Age and Weight honesty

@goodgollymsmolly98226 - It would be pointless to ask someone at a party their age or weight because we SEE them. A profile's their representative slice of what they choose to share and should be reality-based. The larger point I'm trying to make about honesty is that if someone lies in their profile about their weight (or anything else), why should they be trusted about anything else in their profile? You know, the "discrection", "DDF", marital status, etc... parts. Opening with a lie is just wrong. They set the wrong expectations and that leads to problems.

Exactly Sorillo.. play on!

"Honesty & trust are even more important..."

Here's what always comes up for me when this topic gets recycled (and, no, my age is not correct): When's the last time you asked people you met at a club or party how much they weighed or how old they were? If those are considerations and you must have honest responses in order to establish trust, I hope your answer is that you always ask people at parties and clubs.

Speaking only for myself, my stats are pretty accurate, age right on and weight within the normal 5-10 lb fluctuations of real people. Not because I'm some paragon of virtue and honesty, but because keeping the lies consistent is REALLY difficult, and will almost always get you caught. I don't need any help looking like an ass, I do just fine on that score.

Besides, I'm at the point in my life where I simply don't care what anyone thinks of me. I'll be attractive to some, repellent to others and there isn't a damned thing I can do to make myself attractive to everyone. So I try to work on myself enough to where I'm comfortable in who I am, and if that's attractive to others, great. I've found that this approach is really good for me, and makes me a happier person.

Honesty & trust are even more important in the lifestyle than in the online dating world. Why anyone would blatantly lie to meet others is beyond puzzling.

Listed in our profile under "Turn Ons" is "Your pics are within 10 pounds & 5 years of your stated stats" which we paraphrased from someone else's profile (with permission!). We're comfortable with those parameters and it also gives latitude to those who don't keep their profile up to date.

Lack of honesty on these points are the primary reasons we prefer to meet people at hotel parties or clubs on busy nights. Lots of people there so if the other couple doesn't show or are way off from what they advertised to be, we can wish them well and tactfully spin in a new direction.

We've met couples who claimed to be 55 who were actually pushing 70 and barely able to get around. And when you see a profile where there are only pictures of one of them or their weight is listed at 0lbs, that's a red flag too. We do like profiles with certs because they have invested in building a nice/good reputation and are less likely to do something rude/mean/stupid to mess it up in the community. Happy hunting :)

Do people actually tell their true weight and age ? If not how much would you " shave off ?" I have looked at hundreds of profiles and photos. I know for a fact that many people are not honest about this, How do I know? Well common sense and experience in my past profession. We have played with people that are 70s and brag, that they are like ten years younger than us.. WHAT ????