How do YOU read a profile?

Jolly Ranchers are one of my favorite treats... Go figure.

...Sorry MandC...You were saying....

BT

This "tongue talk" has me fairly salivating.

Nah. Both our tongues have been known to be pretty active..........often at the same time.

And now, you're just sounding like a single guy! Lol!

BT

So many tongues, so few available body parts......

sigh

"sticks out tongue at Tramp"

I'll give you that one, my friend. I'm not nearly as funny as you, not as witty as BT, but thank God...I'm not as old as Fun!

(*sticks tongue out at Ahoy) ;^/

Tramp

Re: M&C and wvm feature

Wow. That's bizarre that someone would block you just from viewing their profile a number of times. Like others, I would have taken that as a compliment.

I have run across people that were hyper sensitive to what they viewed as "clingy" behavior, but viewing our profile multiple times is not something that would comcern me.

It might come down to what someone is looking for. If you want NSA sex only and zero bond of any kind then perhaps multiple profile views would appear that you're seeking more of a relationship than they were looking for.

It sucks that they blocked you with no explanation but perhaps they did you a favor. As much as we like sex, it's fun for us when it can be at least a little more than just that.

"So how is it the smart AND sexy people ended up in Georgia?"

Because the smart, sexy and funny people kept moving on to Texas. sticks out tongue at Tramp

:)

Thanks for the compliment, and likewise.

Tramp

Good advice. We just disabled "Who Viewed Me". And it makes sense. Someone looks at us, we look at them, and usually, nothing happens.

So how is it the smart AND sexy people ended up in Georgia?

MC and RK: I have to agree.

Our WVM feature has been turned off nearly from its appearance on the site. I know that some like it, but I put absolutely ZERO value in knowing who may have looked at us.

Either way, I also agree that folks checking out your profile from time to time should be a compliment if anything. Go figure.

Hell, there's one hot gal half of a couple who I've looked at so often I may even owe her alimony! Hippity Hop

Tramp

This is a great discussion. A few other thoughts on profiles:

The profile is a kind of swinger resume.....like employers do, everyone is looking for a certain type and the profile is your first glimpse into seeing whether there is even the slightest potential for a match.

It's clear everyone has certain criteria they look for in a profile........and that's the beautiful thing about this hobby.......there is something for everyone, and there is a general tolerance and respect for everyone's interest and individuality.

We have learned to understand that there are more couples we are not compatible with, than there are couples we match well with. It's disappointing to look at profiles, send messages, and hope someone feels the same.

We read a profile of a couple that piqued our interest. They were a few hundred miles away, but we often travel to or through their area. We sent a quick note to let them know we liked their profile, and to see if they would be open to meeting when we were in their area. We received a very nice reply, and it was positive and enthusiastic - they said they liked our profile as well, and would like to meet. They were a very active couple, so they were always adding pictures, changing tag lines and default pics, and attending events. We found ourselves looking at their profile a few times a month, just to see the new pics and what they were up to. Sometimes we'd click on their profile to see if they were in IM to say hello. Certainly nothing that could be considered stalking in our eyes......But then one day we see that they had blocked us - we assumed it was because we viewed their profile a few times a month. We had one conversation early on via KiK, so we sent them a message through KiK to apologize in case we had done something that offended them in some way. Turns out we were blocked there as well. To us, it seems the profile is there to be looked at.....you post your wants & desires, and you post pictures of yourselves. The point is to encourage people to look at you, and, hopefully, get a reaction. Especially if you're continually adding pictures to your gallery.......so it seems odd to us that someone would be offended by multiple profile views. Or if that bothered you, you'd enable the feature that shows you who's viewed you.......

I pass on anyone more than an hour away. Next, I look at age & height/weight (mostly because I'm not comfortable with men significantly larger than me, it's just uncomfortable for me) I'm not interested in bi-sexual men. Nothing wrong with it, just not interested.
How long they've been in the lifestyle, I'm not really interested in showing anyone "the ropes".
Followed by hints of being a unicorn hunter, a notch on a bed post or negativity. I like to know their interests, if we don't have anything in common, or they're interested in things that bore me or sexually incompatible, I pass. "nerds, techies, gamers, comic con, bondage, dom/submissive"
Next for pictures, I don't trust guys who wear hats, sunglasses and 'flattering angled pictures' in all their pictures. First message always starts with "are you married". I'm not interested in guys with a "hall pass" or cheating on their wife. If I like most of their profile & pictures, I overlook most grammar mistakes.

Unfortunately, this weeds out about 70% of guys here. I have a lot more (but not much) success at the clubs and house parties. So guys and couples, get out to the clubs!
Being completely honest through your profile might weed out a lot of meetups, but you'll waste less time, energy and back & forth.

"only if you don't..." I've been on the other side of that operation often enough that I could probably figure out the steps, so, yes. ;-)

There's a local "couple" where there are photos of him on his bike, his boat, in hunting gear. The photo of her is a corporate headshot. His pronouns in the several emails he sent kept shifting from the plural to the singular. I was not even a little surprised.

I take terrific photos of trails, mountains and the occasional flower. People? You'd have better luck with Picasso.

GGMM: To answer your question about the brain bleaching; only if you don't get it in my eyes and clean me up afterwards. :-)

"I definitely notice that whole photos of him are candid shots and hers is a studio photo thing though and automatically assume that she is a phantom. "

Hahaha! Dayum..................

Well, I can say with the utmost confidence that she is, without a doubt, way more photogenic than I and yet, she can't focus a camera for shit, so I have two things working against me before the button even clicks. ;-)

~Allen

One word at a time!

"Is that like a purgatory MFM including Ncal as a punishment?"

Oh, hey, it's only Monday and Disgusting Thought of the Week has already been taken care of. Is brain bleach included or am I on my own?

Unless there is something overtly objectionable about the profile photo, I don't view it as somehow separate from the public gallery. So, I don't care if it's him, her, or them. I definitely notice that whole photos of him are candid shots and hers is a studio photo thing though and automatically assume that she is a phantom.

“Watch it John-Boy, or you'll join me and ncal in Perdition”

GGMM: Holy Cripes!

Is that like a purgatory MFM including Ncal as a punishment?

Anyway, Mrs. 888 puts my pictures on the front from time to time, we also swap it to a couple’s picture and I sometime throw hers in front. If that’s not of anyone’s liking, oh fucking well. She also gets tired of sifting thru all the females being put up front for other male’s bait when trying to find a male and when she does she just says out loud, “no wonder” , nuff said.

~Allen

Re: L&T

What I was specifically referring to is the default profile pic. It's the one you see whenever you post and kind of the one pic you can't help but see.

You select what you want as the default. Other than that, order of the pics makes little difference.

Ditto on the idea of the couple pic as the default.

And a word about the marketing thing.

I'm glad someone mentioned that below. I believe that it's the most overlooked aspect of the profile structures on sites like these. You've gotta first ask yourself what it is specifically that you want as a result of your profile. Do you want the highest volume of emails you can get or do you want to limit the inquiries as much as you can while producing more viable leads. They do not equal the same thing.

Either one of those preferred outcomes are perfectly OK, you just gotta know which one you want and put your profile together accordingly.

I don't mind the emails, many or few. I find the whole thing an outlet. Some people just play solitaire on their smartphones, I spend a good bit of time here...and with similar results.

However, I will state in my place that if I wanted the greatest amount of interest in the form of the most received emails/inquiries, I'd put 5 or 6 of the hottest, most provocative pics I could take of Lady right on the front. I'd then sit back and handle the 50 plus emails I got every week (minimum).

Tramp

This is an interesting drilldown of the general theme for sure.

I can't say that I've ever put this much thought into the actual order of photos in the public gallery. I only take a general note of what is there overall. Since very few couples are even generous enough to show their male, I'm surprised enough just to see him there. lol

I will say that it's nice to see a leadoff photo of the couple together, but it doesn't really indicate anything sinister to me if that's not the order of things. As long as there are at least half a dozen total - her, him, and/or them - I'm not gonna think much farther than that. Just me.

Tramp

If I know the majority of my audience is looking for say, red balls, I'm not going to more prominently advertise a green one even though I have one of those too.

When EVERYONE knows more people are looking for red balls it makes me, at a minimum, question why someone is advertising a green one.

It has nothing to do with ego or looks or pieces of meat.

I don't want to speak for anyone else here, but we tend to be wary of profiles whose main pic is of a man only as well.

It's not because we discriminate, it's not because we are prostituting the wife, and it's not because our male isn't bi. It's that we gave been conditioned, rightly or wrongly, that there are a lot of profiles here by single males posing as couples. We have all seen profiles where there are pics of the man that appear to be his, and then there's a glamour/marketing shot of pretty female that looks like it came out of a wallet or picture frame you bought at a store. It's totally out of character with the rest of the photos.

Swinging is something you do together as a couple, so why wouldn't you post a picture of both of you together if you're a couple? It's easier to do that now that it has ever been. Use a selfie stick. Hold your phone at arms length. Buy a cheap tripod and mount your phone to it. Have a mate take a picture of you both with some nice scenery in the background, and use an editing program to blur the faces.

We are a couple whose preference is to play with other couples in the same room and sometimes on the same bed. We want to see the couple together in some pictures. If they can't post pictures together, how are we supposed to believe they can play together?

Watch it John-Boy, or you'll join me and ncal in Perdition. I'm safe enough, but I'm pretty sure ncal is carrying something frightening and possibly contagious.

(I actually had a moment contemplating stainless vs. stone. It was an interesting moment.)

Ahhh, Mayhem delete their post. They need an edit function on these forums.