"I don't wear jeans, but I also don't dress up particularly for first meetings. I strive for put together and well accessorized, the way I would for a regular meeting, but that often means leggings and boots."
And hopefully a shirt of some sort with those leggings and boots if you are meeting in a public place! ;-)
Ggmm,
Agreed. The lady leads and the guy is one step below. One step.
And we'd be very happy to see you show up in leggings. Any time.
I think jeans are great for a first meeting, maybe not so much for a club, but that depends on the theme and time of year and it can't be a big step down from whatever your wife is wearing. It's not quite to the level of pet peeve, but seeing women at a club who are beautifully dressed and have clearly spent time and effort getting ready accompanied by guys wearing Dockers and sneakers is kind of a head scratcher. Why? Do you not want to attract women in the way that your wife will attract men and possibly women?
I don't wear jeans, but I also don't dress up particularly for first meetings. I strive for put together and well accessorized, the way I would for a regular meeting, but that often means leggings and boots.
My go to is dark jeans, a nice, pressed, sporty (Robert Graham type or linen) long sleeve dress shirt, black cowboy boots or a nice pair of dress shoes. Shirt untucked, unless I’m dropping a sport coat over it.
I don’t think there’s a right or wrong answer per say, with the exception (unless you’re at a pool/outdoor venue) of no casual shorts, flip flops, or t-shirts.
BT
For a club or organized group M&G Tom wears dockers, dress shoes & dress shirt. If it's meeting a couple at a casual vanilla place, it's usually jeans & a polo or dress shirt. Sometimes we meet a couple at a nude beach & then it doesn't matter ;-)
There are khakis and other non-dress pants that look OK too. I personally do not like the look of most dress pants and believe most would likely prefer jeans/khakis to dress pants, except funerals, wedding and other formal occasions as already mentioned.
I also dislike the look of shorts at ANY time, but that's just me.
I almost never wear dress pants, and I'm _always_ in jeans for a meet and greet in the vanilla world.
Dress pants are for funerals and weddings.
I used to solely wear slacks or dress pants while going out doing M&G and/or clubs, but after a while of seeing a lot of people not giving two shits about their appearance only to arrive in flip flops, fishing shorts and a wife beater tanktop, jeans seem the creme de la creme. I say go for it.
~Allen
Nice jeans with an untucked button down is my go to when headed out. Never had an issue.
We've met couples where the guy was in shorts and a t shirt and still ended up with the clothes on the floor.
My normal "uniform" at work is a golf shirt, slacks, dress socks and dress shoes. My secretaries and I were talking the other day and said I should try jeans for once....so I did today. I wore my boot cut Calvin Klein jeans and an untucked blue/green/white checked button down with blue Nike's. And both of them are raving how great the look is compared to what I normally wear. I share that to say this... when going to clubs/dates with couples, I was under the impression it was inappropriate to wear jeans. They know we're in the LS and said that the look was 10x better than what I normally wear and that I should do it when meeting up with other couples.
So are jeans/untucked button downs ok to wear...or too informal for a club/date? The last club we went to advertised no jeans and there were tons of jeans, cargo shorts....we were seriously overdressed. But what is the general consensus on jeans in the LS?
Thanks!
