Do SMs Want SFs?

I'm married in an open marriage where my wife knows what I'm doing at all times.

I prefer single women. And, I prefer to have an ongoing "relationship" with them. Although I'm not opposed to one-time encounters or meeting with couples.

It's been random luck that I met one woman on a different swinger site while I lived in Cincinnati. She lived in Indy. And, I met one woman after I moved to Knoxville on this site. She lives in Georgia.

If I wasn't willing to make a regular several hour drive, then I wouldn't have met anyone in 9 months between the two sites.

TRAVELVETERAN

Couples do the same thing. Their profiles will specifically say couples only, or they will actually block Single Males. But get them to a party, and all of a sudden Single Males are just fine.

You actually are an outlier but you knew that :) I find that most single women are the same way. Most are looking for couples or single women to play with ONLINE. Most of my page views and messages come from couples. And when I reach out first, most responses come from couples.

I figure that most single women don't have a problem finding a man to sleep with. Hell, most already have a select one or few already. So why spend time going to swinger specific site, just to find something they could find on tinder or at the bar?

This all changes when you go OFFLINE. Any event or party I've been at, the single women are most receptive, I've played with them the most, and they are usually there looking for a single guy to play with. Or at least the male half of a couple. I rarely see single women going off with a couple together.

So it's a really odd dynamic of who looks for what... and where

I myself am certainly down for NSA FWB situations with single women; as a matter of fact I'd say, I'd prefer it at this point. I obviously can't speak for all SM though. I haven't been here that long to say "I've seen everything", but I am a little shocked to see a post by a woman here claiming that lol.

GGMM Ha Ha!! Yes!!! I love that!

I need to make that a bumper sticker….

I have totally enjoyed the trial and error portion of the program. ;-)

Somewhere I have a gif that says something like 'It wasn't a one night stand. It was an audition without a call-back.'

GGMM Thank you for the female perspective! And I believe you’re dead on.

My current regular play partner was the first one I met since joining. Because I was so fortunate with him, I thought it would be just as easy to find others. But now I see that’s not the case. Glad to see I’m not alone.

Ugh, but two years?! Lots of trial and error in there… I guess there are worse ways to figure out what works.

MSMOLLY on the West Coast

LMK on the East Coast

Kind of makes me think of the words to a Country song:

I start walking your way, you start walking mine. We meet in the middle near DBCOOPERMN!

SN

I thought about that after I posted. But by then it was too late. That said, believe it or not, no. Not a one. (I guess I should add, “yet.”)

~LMK

Most likely no SF will write in this thread for fear of being inundated with messages from every salivating horn-dog guy on this site.

Hmm, actually, I'm curious if you've gotten a lot of private messages after you posted this?

I generally prefer my 1:1 sex with those married and playing separately, but am definitely in the FWB category for the majority of my interactions. I got lucky and found the first one within a couple weeks of establishing a single's profile here (still seeing him) but it took another two plus years to find the next one. Not that there weren't others, just not many I saw more than a handful of times. And even up here, where there aren't many people interested in the lifestyle, I probably turned down 25 for every one I'd even agree to have coffee with.

I'm not suggesting you're doing anything wrong, but maybe you're in an anomalous pocket where a larger percentage than usual prefers couples or maybe it's just taking time to find not just single men but single men who fit your parameters.

I feel like I may be an outlier here, but I’m a SF who likes to have sex with SMs. I thought it wouldn’t be that difficult as I keep reading that there’s so many SMs out there.

But, it seems to me many SMs would prefer to join couples as a third rather than have 1:1 experiences. Not that there’s anything wrong with that. And, with the right folks, hey, I’m all in! And don’t get me wrong… I definitely see room for both. But I feel like some 1:1 action, every now and then, shouldn’t be that hard to find.

Color me old fashioned but what ever happened to just, plain NSA FWBs? Am I that much of an anomaly?

Ok I’m done whining. See? This is what happens when LMK isn’t getting enough…

~LMK