Swinging with drugged couple

In all the years we've been in the LS, we have seen alcohol create problems way more times than drugs. At least that we are aware of, we have not had a single issue with someone being drugged up. You'd think that the amount of times that people specify "drug free" in their profile that it was a much larger problem, but that has not been our experience.

Even it the cases where we've heard it from others about drugs being a problem, I'd guess that it maybe amounted to less than 1% of their total interactions. Unless someone happens to be in with a large drug using crowd, exluding 420, I can't imagine this merits the amount of profile fodder it gets.

I am surprised that we have never had this scary experience. There are so many things that could have gone wrong. We have had a couple experiences with drunk wives. One was good the other horrific. The good one was with a couple that attended a lot of our parties. She was a drinker. She was a lot of fun, active, and available. Everyone had learned to take a turn with her before her husband put her to bed, passed out.

The other went very bad and my husband had to ask them to leave. We had them over for a first couple's date and it went really good for a while. She liked the tequila for sure. And I'm sure that it wasn't her way of loosening up to make herself available. When we went to bed the guys got on top of us and we screwed next to each other. She became a wild woman. Her husband was more of the amorous type. He was whispering in my ear and kissing on me while we fucked. She and my husband are fucking like animals. The bed is banging against the wall and the things that came out of her mouth! And then she tells my husband to take off the condom and while there is no perfect translation, she basically told him that her cunt wanted to eat his sperm. Wow. Okay. No problem. They mated. They consummated. My husband is pumping his milk in her while hers was close to cumming. I could tell. His belly was tight and he got that look. I told him he could take the condom off and cum in me. And Whao! She pushed my husband of her and pushed her husband off me and inspected his condom. She says that he's not allowed to cum with another woman. So, I was like okay and grabbed his cock to stick it in me again and told him to give it. She says, "NO,no,no. He's not allowed to take his orgasm with another woman." Whaaaaaat? The poor guy was humiliated and then she starts yelling at him. Getting into a fight laying in our bed. No bueno. It was like she needed an exorcism. We got rid of them.

The next day the husband calls to apologize. He was such a sweet guy. How did he marry a shrew? Obviously, it was the alcohol, and she was above her limit. So, I had already gotten over being mortified and was working on angry when I asked the guy to meet me at the mall. I was going shopping and we could have some lunch. I took him down a hallway, made out with him, took him into the family/baby changing bathroom, pulled up my dress and bent over for him. We grunted like piggies for a couple minutes, he filled me up with his sperm, and we got out of there like we had stolen something! lmao

There are people with serious mental disorders walking the streets because it is illegal to commit them.
She could have been on meds that keep her from killing herself or others and they make her a zombie.
She could be delusional and doesn't know who she is or what she is doing.
Or, she could owe the guy money and this is how she repays the debt.
or she could sex trafficked. Forced into prostitution.
It is hard to tell, but I would never do a woman in that condition

Nothing worse that a drunk female.....Would not touch them with a 10 ft dick..

FYI.. we always have some small light on, small night stand light or TV with nice music playing only like Pandora etc .. for "us" we will always watch and enjoy and mostly will know the other one is enjoying themselves or not...we are loving our time with 3 people.. it just works.

Now with an already established person.. sex is good almost anywhere and at anytime.. !

Anyone can share there stories in here I might learn something. My biggest disappointment was my other half was getting into the girl witch she never did she just didn’t know how fucked up she was. Was not worth wasting first time experience on. And I didn’t tell her though she got it after I focused on playing with her. My one lesson is lights stay on or you can leave. I like watching everything my other half is doing.

Holyblue-- this is off topic and for the respect of the post. I will not answer..

Townhouse, we were in a situation very similar to that and were able to navigate out, but not without a ton of creeping hands. In our case the host completely misrepresented what was going on at the party. They essentially invited us in as the fresh meat for a group that regularly played together. Sad to hear that your partner was an ass and didn't help you get out the door.

RTP, the reason you may want a subtle signal to stop play is you don't want to make a bad situation worse. Especially if they are on something you don't know how they will react. We have seen people go nuts at parties and it is wise to be polite and subtle most days.

I've noticed a lot of ecstasy and molly use, especially at clubs. Everyone is doing shrooms it seems like these days, but I've never seen it. I've actually never seen anybody pull out any cocaine or hard drugs at any parties. There's liquor of course, but even then, I don't remember seeing too many many passed the hell out or throwing up at parties... And now in most states, I see an area for people to smoke weed

But there is one drug that is running rampant through the lifestyle... Viagra :-)

I've even seen people do cocaine in house parties which is really scary... The Host of the house party took all the doors off of the rooms so people would not lock themselves in rooms.. I don't understand this either because it would seem to me that you would want to be 100%.

@Sor well of course you can get stupid with alcohol and that's including everyone you're either mean or stupid she could have had anxiety and took one of her anxiety pills which made her seemed drugged up. I've known people to drink a glass of wine before they play this is kind of hard for me to understand because I never drink alcohol in my life or have never done any kind of drugs but different Stokes for different folks.

Townhouse, that's one of the big reasons I quit all chemicals except for alcohol many years ago. You can never be sure of exactly what's in that joint or pill, or the dosage. I could still get stupid with alcohol, but I had a lot more control.

Maybe she took something to relax herself.. some of us also don't like the lights turned off in my situation I would have been fine if the lights were on because then I could see who's in front of me who's behind me Etc. I once had a girlfriend she took a hit off of a joint at a party and this was her first time. I was brushing my hair in the bathroom as she came in she was putting her mascara back on facing the mirror all of a sudden she fainted and hit her forehead on the sink it was so bad that the ambulance had to be called and took her out in a stretcher she ended up going to the hospital.

Funny story. But not for you. No she was on something. At bar she was pretty good. The husband was grunting the whole time. Was weird. Won’t do that with lights almost off unless we agree next time. We figured let them take lead. We where hot at it.

Readytoplay was this the first time the couple ever played? Were they new? It sounds as though she was uncomfortable in some kind of way. And if she was uncomfortable could be lots of scenarios.

Recently I attended a house party with a friend of mine. we were the first ones in the group room. we were doing nothing just talking and I had my head on his chest as he was stroking my hair. all of a sudden a couple came in and laid right beside us and before we knew it they we're having intercourse. with each other well we kept talking and all of a sudden this tiny room started filling up with about 20 couples and a couple single guys. I sat up everyone was naked. I looked at Vincent and told him honey I need to get out of here. he just said don't worry about it. people were having sex all over the place on the floor on the bottom of the bed where are feet were. I looked at him again and I said Vincent I have to get out of here. I started sweating and feeling very uncomfortable. there was body parts flying all over the place hands all over the place. I did not know what was going on so I asked my boyfriend where did you put my clothes? He said they're in the corner where the closet is. by this time my boyfriend was playing with the girl that was having intercourse with her husband. So I sat up and began making my way to my clothes and as I was making my way to my clothes people were grabbing at me which made matters even worse for me. the room was dark by this time. I couldn't see my hands in front of my eyes so I got to my clothes and managed to put my bra and panties on people grabbing at me and actually pulling me down. I felt as though I was in one of those movies The Night of the Living Dead lol.. well I made it to the door and open the door with my dress draped over my arms it was like a nightmare.
I have never in the lifestyle felt so uncomfortable. The Host seen me struggling she came and helped me out the door as she was helping me get my dress on. I heard where are you going?? I said the f*** out of here. I yelled to Vincent you could do whatever you want to do baby you got my permission. he was in that room for two hours.. I know a little off topic but some of us are uncomfortable in certain situations.

Lissa ya that’s about rite. I played on my other half and left her a present. I herd him whisper he came in her. Lot of whispers. Lol.

We met a couple once they were not high or drunk, when it came time for the sex the guy was all over my wife. I went to kiss her she just started laying there like she was not into it at all like she was on something, we addressed it with them later and her husband told us she just was not into me and was taking one for the team, so he could have my wife. It would not hurt my feelings if they would have just said she was not into me but then again, he wanted what he wanted and if they would have told us that. he would not get his way. Talk about selfish

RTP - I was more talking to HBs post. As mentioned, edibles just don't hit you in the amount of time it would take to turn out the lights, take an edible, then start playing. If it was edibles, she would have had to take them long before the lights got turned off.

My biggest thing is that they didn’t say sorry for her being Incapacitated. Just acted like nothing happened. My other half reached out to him and asked how she was and he said. Lol just a wasted night wasted money.

There are some fairly potent edible cannibus products out there these days. I can see someone not paying attention and getting overwhelmed.

Both the Mrs and I tend to wear our heart on our sleeves and we really haven't seen a need for secret words/signals. If we were playing with someone and they could no longer form words, our first concern would be if they were having a stroke or something. Either way, we would directly ask them what was going on. Obviously if it was both of them, then it's a high likelihood they took something.

If it wound up being edibles, we'd likely ask if this is something that has happened before. Trying something new like that with a new couple isn't the best strategy, but meeting someone new is when someone would be most likely to be nervous. So long as we knew what the cause was, they acknowledged it and that it wasn't going to happen again, we'd be inclined to give them another shot if things were otherwise good up to that point.

Personally, I'd not have a problem telling someone that if they asked for a cert, but that's just me.

Funny. They went to car. And they both didn’t drink. So probably took something outside

As suggested, you all definitely need to send a tactful and polite message and let them know why you cannot give them a cert. Find something to compliment them on, but also directly address the issue.

We have had some odd encounters with people who were influenced by something. The oddest was when one of them stopped by their car between the restaurant and going up to the room. All seemed normal while talking through limits while getting undressed and then after about 5 minutes one of them had their behavior change incrementally and to the point after 30 minutes they didn't really put sentences together. It is always good to have the lights on so you can signal your partner that is time to draw things to a close if you need to. "Sorry, let me run to the bathroom real quick." Seems to work well in providing a needed pause and it gives a definite verbal signal to your partner.

Sorry this happened on your first time out. There are some great people in the lifestyle and don't get too discouraged before you can connect with them.

Sex drunk is good I would of bin happy with that. Lol. My other half was not happy after she Realized what went on.

As OHW said, there is such a thing as sex drunk. Not always, but it usually correlates to at least some amount of alcohol consumption. Sex drunk is a wonderful thing.