I only search for people looking for single men. Reaching out to a couple, who has clearly stated, they are not looking for single men, is just desperate and thirsty. It assumes you’re so special that couple is going to think differently. You are wasting their time and yours. I’m going to focus on the ones who would be more receptive.
Mojo's was one of the parties. We sure miss that place. We ALWAYS found playmates there. They did allow single guys, and that was a nice way to start, or finish the night with a nice MFM for the wife.
When I hosted parties I absolutely had a list and blacklisted anyone who misbehaved. I also reported egregious behavior to other party hosts.
One of the parties that used to exist in our area was a house party called Mojos. They DID keep a list, and some of their Halloween parties exceeded 400 people. I'm sure 4_Real can vouch for those.
Keeping a list can be done for larger events, but it is not worth the effort for people who's primary goal is to make a buck.
Again, bad people did slip through the cracks, but it was rare and dealt with if a problem was identified.
In our area, the hosts would have a Blacklist. In fact I know they would communicate as a group of problem couples. Unfortunately only 1 of those parties still exist.
Then again, it really depends on who is working the door, check in. If they don't know, they don't know to refuse admission.
ri_ro - I agree with you. I have however seen a large party (200+ people) where the hosts at least tried to manage this. Some bad SMs did slip through the cracks, as did some bad couples. A lot depends on whether making a buck is more important to the hosts than attendees having fun.
In the case of no SMs, that can go both ways because SMs are usually a cash cow, but some couples prefer there be none. It's obvious there are more than enough couples that prefer a party with only couples and SFs, or are at least OK with it.
come on May...These are SLS parties, with 200 people..no one is going to create a list, black gold or whatever..the solution for the organizers is no single guys
Mayhem, it's less than 50/50 once you're 50 ;)
ro_ri - If you had a party with open invitations you'd have to maintain a blacklist, for one, so that bad guys didn't keep getting back in. You could also have couples refer SMs, and let them know that it will reflect badly on them if someone they recommend acts poorly. If couples think that they may be banned from a party because of the actions of a SM they recommended, they are likely to take it more seriously.
That's part of the problem with referrals though is that people don't take them seriously because there is usually no consequence for a bad referral. The referring couple just says "He was fine with us" and that's usually that.
Ideally you could suspend referral privileges for someone for increasing amounts of time up to permanently, but this involves work on the hosts part to track that and if the main motivation for the host to have a party is to make a buck, it's not going to happen.
Can't disagree...but how do you vet single guys...when speaking about bar take overs, these are themed dance meet and greet parties...NOT SEX PARTIES...they offer shuttle's to local hotels for that...all that said attempts were made for sponsored males (just as bad), Attempts were made to limit the number of single guys..only choice to stop these from becoming sausage fests..no single guys....if these guys are as hot as they think...bring you wife or get a date
I get why it's easier to just say "No SMs allowed", but it is like throwing the baby out with the bath water simply because the hosts don't want to take the time to vet SMs. It doesn't help that a number of couples would prefer no SMs given a choice, even if all of the SMs were gentlemen.
For some couples, parties with no SMs is taking fun away from the party for more than just the SMs, with us and probably Hump being one of them. We personally know a number of women that are easily capable of playing with a half dozen guys over the course of the night, which is why it makes sense to have a few extra SMs.
Sometimes you're lucky to find the male half of a couple that can perform well once, nevermind multiple times. I can remember a night we played with 3 couples, and not a single one of the the guys could get and stay hard. As fun as it was for me, it would have been a disappointing time for US if not for having some SMs available.
FWIW - It's like 50/50 that guys around our age can perform well.
lol..off topic a little..I think for the first time ever I shared a moment with Hump...I think I need a nap
Humps story was a re-occuring theme with single guys...Same has happened at Hedo to my wife...maybe these single guys watch so much porn, they have lost a sense of reality...itsxa shame so few have ruined it for the good guys
@ro_ri - I'm guessing it wasn't as much the "wanking in corner" as it was the the "actually grabbing females". When we were new to the LS, seeing a guy jerk off in the open like that was definitely weird. Then I saw a woman masturbating in the open once (looking right at me while she did) and realized it was all a matter of perspective.
While it might seem unfathomable by a number of guys, I have seen at least one case where a woman was asked to leave and banned from a party for being too aggressive towards guys. It certainly did NOT impact that party from continuing to invite SFs.
Oh YES "Hump" same thing happened at the Trap in Ga and the guy almost got his ass kicked by not only Kat but those who know !
Not cool, no class and thats what gets guys bad raps!
I remember years ago we went to a swingers get together and my wife and I were standing at the bar and this single guy walks up to her and started rubbing on her ass and pussy without her permission.She was pissed because she didn’t even know who he was.
Many single guy have no idea on how to approach women much less a couple. When they do they sound like a whiny kid.
We attend local bar take over, hotel takeover, there was a time when single guys were allowed, this is across the board no longer allowed...Why, well you had guys exposing them selves, wanking in corner...actually grabbing females....they did it to themselves time after time...not all guys did this..but you pay the price
I can truthfully say that I have Never initiated contact with anyone and that goes back to pre internet days too......I have heard the "war stories" from couples about single guys and I didn't want to be one of "them"....
Why don't you block your profile to SM?
Ymichael- yes I call them window shoppers the ones that just look at photo over and over again and then they ask for more.. LOL as far as I'm concerned less is more for me. And I don't have to tell them to go back and read my profile equals to what you see is what you get..
Merry Christmas
Townhouse- I think not reading a profile, not caring what people want, is a problem in every lifestyle.
Just look at pics online of cars that drive around the construction barriers and fall into a pit.
Or drive into the back of a stopped police with all of its emergency lights on.
People are either stupid or just don't care.
People don't respect profiles.. There's no more swinger etiquette in this lifestyle.
Good example off topic I know. I constantly have couples messaging me when in my profile it reads I do not meet couples privately only at swinger events and I will have an escort by my side.. And is this why couples get a bad rap? Pushy Maybe?? I do apologize for getting off of topic.
Maybe we should ALL respect each other's profile? Just a thought.
Serendipity 21- I wish I could meet a couple like you.
I would love to be friends with people like you and hang out. Even if you didn't want to sleep with me.
I would love to be friends with a couple instead of just a one time thing.
Oh well, I keep trying. Maybe someday
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