Best Advice for Combating Flakiness

Ymichael14Veteran
North Branford, CT, Us

I would love to go to meet and greets and make real contacts. Or a house party. But in the four years I have been on this site I have never seen a meet and greet or house party even remotely close to me. Sure, I could drive for 4 hours, but I doubt anyone 4 hours away from me would be interested.
So, I keep reading the forums and hope someone else had the same problem and found some other way to meet people.
But, I do agree. Meeting in person is so much better.

mayhem8Veteran
Auburn, NH, Us

I've been saying for a while now that it is far more productive to attend LS events/parties than it is to try and meet people online. It's not that you can't meet people online, but it requires a LOT more patience and effort than people realize.

While some can go to an event just to "party", many will be more likely to feel that the time and effort to do so is only worth it if they actually get to meet people they can play with. All of the nit-picky profile requirements usually don't even come into play at a party. That's especially true of the ones that are off SLS's radar, meaning there is no visible RSVP list for one to check out.

For SLS sponsored events flakiness can still happen. I've seen people signed up for 2 diiferent parties at the same time/date, and it's possible that they are actually attending neither because in some cases they are 100+ miles away from either party. I've also had people respond to a play date and then see them signed up for a party for the same night.

None of this matters if you're a regular at one or more parties because you are already meeting and playing with people so anything that happens from online interactions is just icing on the cake. Even better is if you can take this to the next level and hold your own LS parties.

6zcoupleRegular
Leesburg, VA, Us

Best advice for cutting through the usual flakiness BS is pretty simple: Go to meet and greets and make contacts real. the downside to talking online is that there is nothing invested beyond the energy of typing. If we set up more meet and greets or house parties, then there is a level of commitment that cannot be ignored. You can't hide and you will also see that the other couples are human as well. This will always change the dynamic to be more realistic. You will see interest or disinterest and have your closure.

Thoughts?