Introducing couples to similar couples?

We are here to meet people so we're always up for that if an opportunity comes up. We and some of our friends have house parties so, if a couple is a more-the-merrier type we ask if they'd like to attend our party and sometimes we get asked by a couple if we know any local parties to attend. At least one of our friends has said, "If you like someone, feel free to bring them to our party."

This is of course assuming that we know that a coupe is at a similar play-grade as us and the other attendees. There are a number of people we like that aren't ready for some of the parties we attend.

We have also had couples express an interest in expanding their circle of friends so we'll sometimes have a couple like that over with 1 or 2 other couples that we know and think they might like. There are no expectations for the new couple and we let them know that we're likely going to play at some point, but they aren't required to join in unless they want to.

It all depends. Probably best to arrange just a social meeting first. The chemistry/attraction you may have with those couples may not always translate to them having the same for each other.

When we first started out some friends invited us to a house party so we could meet people they thought we'd get along with. A few years ago a couple we know was meeting another couple for drinks and asked if we wanted to join them. Another friend of ours suggested we reach out to a couple he knew because he thought we would hit it off. We ended up naked each time.

If you feel you know people who might get along, ask them if they'd be interested in meeting another couple with you for drinks. It doesn't have to go anywhere. Just a no expectations night out. Then everyone can go home to decide if they want to take it further.

Thanks for both replies! The points made are well taken. To be honest, hadn't considered some of them.

Thanks!

We invite others to join us to hang out in a neutral setting and enjoy the evening in a small/medium group setting, those invited knowing there are other couples out to have a nice time out with the understanding of no expectations and let things play out naturally so there are no disappointments.

We never want to play matchmaker and probably never will.

~Allen

We think this is best done casually at a party that everyone just happened to be attending (or you are hosting) otherwise it would kind of be like playing matchmaker with two single friends only with complications due to the lifestyle. Even then you need to be careful how you approach it. If someone were to say something hey this is so and so we play with them and think you would like to as well it would send up a couple red flags (BTW more than these are our friends so and so as a basic introduction is too much in our opinion). First and foremost are you trying to pass us off to someone else? Secondly what have you been saying about us and our activities to others we are unaware of? Finally unless we have openly talked about people we already know and have rejected (or perhaps had a problem with) can you be sure it will not lead to drama that might impact our current dynamic with you? There are other things depending on the situation and how you introduced us as well as them but I think you get the point.

BTW in the past we have met a few people we would not like to be involved with yet have friends we have been involved with that are. Just because we match up does not mean we will with another couple that you do. In fact we have some friends we attend a party with that also host their own party yet we will not attend due to someone else that attends the party they host (our friends understand this as I was honest with our reason). Honestly it has a lot to do with events outside the lifestyle and knowing too much about that person and their situation having worked with them a few years ago. I (the male half) honestly fear in a social setting I just might not be able to not say something that would cause a dramatic reaction from them. Then again I have this tendency to call folks on their BS when it gets to the top of my boots as it were.

We've been really happy having fun with another couple we met. But what is the etiquette when it comes to introducing each other to other couples if they/we think it would be a good match? Is that sort of thing reserved for parties or are blind dates a thing in the LS?

Thanks!