What does 'Soft Swap' really mean?

I have to admit, "Soft Swap" is out there, but for most in fantasy land. By me saying that "Soft Swap" is not realistic. A dinner with another couple is nice, but it is a dinner date. Yes, I have been with a lot of males and once they get a hard on, they, the males, want to penetrate and spread their seeds. Women and men were put on this earth to recreate women and men. My hubby and I live on a small ranch with chickens, ducks, and other small animals including rabbits. from what we have seen the only animals who procreate for fun are the rabbits. The chickens and ducks run from each other, rabbit's on the other hand, stick around for seconds and more. This is just my own observation. So when humans use the term "Soft Swap" it tends to make me wonder. Just my two cents...

Everyone has their own set of rules, and standards so if you do not want to play by theirs, then just move on.

'bi-agreeable' can mean different things to different people too. To each their own.

Soft swap to us is everything except actual intercourse. I have it on our profile that I am "soft Bi Curious" and then go on to explain what I mean by that.

~N

I agree except, ending in penetration with your own partner. Everybody cums, now go home.

When we first started I was also not 100% clear on what "soft swap" was exactly. Where things got fuzzy is if any sort of oral was involved.

We've come to realize, as someone mentioned already, is that it can vary in what people think soft swap is. I think the most common definition is everything except vaginal penetration, but YMMV.

sounds like she is just here for her husband

“Although the profile states she is 'bi-agreeable', she will not initial any contact but certainly will not refuse my wife's attention but will not return the 'favor'. And, she is also not one to be orally inclined. I'm not sure what kind of swap that is.”

That isn’t a swap. What you got yourselves there is a pillow princess. She only takes a licking and keeps on ticking.

:-D

~Allen

Your definition is probably more mainstream than theirs but the reality is, it means whatever anyone wants or to mean. They have set their boundaries so kudos to them for giving you a clear indication of what you can expect.

Now it’s up to you to decide if you are ok with their limits. If so, have fun! If not, politely decline.

There is no point arguing semantics, either you agree to play by their rules or you move on.

~S~

Met a couple recently that the profile said they were Soft Swap with a minor possibility of Full Swap. We met for dinner and drinks with no expectations. Nothing happened but had a nice dinner together. A few days later they wanted to get together again. We agreed. Then they came up with a bunch of rules. Full Swap was not an option. Although the profile states she is 'bi-agreeable', she will not initial any contact but certainly will not refuse my wife's attention but will not return the 'favor'. And, she is also not one to be orally inclined. I'm not sure what kind of swap that is. I explained our idea of Soft Swap as: soft swap to us includes everyone kissing, touching, rubbing, giving/receiving oral and everyone has an orgasm or two.

Am I confused with the definition of Soft Swap?