldn't swing I'd go along with that. But if he wants a variety in women, I'm certainly going to get my share too. Fortunately we aren't jealous of each other at all. But as for me I want an equal relationship. If he tells me he finds some women very attractive and wants to be with her, I'm ok with that. But I certainly want the same opportunity myself.

@OP - It sounds like you want him to be happy, and for now, that makes you happy. In a giving relationship, you should be getting something from him in return and I think you know that. If that happens at some point and you're satisfied with whatever that is, great. If not, in time this arrangement will very likely get old for you if/when it turns out he's doing all the taking and you're doing all the giving.

My hubby encourages me to be alone with other men, go out for drinks, dancing, dinner, etc. When I get home, he always wants to hear what happened. I always try to get physical with him when I come home to show him he's the one. If I have cum in my V, even better, he really gets turned on.

At first, though, he was very jealous of me being with another man but with time, he grew to like it and has arranged dates for me. It takes time for a man to be sure that this is just swinging and not anything else.

Swinging is swapping partners. Its is not giving your husband permission to go have sex and you only watch. He is a single with a hall pass. And you,the wife, are just left out. You are being taken advantage of. You deserve to live this experience as much as he does.

"He wants other women but doesn't want to share me - unless it's with another woman."

"I'm on this site for him:"

"He admits to holding a double standard, but I can tell he couldn't handle me being with another man, so I don't bring it up.

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"Any thoughts or words of wisdom?"

OP: Two things.

Change the profile to a single male, let him write the profile explaining he is here with your permission and let him do his thing. You are there for verification. When people click on a couple's profile, they expect to see a couple, not a singular swinger.

It's not healthy to keep your feelings to yourself and it seems he is a deserving man. The reason I say this...……….. You wouldn't have brought up...……. well...…….. I really don't need to and I won't.

Good luck and welcome to SLS and the forums.

~Allen

First, welcome to the forums! What you describe is very common for new couples, and the more you talk about your fantasies, the more you will likely evolve. It already sounds like you have a solid relationship, so just keep talking. Listen to podcasts about swinging, visit a club together. Immerse yourself into this amazing world of possibilities and you both will find what works. But if you find that you are uncomfortable or not satisfied, then it’s not working, for ultimately it has to work for both of you. Good luck!

~Kira

Relationships are really individual and no two are alike. If it works for you, who am I to judge?

This isn't the best place to look for available women open to a married man playing with permission - solo women are already the smallest group and those looking for what your guy is looking for is probably significantly smaller - but it could happen. It's going to take a complete revamp of your profile and he'll have to do a lot of work emailing potential playmates. Is that something he's willing to do?

The reason I'm not more discouraging, even though the numbers aren't favorable, is that almost all of my solo playmates over the years have been married, so I know it can work. Particularly if the two of you can remain open and honest with one another and let nothing impinge on your connection, because that matters way more than his having a side piece.

That's definitely a double standard. Wouldn't work for us, but, if you're okay with that, more power to you both.

My husband does not want me to be with other men. He wants other women but doesn't want to share me - unless it's with another woman. But though I have had a few brief but enjoyable relationships with women in the distant past, I am primarily straight and don't feel any bi urges at present. He admits to holding a double standard, but I can tell he couldn't handle me being with another man, so I don't bring it up. I'm actually very satisfied with our sex life. I'm on this site for him: he has wanted a casual sexual relationship with another female for years, and I thought it best to use a site like this rather than a dating site where he'd have to pretend to be single. Any thoughts, words of wisdom? Please be nice and don't judge me for tolerating his double standard.