How do YOU read a profile?

Hey Tramp. LinkdIn is not a swinger site (whistling)

Oh, ok. I think I’m familiar with the site you’re talking about. If it’s the one I think, you’ll get friend requests from people whom you’ve never spoken to...regularly.

“In the end, we have had parties where we have gotten to meet and play with more people in a single party then we have in whole years worth of online interactions.”

I don’t doubt that for a second.

This was actually on another LS site. If you click on a profile there it shows you who else they're friends with.

SLS is one of 3 sites I'm on, and probably the top one when it comes to actually meeting people. Even if I combined the people we've met online from all 3 sites together my statement about meeting and playing with more people at a single party versus online still holds true.

“I noticed we were one of those "Friends". ”

I’m curious, how did you notice that?

The more time I spend online the less likely I am to think I'm going to find people to actually meet, regardless of anything in the profile. I once had a person complain in their profile that although they had many in their Friends list, they haven't really actually met many people.

I noticed we were one of those "Friends". I sent them an email saying I saw in their profile that they wanted to actually meet people, and try as I might, we never did actually meet. I sent them a number of emails on potential dates we could get together and...crickets.

We have MANY revisions of our profile simply because writing comes easy to me. I have had a number of people comment positively about our profile as well. In the end, we have had parties where we have gotten to meet and play with more people in a single party then we have in whole years worth of online interactions.

While I agree that a good profile helps and there are some good tips here and there, for average people, limiting yourself to online meetings is VERY limiting, regardless of how good your profile is and/or how YOU read a profile.

First if a couple has only viewed us we really don't put much hope in any outcome. A lot of those who viewed us are 1000 miles or more so why bother, now those that are around 100 miles we then check their age (we like to stay within 7 years of ours), his height ( he has got to be taller then her) and if the wife insists on bi play ( my wife has no problem if the other woman is bi but girl/girl play is not for her). The biggest deciding point is if there is a picture of the guy or not. There doesn't have to be a face picture on the profile, a simple shot of the couple together goes a long way but if any e-mailing gets done there needs to be face pictures of him. To quote my wife " if he is not good looking enough for me to kiss him then I won't fuck him either". If we were to be flexible on anything it would probably be weight then age. Not being fit gym rates ourselves we are fine with those that are a little chubby and curvy though my wife does not like guys who are too skinny, she likes something to hold on to. Age can vary depending on looks. The biggest turn-off is when guys are trying to play with out their wives.

Good luck find swingers that are into full swap at any event or club anymore. We have found that real swingers are willing to meet without pics. Professionals like us simply can not post face pics nor can any teacher for example.

We let our certs do the talking instead of face pics.

Since I (he) is on here more often than she is, this is what I look for.

First, I check out "Who Viewed Me". I almost NEVER look at Profiles that have less than 10 pics.

A sexy default pic will get my attention. Boob or butt shot, covered or not, or a full chest pic of him.

Next I look at the pics. What does she REALLY look like. Then what does HE look like. I know what my wife likes, and no matter how hot SHE is, I need to know if HE is someone my wife would fuck. If not, I never bother reading the profile. If either of them are REALLY not what we are looking for, and I know we will never play, the profile gets blocked. It always sucks to keep stumbling on a profile that there is certainly no interest.

If the pics are good, I will read the profile.
First I check location.
Then I check for age, and their age preferences.
Then, here is where we loose many, I check to see if they allow smokers. Either way, I keep reading.
If they say they will NOT play with smokers, I stop reading there.
If they are local, and PREFER non smokers, but the profile is well written, and the pics are good, I may open our "other" pics to them, but not send a message.
If they are local, and OK with smokers, and we are interested, I will send a message, and attach a face pic.

However, there are very FEW couples that we actually meet through profiles. Its the same old story, the pics were 10 years old. The stats are 50 pounds off. They look great in pixels, but not so much in person. They can't carry on a conversation. They are looking for a relationship. DRAMA.

We have found that "in person" meets are the best. At a party, or "take over". Even in a vanilla place. You can usually pick out the swingers in the vanilla crowd. We have now found that we can even pick out the swingers, even before THEY know that they are swingers. The funny thing is, that has happened to us BEFORE we were in the LS. (2) couples on different occasions, tried to pick us up, and we weren't in the LS at that time. Looking back, we would have most likely fucked both couples, if we knew what they saw in us.

The profile pics are ten year and thirty pounds out of date to start. After that if they start adding things like must be fully shaved then they have never had sex with another couple.

A profile says that we love to fuck lets meet for a drink are our kind of people.

Silly question.... that is a star bellied sneech?

"Given that the LS is a rather powerful rejection of some powerful cultural norms and boundaries, we had expected people in the LS to be far more accepting of others, at least with regard to sexual preferences and exploration. Yes, we've met some absolutely wonderful people here, but we've encountered just as many star-bellied sneetches here as in the general population. We expected better, but--silly us--people are people are people in and out of the LS."

Right on. And given the thousands upon thousands of people on SLS, you'll encounter all kinds. Those that tend to have a more tolerant and accepting outlook in normal life are going to have that same attitude here. I don't think you can just turn it on or off for play.

We once met a local couple for drinks, and found during conversation that the male half was fairly intolerant on several issues. So we wouldn't spend vanilla time with them, and obviously didn't pursue any play time either. The profile can't tell you everything about a potential play partner.

Amen.

Tramp

re: :"Am I too cynical? "

You post a half dozen quotes and put a negative spin on each of them. Cynical? Nahhhh, that's just crazy talk...lol

If you go into something expecting the worst you usually find what you are looking for ;-)

Most every guy I've ever met who said he has "great oral skills" was below average in both size and skill!

I can't read the whole thread. Here's a brief guide:

"my husband is a master at oral" or "I'm very oral" or "I/we love long foreplay"

That means the man in question has a small cock and can't fuck to save his life.

"we are just looking to add to our already great sex life"

We're better than you slutty perverts.

"not looking to replace each other"

One of you is scared to death that the other one is doing exactly that.

single man profile:"I'm not trying to take your wife away from you"

If you felt the need to include that in your profile, then yes you fucking are.

"we only play same room because it's so hot to see the other having a good time"

And we want to be there to make sure they aren't having too much of a good time.

Am I too cynical? Been doing this for a few years. I bet others could add a lot more to that list.

We think paying for a membership is more of a commitment to participate than just being a free member. We don't discount free members because they are free members, but we talk Paid and Lifetime members more seriously.

I think Tavelers put it nicely regarding the essays. We think our profile is on the longer side, but we believe it's important for others to get a good intro to our interests. We put in the kind of information we would look for in profiles. It's nice to have a base of common interests before deciding to meet people.

We also agree with them regarding grammar and typos. The profile editor has a spell check feature. Grammatical and spelling errors suggest a laziness and lack of care in presenting yourselves that is a bit of a turn off. It may not be an indicator of what they are like in person, but on the other hand, it is well within their control and easily fixable.

Like Sorillo, we have also had some nice encounters with free members. Our biggest obstacle is usually the 5 email/day limit they have.
Though we do disqualify people as potential playmates from pictures, we do not need see more than 1 or 2 decent "g-rated" pictures for us to know if there is a physical attraction or not.

Someone else put it sort of nicely earlier. You either look at a profile trying to find a reason to say Yes, or No. We tend to fall in the "Yes" column. In general we try to look for the good in people and for us it's no different here.

Thread drift?? I'm thinking this gentleman may have to drift his thread over to Florida one of these days ;-)

BT

To add to the last gentleman's thoughts (sorry if this is thread drift), free members also cannot see any photos that were rated R or X.

I suspect that free members can only see 2 or 3 pix in our public gallery, which are purposely very generic.

To add to the last gentleman's thoughts, since you cannot open your private or personal galleries to free members, they're more likely to ask you to share your photos with them off the site, which should be a no no regardless of how you feel about the general security of your "locked" galleries. Lastly, I believe free members cannot accept certs. So, those who might use certs as part of their vetting process cannot do so.

BT

Not that they're fakes (although that's almost certainly more likely than a paid membership), but my view is that a free member is less serious about actually meeting, much less playing, than a paid member. Plus, the limited number of messages for a free membership really puts a damper on getting even the most basic idea if they're the type of folks I'd like to meet and play with.

Having said that, I have met free members and had pleasant interactions with them before. I do leave my profile open to free members (hey, us pudgy, middle-aged doofuses need all the help we can get ;) ), but I don't initiate contact. It's simply a matter of recognizing that the percentages are much better with paid members.

First, I do my best to keep free members blocked...when the site’s privacy options are working correctly anyway.

Second, we expect to see a few pictures of everybody in that profile who is wanting to meet or possibly get naked with us.

Third, we read profile and see if there is anything that sparks an interest.

Based on my experiences, I find that profiles that are long “boring” books full of various rules, prejudices and negative rhetoric usually belong to people that I don’t want to associate with at all, much less see naked.

Our own profile gets reworked regularly, depending on what we are looking for at that particular time {our gang bangs/group events VS singles/couples}.

Meeting other forum posters in the last few years has always been a delightful experience. Just don’t have the time to travel like I used to,

Mrs U

In response to the OP:

First of course, something has to bring a profile to our attention. Maybe it was a forum post, or a WVM, or they cert'ed someone else we are interested in, or an attractive picture in the Bliss cruise attendees, or ????

The first thing we look at is the main photo. Is it an attractive one of him, her, or both? No photos = no interest.

Next the profile name is a factor. YOUNGFITCOUPLE will almost undoubtedly not have an interest in us. We will not have an interest in STANKYPUSS or BETTERTHANURHUBBY either.

Next is the "flyover" function to determine age, HWP, location, and orientation. All good? proceed.

Next is checking out their photo gallery. I won't make a complete list of deal-breakers here, but there are many. Still good? Proceed to essays.

Length of essays are pertinent to us. If the extent of their essays is four 5 word sentences, then there might as well be none as there is no usable information. Occasionally you will see the other extreme where the essays read like "War and Peace" which gets old fast too. How long is "just right"? IDK, but I know it when I see it.

Now we get to the essay content. We are not exactly grammar Nazis and can overlook a typo or two, but if they don't have any comprehension of spelling, punctuation, and capitalization in general = deal breaker.

Lastly, we read the essays in detail. Do they sound like a couple or single we would like? Do we match what they are looking for? Do they have a 3 page rule book? Do they appear to fuck anything with a pulse? This list could be endless, but the simple fact is we are looking for compatibility and some mental stimulation.

I'm not sure how to weight each category but rather think of them as toll-gates. You must pass one to get to the next one, and good essays are usually the last toll gate.

Well written essays can overcome mediocre photos. Playboy bunny / Chippendale type photos cannot overcome dumbassery or low class.

I WAS indeed. City's coming along nicely. The architecture in that city is amazing.

34 degrees when I was there.

BT

A gentleman doesn't kiss and tell. He just smiles, and that always keeps'em guessing