Dressing for success?

R&K, you couldn't have been too surprised when his place looked like a dump. In fact, I bet he didn't even shower before going out. Yuck!!!!

Think of it this way. If you were single, and you were going on a date, How would you dress? The difference in the lifestyle is you might get laid on the first date. So, work your image to get the best results. Dress for Success.

I have never worn jeans to a planned lifestyle anything. Even when we host a 4 couple party in a hotel room.

Now, if we are going to a biker bar. I might wear jeans. If we happen to meet a swing couple or unicorn, that would not be part of the plan. But jeans would be appropriate at that venue. Bottom line, if she is wearing jeans, he CAN.

Our opinion is that if she put effort into her dress, he better put some into his.

We have met couples that she is dressed nice and sexy, he isnt. Well the club was big enough that we were dancing with each others spouses. As the night wore on, his wife and I were all over each other. Well, my wife ended up all over some hot dressed single guy. He was not impressed, and told his wife they needed to go. She was pissed, and replied, Go get me a drink. After another 30 minutes of it s making out on the dance floor she said, I better get going. He looks pissed. I thanked them both for a great evening, as my wife was hot and heavy with single guy.

Don't be boring married guy. Be hot dressed single guy.

RonKathy- We both want to make great first impressions. Just trying to gauge what to wear. Earlier replies and from other threads and conversations with members did not seem overly fond of the slacks/golf shirt getup I'm sporting in our public pics. But like you say, what works for one might not work for all. At the end of the day I think we need to do some shopping/trying on to see what works.

Thanks

RonKathy and 4_real_couple- Seems like you're saying jeans are a no-no. We understand that the venue can help to dictate attire. But would you say that for a first meeting, nice jeans/button-down is just not appropriate? Thanks

At least you wouldn't be surprised what you saw in my closet..LOL

I always dress just slight below her level. Golf pants, polo shirt, and boat shoes is about as casual as I go. She is big on first impressions. If the lady is dressed real nice, and he put no effort into his attire, she will pass.

Baggy jeans flatter no man ever. FYI. ;-)

Jeans: Athletic or slim fit jeans flatter me best. The boss agrees, they're waaaaay better than the baggier jeans I prefer to wear to work.

Well good luck, I think one of the issues with men and jeans is that they get the baggy ‘dad’ jeans. If the jeans are fitted they make everything look good, even an Affliction T-shirt LOL....

BT: I wish I had a steinmart close by... but I do have an overfilled closet with some great shirts that I have gotten at Burlington, Marshall’s and TJ Maxx and I get many a compliment when I wear them. I just need to add more Graham like prints on there.

Thanks for the replies!! Based on the compliments I got last week when I wore the jeans/button-down to work and from what ya'll are sharing here...I think that is going to be the base of what I'll wear when we do find a couple to meet up with. I need to go try on jeans though because I was told I'd benefit from more form fitting but not skin tight. The few pair I have are slightly baggy. Plus I want to find a button-down or two that'll really pop and look great both against the jeans/shoes and my complexion (I'm Greek, Italian, and Irish....so awesome tan in the Summer and less tan in the colder months). On shoes, I'm thinking black casual/dress (as seen in our profile) rather than the blue Nike. But I'm not opposed to other suggestions.

Thanks!

Fokker, I agree... Steinmart to the rescue!! Just none of that damn Affliction shit...No crosses...No skulls...

Not faulting or judging anyone who goes that route. Only speaking for myself. I just know that in my neighborhood, they’d beat me up for wearing that, but on you, I’m sure it looks good...

BT

OT: My go to style is nice jeans and a button down shirt for work. Going out I tend to go with jeans and usually a button down shirt with some sort of contrasting cuff. I don’t wear ‘dad’ jeans, usually it’s a nice cut and color. I do like to wear a tuxedo style jacket over the shirt.

BT: I love Robert Graham, love his shirt patterns. Not a fan of the cost, but if you look good enough you can find his shirts at decent thrift stores. I just feel that his stuff cry’s out LS.. lol

Foreverfun,

I almost deleted my last comment. I’m glad that you took it in the spirit that it was given; just poking some friendly fun at ya.

By the way, my wife often sends me back in the house to change. She doesn’t even have to say much, just looks me up and down, and gives me that look. .

Okay here is a little "old southern wisdom" when it comes to how to dress. Simply put you dress for the event. It is kind of odd to go to a pool party in a dress suit or wear a bathing suit to a funeral. I do need to add I have seen it all and even had to give the father of the bride my dress shoes to wear along with his stained work coveralls to walk her down the aisle (he was barefoot). Thankfully I had some sneakers in my truck but I digress. On a "date" what are you doing and where are you going? Is it coffee at Starbucks (or wherever), beers at the local biker bar, or a ties and jackets required dinner? As far as what to wear to the club it depends on the club (assuming there is no "theme" night) and well to a point time of year. At the clubs (lifestyle) we have been to and currently go to we have seen a about as wide a range of dress or undress as the people in attendance be they women or men. While some are dressed less than impressive (jeans and t-shirt) the majority are dressed nice (slacks or pants but not suits and button up shirt or a dress for the women some wear a nice top and leggings though). Then you have the occasional dressed for public yet get in the door and they strip off the outer layer or even change and reveal something rather too risque to wear in public. Getting to myself or rather the wife and I and what we wear to the club unless there is a theme I usually wear a button up shirt and nice (not dress) pants or shorts (yes shorts read on to find out why) and the wife usually wears a simple dress with one or all of the following features: lower cut, more form fitting, and/or shorter than she would wear out normally. I see a lot of "no shorts" being mentioned yet summer here in the south can have a heat index at night of 100 degrees. Wear jeans at your own risk of passing out however lightweight pants will work sometimes and look better than cargo shorts. Keep in mind though there are cargo shorts and then there are more "dressy" shorts out there that when paired with a button up shirt look rather nice. Thankfully the clubs we have been to plan "themes" with the summer heat in mind like the beach, tropical, luau, and our favorite with the club we currently attend every summer party is a pool party as they have one and a nice hot tub among other things. In fact we start out with our swimsuits (wife has a thong bikini) and then later in the evening I change to the aforementioned shorts and shirt and she wears a dress or just her cover up without the bikini. Frequently the bikini was removed earlier anyway or at least the top was as happens with quite a few of the women in attendance as the party progresses.

Of course a man should never outdo the woman on his arm nor should he be under dressed in regards to what she chooses to wear. I can't tell you how many times I have had to change due to my wife suddenly deciding to wear a dress to go out to dinner on a whim (just us). Honestly us guys should listen to the women in our lives when it comes to how we dress because if nothing else we need to keep them happy. That being said your secretaries have never seen you in jeans and they likely were "impressed" with the change more than the actual look. They are seeing you outside the "normal" context they see you in thus it makes you stand out to them. I'm not saying you did not look good but these are people used to seeing you every day a certain way and you threw them a curve. it may not have the same effect on people you are first meeting.

Hotluvrs- that made us laugh about being sent home to change. I've been thinking the same lately. Need to lose the office wear for the LS. Greatly appreciate the honesty!!

Foreverfun,

For a first date, nice jeans and a buttoned shirt are good. I’d lose the Nike’s.

Also, your profile pic shows you wearing khakis and a tucked in shirt. If you wore that to a first date with us, my wife says that she’d send you home to change. :-)

So much depends on which part of the country you are in. South Florida, Miami area club- dress slacks, nice shirt. FunBoomers warehouse party in Kentucky- sneakers, jeans and a t-shirt.

Personally, I’d rather be slightly over dressed.

The OP asked about a club or a date. Our issue for tonight is a house party. Women often want to show off a bit (god bless ‘em), and may need a little extra time to figure out the just the right look. Most of the people at this party have not played together, so it’s appreciated if folks dress up just a tad.

....hop Awesome edit function we have here.

Hot tubs....too soon for us. :( Two mondays ago we were all set to pull the trigger on one. A call from my roofer later and we needed a new roof to the tune of $10k. So yeah, no hot tub for now. We'd gladly hot in someone else though!!! Both neighbors have pools but not a hot tub between them.

I think Chez is related to Phoebert!

The kids always wanted to get him cologne for Christmas and I'd have to remind them - he doesn't wear cologne, he just smells of spray starch and hair spray! Part of what initially caught my eye (he lived next door) was that he looked as good coming home at 8pm as he looked leaving at 7am - so the starch & hair spray did their job! Unless I toss on a dress he usually looks better than I do when we go somewhere.

Ah, a hot tub. That's quite the inducement. Maybe before April then. ;-)

Jeans can work but it depends
on the jeans.

If I go with jeans, it's a classic slim fit brand, complemented with a nice fitted dress shirt. If going clubbing it's usually dark dress slacks. BTW always press the dress shirt. I'm a little ocd when it comes to pressed dress shirts and been know to carry a can of spray starch in my luggage bag... seriously I have a witness who can attest to this ... just sayin'.

No leggings required in our hot tub. Just saying.

I always make a better impression if I leave the shirt at home... (Joking. Unless it's over 70 degrees, I'm likely wearing a shirt and a sweater, maybe a jacket too.)

Looking up flights to the East Coast now. ;-)