We have had a few profiles that say blocked us when we tried viewing them. Profiles who we never viewed even . Its their choice to do for what ever reason. What gets us messages people send expressing interest which we always answer . But when we tell somebody its not good match or not interested and then they block us for doing so that's very child like . We feel its their lost and just move on.
It really dont have to be a reason of why someone get blocked, I even got the same thing from different people even if I didnt do anything wrong. Maybe they dont want you to view there profile anymore , some people get in there feelings of why they got blocked by someone as well. Just accept of what it is, I dont let it bother me because I am cool with it.
I even got blocked by 2 women I had a normal conversation with today, they had got very sensitive because I asked a question and it wasnt anything sexual either but it happens.
We use the Block feature mostly to avoid contact with people we aren't interested in playing with. And we know that we have been blocked for the same reason.
Plus there are the rude and crude assholes that contact us ,they get blocked too
Someone being shallow or selfish in the context of hedonistic pursuits is to be expected.
"I find people that use the block feature just to sort who they are interested in usually are very shallow."
You do you, but the chief problem with assigning meaning to why people do things is that you're quite likely to be wrong. If I do A, it doesn't mean that the next person who does A does so for the same reason. In fact, it's quite likely that a hundred people will have to do A before there's an exact repeat on my reason for doing so.
I know of at least one couple who used the block function because they didn't realize what Notes were for and just didn't want to bother people they didn't think would be interested in them.
So, your tactic is to make someone else's use of a common privacy feature on social and dating sites about you. And you wonder why someone would block you.
LMFAO
There is always a reason someone blocks another couple/person. Doesn't mean they're shallow or selfish. Could mean they recognize one or both parties from work, kid's school or as part of the community and they wish to not get involved with people they know. Some people may look at photos and see clutter, trash and a floor that looks like it hasn't been mopped or vacuumed in years. Or they see that photos look nothing alike so they just nope out and block to avoid a possible awkward situation if the party contacts them.
We've blocked for all these reasons and many more.
People who are a pain in the ass, multiple IM;s with out reading profile, argue on forums all day and night, and just jerks are BLOCKED and yes call us shallow !
Its our journey not yours and we have been swingers going on 30 years !
Yep Merry Xmas and Happy New Years says the shallow people!
I find people that use the block feature just to sort who they are interested in usually are very shallow. They're probably doing me a favor. I'm cool with people not being interested in us but using block says you're a very selfish person.
Could depend on what your answer was. When we send a message and they say not interested, we normally block them after. We don't want to bother looking at their profile again.
To tell you the truth sometimes its an accident. I blocked a couple people had no idea I had. Sometimes when i go to save I hit wrong button.
The same happened to us as well. We’re still getting used to navigating the site and I think that’s what the problem was. Our info was not updated properly.
we were told we were blocked "by accident" once, but pretty sure it was no accident
Yeah, that's how it works. If you know someone on the site well enough to ask them to work as an intermediary you might be able to get them to assist, but you're otherwise screwed.
So.....you block someone by accident. It creates a reciprocal block. When you realize it was a mistake and unblock them, they have to unblock you. But you can't message them and explain it was a mistake and ask them to unblock you because, you know, you're blocked. You can't access their profile to send them mail or an IM.
When one party blocks another, the block is automatically "mutual". So, both parties need to unblock in order for the block to disappear.
That's the story with blocking individual profiles.
There's also the scenario where you or they block a category of member; Say you're only interested in Couples. If so, you click on your preferences under the Tools tab and "block" all SFs or all SMs... In this scenario, no one from the blocked member category would be able to click on and see your profile... theoretically. I say theoretically because of the many glitches the site has from time to time.
Good luck and have fun,
BT
When you block someone or they block you, it's a reciprocal block. If I blocked you now, I would show up on your blocked list as well, even though you didn't block me.
I'm seeing messages sometimes that say that I have blocked someone. But I've never blocked anyone! when I unblock them from the Friends page, that seems to work, only to find that I've been blocked by them as well. I don't get it. I've never blocked anyone.
Done. You're welcome.
~Allen
Thanks so much for the info and help. ;)
@JJL: Do you remember their username? If so, shoot us an email and we will be more than happy to drop them a notice for you.
On a side note, we are hosting an outdoor pool closing event soon and sent a specific new couple to the LS an invite. They replied, explaining of being allergic to smoke and declined. Being what we thought was courteous, we sent them a thank you note and friendly reminder this was an outdoor event with plenty of open space and a majority of attendees were non-smokers and a great new way to meet others should they change their mind, just let us know and we will put them on the list, then best wishes to them...……….
They blocked us. :-/
~Allen
I am blocked by so many on SLS because I am a Trump supporter. Like all Liberals they can't debate, they just RUN AWAY and hide.
JJL,
They didn't block you. The creates a 2 way block when you block someone. That way they don't see your stuff and you don't see theirs. They probably have no idea you're blocked to them. No other way to contact them?
Just putting it out there. We are very new to this site and the lifestyle. And being quasi familiar with how to use the site, I accidentally blocked a very sweet couple about a month ago. (This likely happened falling asleep while holding my phone...) Through getting used to the website, I found the function for blocking , realizing what I did , I quickly unblocked them. Unfortunately they blocked us in return and there is no way to apologize at this point.
I see the benefit of having the block option but it should be used wisely. But keep in mind there are clumsy people out there like myself as well.
We will block a profile for a few reasons. Mostly because why have a profile show up in a search that you have no intention of communicating with?
If they are certainly NOT our type. It is shallow, but if there is NO physical attraction in pics, then we would have no interest in
meeting them. Why would we want to communicate with them?
If we met them in person at a party, and we knew we would never play with them, we may block them.
If we initiate contact, send Email, and they never respond (after a month or so), we might block them. This is harder to track since we rarely go through our sent Email folder. Although, there were a few profiles that we could see in "Who Viewed Us", and we saw there was Email history, and then we see that they never responded.
If they are a single male, and they don't understand NO. We will block them
