Why is this so hard?

OP

Start a NEW PROFILE! You ask for advice and then don't accept it. Your profile looks FAKE to us...we wouldn't go any farther than to delete a communication from somebody with your profile. Too many seemingly mutually exclusive statements. Members since, '10, 1 cert in '10, not enough pics to determine anythin, clumsy text....that is your problem.

So, put together a NEW and updated profile, with nice pics and an accurate description of your situation. You can include "we were formerly (insert old profile name) and go from there if it means that much to you. Send a text to your friends from your old profile to tell them you've created a new profile. Or, keep having it "difficult".

Mr. HW

OK, I changed up our profile a bit. I see no logical reason to start a new one.

I understand the confusion about the dates. We created the profile in 2010 but we never really pursued the life style because we not empty nesters. So the profile has been there all this time but until recently we never paid much attention to it. So we are new to the lifestyle. We're just not new to the site.

Hi. I can see your profile now. There is nothing intrinsically wrong with it, although if this were an actual profile review I'd tell you to list your weights, because that zero is a big red flag and significantly worse than just listing your weights, whatever they are, change your photos, add a paragraph break in Description, and find a much friendlier phrase for Fantasies.

But this is a different question that you have and the solution is to create a new, free profile and then contact SLS Customer Service and ask them to transfer your billing/membership to that new profile. That's pretty much the only thing that is going to smooth your path even a little, because the chief issue is that you have newbie text in a profile that is rapidly coming up to its 10th anniversary. And you say you're new here, so it isn't just that you've neglected updates.

Anyone who reads your profile and notices that date is going to nope out at some stage. They'll be doing it for a variety of reasons, but that's what anyone who is even a little attuned to details is going to do. It might take them to the second or third email, btw, but without a new profile, it's pretty much what everyone who isn't completely oblivious will do eventually.

As far as communication issues, I suspect the particular flavor of the sentence in Fantasies is probably indicative. It's harshly worded and signals a lack of friendliness. Not saying that's true for the two of you, just that the writing style indicates something. I'm guessing he wrote it, but it doesn't matter. Whichever one of you didn't write the profile should be reading it out loud and then adjusting where the style doesn't fit the two of you. Same for emails.

So, that's my take on it. I hope you haven't been inundated by mail from single women this morning. ;-)

Once again, I'm left completely confused.

You say you are new to swinging yet you started your profile in 2010.

Not sure of you're playing games or actually want help.

~rabbit~

OK ggmm. I unblocked my profile to single women. I don't know how long that will take before you can see it.

We agree with R&K. When we are contacted by a couple and they don't include a face pic of both, it is an automatic, "Thank you, but no thank you". We shouldn't have to, and, will not, ask for a face pic.

On the other hand, when we make first contact we always include a face pic.

It's not generally that hard, although it can take time to make a connection that results in a meeting. And not all of those turn into play opportunities.

But if you're constantly bombing out, you might want to think about what exactly you're communicating with your profile and with emails. We aren't always aware of the messages we're sending. I can't see your profile, because you block single women, but it might be worthwhile to ask for help in the Better Profiles sub-forum in the hopes that someone with a couples profile would be willing to take a look.

We are new to LS. I have reached out to sever couples for a get to know you dinner or drinks. A few responded and agreed to meet but then they back out or just don't respond after accepting the invitation. I had one couple get all pissy because I had the audacity to ask for a face pick so we could identify them when we arrived. They blocked us. Why does this have to be so hard?